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  Copping Out?

  by IslandWoman in

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  are we copping out if we blame the watchtower for almost everything that went wrong in our watchtower life?.

  most of us knew the rules.

  most of us had the opportunity to read and study their publications and the bible.

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  Heaven,

  Ahhh, sorry if my post sounded as though I thought people shouldn't talk about the wrongs the WTS commits. That wasn't my point at all. I agree with you; I was merely responding to IW's point that, at some point, a person needs to move forward.

  Again, it's like an abuser: a victim works thru their issues, develops a healthy psychological/emotional life, but that doesn't mean they don't call the abuser on what was done to them. AND cautions any who are close to the abuser about the type of person they are.

  Obviously, I still share with others my experiences as a JW, else I wouldn't be so darn addicted to this forum! I'm glad to hear that you are living a happy life and that you've been able to move thru the wrongs you suffered.

  Hope that's a little more clear.

  Dana
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  Copping Out?

  by IslandWoman in

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  are we copping out if we blame the watchtower for almost everything that went wrong in our watchtower life?.

  most of us knew the rules.

  most of us had the opportunity to read and study their publications and the bible.

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  This is much like an abuse survivor starting to deal with the damage inflicted on them, imo. When a person first begins dealing with what happened, it's common to blame their abuser for everything that is wrong in their lives. Part of the process of letting go of self-blame and realizing they were a victim. Where I agree with your point IW, is that there comes a time when the victim must relinquish their victimhood, realize that they are now capable of making and owning their decisions, and take responsibility for their lives. Again, tho, this is a process and the length of it is different for each individual.

  Just my two,

  Dana
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  Funny Shunning....

  by Scully in

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  we were shopping yesterday when i noticed a jw woman from our old congregation in one of the aisles.

  normally i would go up and say hello, because i'm neither dfd or dad, but we were in a bit of a hurry, and i didn't want to spend much time in frivolous small talk.

  a little background on her: when we knew her she was a pioneer, and could very well still be one; her mother is a pioneer; her twin sister is a pioneer, etc.... you get the idea.

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  How strange for them to treat you that way when you're still *in*, lv4fer.

  Sorry you had such an uncomfortable experience; it couldn't have been fun. Yet another sterling example of "christian love". What really gripes me is that children are treated so unlovingly even when it's the parents that the other jws are targeting for their special brand of tough love!!! GRRRRRR!

  Dana
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  More about me - my favorite subject

  by Aunty in

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  since everyone gave me a warm welcome i'll go ahead and tell you my whole story.

  as i said before, i was raised in the truth in central ohio.

  regular pioneered starting in senior year of high school (should have studied more instead...)for about 3 years, then decided to quit because i had a falling out with my best friend at the time and she and half her family were pioneering.

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  Hi again Aunty,

  Thanks for sharing a part of your story with us. You're quite fortunate to be out so young! All the years you *haven't* wasted, good for you.

  Your mention of your family sounds like my mom. She's in her 60s now and I really believe that without the organization, she'd be bereft. The only family member that is out with me is my sister, who also posts here on the board. The rest of the family think we're pretty evil!

  Anyway, glad you're here.

  Dana
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  Here Freddy My Cat

  by jessicacat in

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  freddy poo,.

  you have been a bad cat all weekend long.

  so, come to jessica so she can give you an old fashioned spanking.

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  No, no, no. C'mon now...so Freddybaby likes to play with himself. Ok, so it's a little weird but it's harmless. Besides, we can't have the forum without Freddy! He's kinda like the mascot!

  Dana
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  Funny Shunning....

  by Scully in

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  we were shopping yesterday when i noticed a jw woman from our old congregation in one of the aisles.

  normally i would go up and say hello, because i'm neither dfd or dad, but we were in a bit of a hurry, and i didn't want to spend much time in frivolous small talk.

  a little background on her: when we knew her she was a pioneer, and could very well still be one; her mother is a pioneer; her twin sister is a pioneer, etc.... you get the idea.

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  Scully,

  Yes we have that nasty tasting lemon diet coke stuff! Seriously, I *DON'T* like that stuff; however, I have been known to squeeze fresh lemons into my diet coke "Hahahaaaaaa...I LIKE IT!!!"(What movie did Chevy Chase say that line in?? Anyone know?)

  Dana
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  Funny Shunning....

  by Scully in

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  we were shopping yesterday when i noticed a jw woman from our old congregation in one of the aisles.

  normally i would go up and say hello, because i'm neither dfd or dad, but we were in a bit of a hurry, and i didn't want to spend much time in frivolous small talk.

  a little background on her: when we knew her she was a pioneer, and could very well still be one; her mother is a pioneer; her twin sister is a pioneer, etc.... you get the idea.

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  Hey Scully,

  You noticed! I've been keeping an eye on my posts. I'm not sure that I'm really cut out for the dark side. I'm the "diet-coke of evil"

  But hey, a person can change, can't they?? Huh...bring on that light sabre baby!

  Dana
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  Funny Shunning....

  by Scully in

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  we were shopping yesterday when i noticed a jw woman from our old congregation in one of the aisles.

  normally i would go up and say hello, because i'm neither dfd or dad, but we were in a bit of a hurry, and i didn't want to spend much time in frivolous small talk.

  a little background on her: when we knew her she was a pioneer, and could very well still be one; her mother is a pioneer; her twin sister is a pioneer, etc.... you get the idea.

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  Scully

  That is such a classic! I can just picture the type; I think every congregation must have had at least one of them! And doncha know that ol' hand-as-a-shield thing protects them from demon cooties! Yes, that's right, folks, demon cooties! If you don't have a handy Watchtower or Awake! mag, block them cooties with your hand!

  Angharad, LOLOL That sounds priceless as well. See? There IS joy after leaving the WTS!

  Dana
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  Bush is he crazy?

  by happy man in

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  what happend inn the word now?.

  us is the word police doing what they want, putting peopel in prision and bombing innocent peopel,.

  and yesterday he come upp widh a crazy idea that other countrys must pay tax on 30% iff they want to sell steel to us, and what will happend, europe must akt inn the same way, perhaps 30% on evry car imported from us, i must say i think this man is a dissaster for us.

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  What is sarcing? Sounds naughty, perhaps I should learn it?

  Who is Sarah Miles?

  And Expat, I'm sorry, I won't marry you just so you can become an American so quit asking already! Sheesh!

  Dana(who thinks 'someone' immigrated to Canada just to be one step closer to the good ol' US of A)
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  Hi - I'm New!

  by Aunty in

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  just wanted to say hello - i've been lurking here for about a month and decided to join.

  i was raised a witness, but have been out for almost 10 years.

  i just faded out - it was easy since i moved to california from ohio.

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  @LB

  I too would like to welcome you Aunty and, trust me, intelligent thoughts are NOT a requirement for posting here! If you don't believe me, feel free to read a few of the posts I've made!

  Dana