Posts by safe4kids

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Antwone Fisher

by teejay in

all i can say -- and i don't say this often -- is four (out of four) stars.. two thumbs up.. a ten.. one of the all-time best movies i've ever seen.

period.

.

safe4kids

Fisher was a GREAT movie. I promised myself I wouldn't cry but I'm afraid that the poem he wrote got to me, so another broken promise ~sigh~

But oh my goodness, Denzel is HOT!!!! *swoon*

Dana

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Happy, Happy Birthday, Had Enough!

by ozziepost in

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dear had enough,

happy birthday to you,

safe4kids

(((((Had Enough)))) One of my favorite people! A very Happy (and belated, sorry) Birthday to you my dear friend. Still holding at 39, eh?

Love,

Dana

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Reminders of an abuser

by Lady Lee in

reminders of an abuser

forty years later.

you reach out from the grave.

safe4kids

I'm ROFL Lee

No, my point was that "I" was being slightly melodramatic Not you...never you.

Dana

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Reminders of an abuser

by Lady Lee in

reminders of an abuser

forty years later.

you reach out from the grave.

safe4kids

BTW Lee, I've sent you a PM...let me know if you don't recieve it, ok?

Dana

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Reminders of an abuser

by Lady Lee in

reminders of an abuser

forty years later.

you reach out from the grave.

(((((Lee)))) Ya know something? I'd probably really enjoy hearing your first post...ya know, the one that was funny? Personally, I think that a sense of humor has saved my life on more than one occasion...what say you? BTW...you will soon have a PM, assuming they're working again. You are one person that I feel I MUST talk to; we survivors gotta stick together, hey?

With real warmth and love,

Dana

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Reminders of an abuser

by Lady Lee in

reminders of an abuser

forty years later.

you reach out from the grave.

safe4kids

((((((((Lee))))))) Words fail me when I need them the most, as at this time. But if I may borrow Waiting's words:

I can't imagine you not learning to accomodate anything in your life. You just seem like that kinda person.
waiting

You are such an incredibly strong individual and, if I may be so bold and slightly melodramatic, an example for us all. If I had a clue what to say to you, I'd send you an email but it seems that this must suffice for now. You are in my thoughts.

Love,

Dana

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Loved & Lost?

by StinkyPantz in

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do you agree with this quote?

"'tis better to have loved and lost.

than never to have loved at all.

safe4kids

(((Lee))) Have I told you lately how much respect I have for you? No? I apologize as that's truly an oversight on my part.

I can't say that I'm still "hurting" over the loss...it's just that I remember the pain and that prevents me from allowing myself to be so vulnerable again. I've only truly loved two men in my life...one was my husband, the other my soul mate, as you described. And while I have accepted the loss and have moved on, I don't forget the pain of it and it makes me very cautious. I applaud your courage and your willingness to open up again and I also do not wish you to be alone. You so don't deserve that. I can relate however to your statement that you'd rather be alone than with the wrong person. That is EXACTLY how I feel and I've come to the conclusion that while my standards may be high, I am unwilling to lower them and 'settle'. There is so much more to life than just settling and I must say that all things considered, I still enjoy the ride and hey, it sure beats the alternative!

Love,

Dana

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Loved & Lost?

by StinkyPantz in

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friends

do you agree with this quote?

"'tis better to have loved and lost.

than never to have loved at all.

safe4kids

Ahhh Dickens...one of my favorites, altho I'm not sure he knew what the heck he was talking about. Lady Lee, you said:

You know I have loved and lost. We were best friends and soul mates. We could discuss everything and I mean everything - no stone was left unturned. We laughed and cried together. We explored the world around us and learned so much from each other. It was a rebirth for me. I still love him and always will. But it wasn't meant to last and I can accept that. But I still miss him

Been there, done that and all I can say is the jury is still out as to whether or not it was worth it. I don't ever want to go through that kind of pain again. Yes, the memories are wonderful but the loss almost killed me (at least, it felt like it! )

That's in reference to a romantic love...as for other kinds of love, well I can totally relate to the idea that loving and being loved is a wonderful gift and enhances our lives in so many ways. The love of and for my children; the love of and for my sister, my nephews, my friends...I wouldn't trade that for anything, no matter how much pain might arise from it on occasion.

