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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

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  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  I think I know why they are now interested in getting to know me better and encouraging me. I fipped the calendar over to March the other day and saw where my wife had noted the upcoming memorial at the end of the month. That will probably be the next battle: are you going this year or not?
  
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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  @DOC: I thought about it a long time and worked hard to make it as short as possible. What you posted is great but I did not want to give them room for a response.
  
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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  I agree OTWO. What can they say in reply?
  
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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  that would be nice scratchme1010, but as my wife is still fully active, I will just have to continue to develop my deflecting skills.
  
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  CO working at Walmart

  by the girl next door in

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  it just took me by surprise.

  i remember him from a decade or so ago.

  he came up with gems like, “weddings are for women, they are not necessary.” also, “if you want to be truly happy, marry an ugly woman.”.

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  It is very sad to see so many wasted lives. I know of a younger guy here in Poland who got degreed in Mechanical Engineering (I think HVAC) got a good job in Denmark, married a Danish girl (JW of course), spent a few years there in what has to be one of the best countries on the planet - and then he decided to move back to Poland to pioneer where the need is great. Of course he got a huge amount of brownie points for this - but he had it made!

  So sad.
  
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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  @Giordano: probably accurate in some cases, but to be honest I have with a few exceptions, had a mostly good experience in the congregations I was a part of over 30 years as a JW. I guess I was lucky (can I say that?). But, it just wasn't 'the truth'. My mistake. I just want to spend whatever time I have left (not much) doing things that I want to do (or not do).
  
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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  I hear you 'neat blue dog' but I'm not trying to hide. My big advantage is I have no other family members who are JW's other than my wife, so they have no leverage on me.
  
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  Oh Boy! Beards are "stumbling blocks" again ... from Stephen Lett

  by freddo in

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  so this week's midweek meeting video about stumbling others has lett spouting and gurning rubbish again.. if you can't take the whole 9 minutes go from 5:50 to get the context and 6:45 for the "beard" mention.. https://youtu.be/ezv1ici5cwo.

  oh, well - at least they shoot themselves in the foot with this doublespeak.

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  Good point Sour Grapes.
  
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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  yes ToesUp and The Fall Guy - I think that is some of the best advice I have seen dished out here. Be polite, blow them off, get on with your life. My wife is a very liberal JW, so I think if they start to pump her too hard for info, she will simply tell them to back off. She is all in still, but it is mostly a social thing for her. She openly disagrees with many policies, for example shunning.
  
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  Thanks, but no thanks!

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  that was essentially my reply to a recent sms i got from the elder of the group i am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better.

  my wife has been attending english language meetings in warsaw for the last year or so (i have never been) and i think they are getting antsy about where i stand.

  i've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.. at one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard i 'had been' a jw for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org.

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  FadeToBlack

  That was essentially my reply to a recent SMS I got from the elder of the group I am supposed to be in, requesting a visit to encourage me and get to know me better. My wife has been attending English language meetings in Warsaw for the last year or so (I have never been) and I think they are getting antsy about where I stand. I've met many of them at events my wife hosted at our house, but so far nobody has pressed me on the issue of my inactivity.

  At one of the events, an elder mentioned that he'd heard I 'had been' a JW for many years and he was curious what first attracted me to the org. I spouted some nonsense about the wonderful caring people I had met and then went back to my duties at the grill. I have not DA'd because I didn't want to make things anymore difficult for my wife - she enjoys having 'the friends' over for social occasions and I doubt that would happen if I was an official apostate. I told her it would be better if they just viewed me as spiritually weak.

  I also added in my brief reply, that I would call him if and when I felt the need for such a visit.