I didn't see parts 1 and 2, but from listening to part 3, I see what the problem is. You , are trying to be reasonable while staying inside the guidelines of the WTS. The elders and whoever else are involved are not equipped to deal with it, so they seek the easy way out.
That means, getting the more compliant, less bothersome party to agree to give it up (of course for JHVH's name because apparently he can't take care of himself). They can't handle the sociopaths, so they take the easy route. I've been thru this a few times myself. At the moment, my wife is dealing with this in her congregation where some (4) families bought some property but one of them is trying to get it all for himself. It has caused a civil war in the congregation with everyone taking ill-informed sides.
She said the WT study has turned into a battle ground where everyone is making comments, trying to apply the information to their point of view. I warned her about getting called into the back room, but she doesn't care.
Do what is right and let the cards fall where they will. Good luck.