Since having the single life forced on me I've realised that all relationships are a trade off between what you want and what the other person wants. Loneliness is always a factor of course. If the loneliness is very painful I can understand someone wanting to hook up with a new partner. For myself the loneliness in not too bad, most days, and I kinda like doing exactly what I want :) I'm not sure I want to give it up now.
Xanthippe
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How Important to You Is Being Married Or Staying Single?
by minimus ini have friends that pretty much need to be in a relationship.
if they aren't with somebody, they are miserable.
if they are in a relationship, they are unhappy.. do you feel that you need to be n a relationship or are you content to be single..
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any Near death experiences any one can relate
by baker inhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qbkgj5j91he.
this is as close as it gets to the other side....
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https://iands.org/nde-stories/iands-nde-accounts.html
This is an interesting site Baker with hundreds of NDEs. I started researching it when to my surprise I found a book about it in a second-hand bookshop after we Da'ed. I still don't believe in God or anything supernatural but I don't like to ignore any evidence even if it doesn't fit. That would be confirmation bias. Look for evidence that they saw or heard real-world events during the experience that can be confirmed afterwards.
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DA: Today I used my typewriter and fountain pen
by Mandrake inlast week my mother (i live with her) gave me some clues that she finally awoke, and well, that came to be true and we now speak openly against many many things i considered taboo to talk to her.
so with that achieved, it was time for a delayed duty, i took my typewriter one wrote my da letter, and signed it with my favorite fountain pen, with my "trade mark" royal blue ink (everyone in the hall knew me for using that color and type of pen).
i will hand it to the elders tomorrow, in february 14th, the "day of love".
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Congratulations Mandrake. Great news about your mother waking up too. It's time to celebrate. 🍷🎉🎈🍹❤️💥 -
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Date of the memorial please.
by Xanthippe inmy non-jw cousin says my sister and her husband are visiting her more often.
my sister even put her arms around her the other day and said she loved her.
i would like to think it's because my cousin lost her husband last march and her daughter has terminal cancer but i think they might be love bombing and working up to a memorial invitation.
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Thanks guys. I knew it was near Easter of course but I forgot it's the night of the full moon. Appreciate it. -
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Date of the memorial please.
by Xanthippe inmy non-jw cousin says my sister and her husband are visiting her more often.
my sister even put her arms around her the other day and said she loved her.
i would like to think it's because my cousin lost her husband last march and her daughter has terminal cancer but i think they might be love bombing and working up to a memorial invitation.
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My non-jw cousin says my sister and her husband are visiting her more often. My sister even put her arms around her the other day and said she loved her. I would like to think it's because my cousin lost her husband last March and her daughter has terminal cancer but I think they might be love bombing and working up to a memorial invitation.
Hate being this cynical but I am used to speaking with my cousin on the phone and she almost always at some point says have you heard from (your sister). This even though she knows I never hear from her! She knows I am shunned but she, like any normal person, just reacts like a family member would. She's normally the one chasing my sister for a conversation you see. I just wonder if they are zeroing in because she is very vulnerable at the moment.
So I would like to give her a heads up about the approaching memorial. She won't go, that's not a problem, I just want her to be aware. They visited her at Xmas and said oh what a lovely tree and oh we don't mind Xmas decorations at all! She struggles to believe me when I say what the religion does to people. Who wouldn't. I told her people get thrown out of the religion because of celebrating Xmas but she likes having family around even if she knows they are weird.
So it's at the end of March sometime?
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Something isnt quite right.
by atomant inl was wondering if others get the feeling that the world we live in seems not quite right.l can not pin point anything specific but since childhood days l often get the feeling something isn;t correct.you know the feeling of deja vu.
am l the only one to feel this way?ld love to hear from others and any storys they may have.having been raised in the jdubs maybe lm just suffering mild bouts of paranoia .
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DY I was just going by your bio where you say you are slowly fading. Sorry if I misunderstood you. -
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Something isnt quite right.
by atomant inl was wondering if others get the feeling that the world we live in seems not quite right.l can not pin point anything specific but since childhood days l often get the feeling something isn;t correct.you know the feeling of deja vu.
am l the only one to feel this way?ld love to hear from others and any storys they may have.having been raised in the jdubs maybe lm just suffering mild bouts of paranoia .
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DY have you been fading for thirteen years and you still have the fear something terrible will happen if you leave and that fear 'mortifies you every day'? May I reprectfully suggest you need professional help? This has gone on too long. Take care. -
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Something isnt quite right.
by atomant inl was wondering if others get the feeling that the world we live in seems not quite right.l can not pin point anything specific but since childhood days l often get the feeling something isn;t correct.you know the feeling of deja vu.
am l the only one to feel this way?ld love to hear from others and any storys they may have.having been raised in the jdubs maybe lm just suffering mild bouts of paranoia .
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really hit home how demented people have become
There have always been psychopaths I'm afraid. At least we have more protection in the west because of the criminal justice system.
seems to me that we live in an artificial,superficial world waiting for something to happen.Just my thoughts.
Your thoughts are valid atomant. Sometimes the superficiality of life gets me down too. At least we have the leisure now to be superficial and do not spend 24/7 working until we drop dead before we're 40. They call it the pendulum swing. Rich societies like ours move from poverty and hunger to abundance and worrying how many bathrooms we should have or when we should get a larger TV.
Usually, eventually the pendulum starts to swing back as less shallow people being to realise that materialism is boring and being manipulated into becoming a victim of consumerism is not for them. Concerns for the environment and people less fortunate then start to arise. It's happening, just give it time.
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Where do I start telling a psychologist about the mental trauma I feel as a fading jw?
by Simple Minds ini am on a pension, so i could not afford to pay for a psychologist, but my good doctor referred me to a free clinic for people on a low income, for my anxiety and depression, so i have finally got my first appointment with a psychologist since i started my fade, so where do i start trying to explain the mental trauma i feel as a fading jw?
i would appreciate your advice.
simple .
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Emphasise that you have been in a high control cult and not just a religion otherwise they might think this is about loss of faith. Explain that every aspect of your life was controlled from what you wear, how you have your hair, where you can work, to medical treatment, to how you raise your kids, to holidays, to education and even your sex life.
That your obedience was policed and even reproved under threat of disfellowshipping. That you were not allowed to deviate from the doctrine one iota and a casual conversation with a fellow believer about a single doubt could land you in front of a JC. Hope that helps.
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Something isnt quite right.
by atomant inl was wondering if others get the feeling that the world we live in seems not quite right.l can not pin point anything specific but since childhood days l often get the feeling something isn;t correct.you know the feeling of deja vu.
am l the only one to feel this way?ld love to hear from others and any storys they may have.having been raised in the jdubs maybe lm just suffering mild bouts of paranoia .
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There's still a lot of suffering even though huge advances in democracy, agriculture, medicine, technology etc have been made. Life is so much better now for huge amounts of the world's population. But not everyone is enjoying the prosperity and progress. There are still a hell of a lot of corrupt governments greedily fleecing their countries. Not to mention greedy multinationals manufacturing things that we don't need and then indoctrinating us with advertising to believe we can't be happy without them. You have to keep your eyes open and not be decieved by people who want to take advantage of you. The world is full of users.
There are also many good people trying to help others and giving some of their hard-earned to people they will never meet. Lots of people work quietly doing good. Whether it's looking after an elderly relative or giving millions to charity. What we see around us is all part of life's rich tapestry. We are far from living in a civilised world, there is still a long way to go.