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  A big hello and thank you

  by iwasblind in

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  i just wanted to introduce myself and say a big hello to all of my mentally diseased friends.. i say friends because i have been lurking for some time so it feels like home (us lurkers are a bit scared and cautious so it takes a while).

  i won't bore you with too many details, but i am a born in, currently serving as the cobe of a congregation.

  my wife and i have pioneered for the last 10 years and were shaken awake by that ridiculous 15th july 2013 wt about the generation and 1914.. my wife who is much smarter than me has questioned for years.

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  Xanthippe

  Welcome Iwasblind. Very pleased for you that you're both awake. Clever lady your wife! It's hard when you have all your family in. We didn't fade so I will let others advise you on that. Whatever works for you. My husband and I pioneered a similar length of time to you and your wife. Looking forward to hearing both of your thoughts.
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  Should I Make My Wife Watch the May Broadcast?

  by TTATTelder in

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  2. friends

  for some background, i am still in.

  still an elder.

  very much awake.

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  Xanthippe

  I am trying to gently wake my wife up so she doesn't freak out and divorce me to stay in the Truman show.

  Then you say should I make my wife watch the May broadcast?

  Can't you see that the words gently and make are contradictory here? A loving husband does not make his wife do anything.
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  If They Stopped Shunning Tomorrow?

  by cofty in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  imagine that the cult decided to stop shunning family members on the proviso that the dfd person was not actively trying to attack the cult.. (please don't debate whether or not this is likely - it's hypothetical).

  how would you respond to your family?.

  personally i think i would be less than cooperative.

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  Xanthippe

  I learnt about boundaries when I left the JWs. Never heard the phrase with regard to human relationships in the first thirty years of my life. If my family wanted a relationship with me after twenty-seven years of acting like I died and as if my daughter had never been born, it would have to be on my terms, boundaries firmly in place. Their contacting me would be about their need to obey or whatever. Their needs are no longer my concern.

  They have ripped the duty ties of family to shreds. All that remains is, do I want to associate with them? Would it make me happy? That I would have to decide at the time. After going through the pain barrier of terrible loneliness especially after losing my husband as well, I have learnt something huge and it is this, I no longer need them, they have nothing I need. 🎉🎈💥🎉
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  Rumor about the Imitate Jesus Convention

  by FusionTheism in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i saw a rumor a few weeks ago on reddit that the new imitate jesus convention is supposed to present new light and clarified understandings on the disfellowshipping/disassociation practices.. supposedly, if this rumor has any truth to it, there will be a talk given at the convention about how we should not be strict like the pharisees in how we shun people, loosening up some of the jw rules about this practice.. has anyone here heard anything about this or have more info on it?.

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  Xanthippe

  I've always thought either this cult lightens up on shunning and all the other rules or it will implode. All the other Christian churches have had to lighten up to survive. Nobody is getting burnt at the stake anymore. Read history, the Spanish Inquisition, whether you expect it or not , is no more.
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  Something terrible has just happened

  by Crazyguy in

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  the neighbor child came over to play with my youngest child.

  i think she's about 4 maybe 5. well anyway there was some strawberries out on the counter and she asked if she could have one and i said no.

  when i looked over later i saw her sneak one.

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  Crazyguy well done. It is a ridiculous story and all about an egomaniac who must be obeyed even by people wo are too new to know WTF is going on yet.
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  Paradise is going to suck!

  by WasOnceBlind in

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  2. beliefs

  once you really start thinking about it, the whole paradise idea is kind of depressing.

  i remember growing up as kids my sister was the first to tell my parents (admittedly very courageously) that she wasn't sure she wanted to live in paradise, it sounded boring living forever.

  i thought she was dumb for thinking that, i mean playing with lions!!!!

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  Xanthippe

  Wasonceblind, sorry if we are being flippant, we stopped believing in paradise a long time ago but you're right the separation from loved ones would be terribly painful. The grief would be appalling, it's a terrible teaching, but the WTS don't care about people being separated from their loved ones. Guess how we know that.
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  Paradise is going to suck!

  by WasOnceBlind in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  once you really start thinking about it, the whole paradise idea is kind of depressing.

  i remember growing up as kids my sister was the first to tell my parents (admittedly very courageously) that she wasn't sure she wanted to live in paradise, it sounded boring living forever.

  i thought she was dumb for thinking that, i mean playing with lions!!!!

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  Don't they ever stop to think about the reality of things and realize how silly this resurrecting in paradise idea is?

  No I don't think they do think about it rationally. I remember visiting some JW relatives and the friends staying with them thought there would be no machines at all in the new system and we would all be naked. Better be careful how you swing that scythe!
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  John Denver hates JW's

  by problemaddict 2 in

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  i remember this making the rounds and people swearing by it.

  knew someone at the concern and whatnot.

  how does this crap come up?.

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  Smiddy, Hank Marvin was and still is a JW as far as I know, my husband met him in one of the London congregations. Cliff looked into it but didn't join, I believe his mother joined.
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  Are you religious or are you spiritual? Wake up to what?

  by Deltawave in

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  2. beliefs

  there is a huge difference between been religious and been spiritual.

  been religious is about been superior to others in the sight of god.

  however, been spiritual is about self awareness, inner peace and unity with the natural world.

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  Xanthippe

  We haven't heard from you in a while Deltawave so hope you're OK. Sometimes people who have been very hurt by the JW religion can react strongly to talk of anything spiritual. I have totally understood your posts about the need for more than just a mundane life, I can relate to the search for meaning, many of us can. Hope you haven't been frightened away by the strong reactions here. Take care.
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  What is the truth?

  by hardtobeme in

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  2. friends

  that is what my professor of philosophy asked us last night at class.. he said that pontius pilate asked jesus that question and that it was a hard one that jesus couldn't answer.. what do you think about this question?

  what is the truth?

  does the gb has any truth?

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  Xanthippe

  Truth about what specifically?
  About the question Pilate asked Jesus....

  Oh yes you are a philosophy student aren't you! Very amusing, thanks.