Dana

P.S. Sixy, dude you so funny

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Sometimes, it just ain't any fun...

by safe4kids in

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i took my kids on a vacation to disney world...their dream vacation, actually, although it didn't turn out that way.

midway through we get a call that their grandmother (the real one, who was never a dub and who hasn't ever turned her back on the kids or on me even thru my divorce from her son, unlike my own jw mother) is in serious condition at the hospital.

we spent one of our 'vacation' days sitting in a hospital icu waiting room, timing our 15 minute visits so that we could see her, and throughout it all the kids were troopers.

safe4kids

Hi (((Jack))) Thanks, we're doing ok right now. It's pretty much one day at a time.

(((Katie))), I'm so sorry to hear that you weren't able to be with your grandmother when you truly wanted to be...that must have been very hard on you. We're doing our best to make sure Jo has company, although it's not as much or as often as we'd like. Thank you for thinking of us.

Hey ((((Rachelle))), You at a loss for words?? And I had thought that was impossible I know you're there for me, thank you so much sweetie. Love ya lots

Special K, thank you for your post. Your son sounds a very compassionate young man. You're right about each child grieving in individual ways and I appreciate the insight. I'm trying not to let myself worry too much but it's not something that we've had to deal with before, so I'm learning as I go along.

(((Jes))) We're doing pretty good under the circumstances. The kids go back to school the day after tomorrow, so they've got other things to dwell on which is a good thing I think.

Thanks again to everyone for their responses and support. I'm sorry to take so long answering and also apologize if I don't make a lot of sense; it's been a long day and I think my brain shut down about an hour or so ago

Love,

Dana

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Sometimes, it just ain't any fun...

by safe4kids in

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i took my kids on a vacation to disney world...their dream vacation, actually, although it didn't turn out that way.

midway through we get a call that their grandmother (the real one, who was never a dub and who hasn't ever turned her back on the kids or on me even thru my divorce from her son, unlike my own jw mother) is in serious condition at the hospital.

we spent one of our 'vacation' days sitting in a hospital icu waiting room, timing our 15 minute visits so that we could see her, and throughout it all the kids were troopers.

safe4kids

Hey (((Rocket)))

Thank you for your response. You'd think I'd be used to the twists and turns by now, but they still seem to catch me by surprise every time. I hope all is well with you and yours.

Hi Pat,

I am very glad that I and the kids' dad are able to help them deal with this situation. Although Bill and I have been divorced for several years, fortunately we're pretty close friends and the kids are our priority, so we've had quite a few discussions about what they need from us. I can only hope that, as you and Waiting said, this will provide them with the tools they need to cope later in life. I LOVE what you said:

Three, is a saying I've always loved about having a slightly different view of endings in life: don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened. Life sure is bittersweet isn't it?

Life can be very bittersweet at times but so often some postives can be pulled out of a negative and/or painful situation. We are trying to hold onto the smiles.

Hi dancn,

Wow, what a great post! Thank you so much for sharing some of what you've experienced. Please accept my belated condolences on the loss of your mother and sister; that must have been extremely painful for you. I know that it would kill me to lose my sister. You made some excellent points in your post, one of which was the guilt factor with the kids. The LAST thing I want my children to feel is guilt over their feelings about visiting their grandmother, so we've talked often about that and how hard it is sometimes to see someone we love going through what Gramma Jo is dealing with. We only found out last week that she has a terminal illness, so we're currently trying to adjust to the situation. She was moved into a Hospice center yesterday but we don't know exactly how things will proceed from there as we've been told we could lose her at any time or it could be months.

I am so glad that you sought counseling for your children; it sounds like you are a great mom and I hope that they are both well on the road to recovery. Again, thank you for sharing...your post really touched my heart.

(((Steve)))

Wow again, I don't know what to say, except that I am so glad to know you and Joy and I hope you both know I feel the same about you guys. As frustrated and even hurt as I sometimes get over online 'life', I have to appreciate that this board has brought me some wonderful friends and you and Joy are at the top of the list. Thank you both so much for all of the encouragement and support you've shown my little family. I'm really looking forward to seeing y'all again in the fall.

Love, Dana