Xanthippe

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  Would you have married your spouse if you weren't both JWs?

  by 3rdgen in

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  ok, i've had some wine, but i'm curious.

  objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

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  Objectively speaking, but for the religion, did you have enough in common with your spouse to have met and married as non believers?

  Yes we both liked walking in the countryside. We'd enjoyed similar books as children. We both preferred sci fi on TV to sport. We both gave 100% to whatever we believed in, which was our undoing. Leaving the religion, losing family, friends, our faith and life purpose nearly broke us.

  We worked damn hard to make a life afterwards. There were lots of problems along the way, health, financial, but I suppose we leaned on and helped each other and it ended up being a good 27 year marriage. I'm glad I met him and I still miss him.

  Here's a funny thing, we got talking when we first met about places we'd been to and it turned out we visited the same holiday village in Wales in the same year, in the same month, two weeks apart.
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  What song explains what you have gone through in life?

  by brandnew in

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  this is mine....watch "coolio ft. l.v - gangsta's paradise (official music video)" on youtubehttps://youtu.be/cpgbzylnz7c

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  Xanthippe

  https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TBcXXfzrqco

  
  
  

  This song is nothing to do with religious faith but everything to do with self-belief, seizing opportunities and never ever giving up.
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  How was your day/ week thread?

  by The Rebel in

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  this thread is for when you have to say something to get it out of the system, whether it is happy or sad.

  my reason for stating the thread is that on occasion some threads do tend to get a little heated here, and maybe this thread will enable us to reflect on the important fact, we are real people and not just dots on a computer screen.. i would love to start the thread with a bang, but nothing of particular interest has happened, only i do hope the weather improves as the climate i live in has been sadly chilly for the time of year, (if you get the deeper meaning).

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  Well I tend to be sarcastic and optimistic AA. Works for me 😄

  I'm glad you enjoyed your charity event. I'm a great fan of charities, they do great work.
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  How was your day/ week thread?

  by The Rebel in

  1. jw
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  this thread is for when you have to say something to get it out of the system, whether it is happy or sad.

  my reason for stating the thread is that on occasion some threads do tend to get a little heated here, and maybe this thread will enable us to reflect on the important fact, we are real people and not just dots on a computer screen.. i would love to start the thread with a bang, but nothing of particular interest has happened, only i do hope the weather improves as the climate i live in has been sadly chilly for the time of year, (if you get the deeper meaning).

  the rebel..

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  Well my house got flooded because of the water authority working in my street. I went to the post office to send off my passport for renewal and it was closed for two weeks for a refurb. Apart from that it was a great week.
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  After leaving what did you Major in?

  by Luther bertrand in

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  i am curious if my observations are correct.

  i noticed alot of exjws end up majoring in the social sciences.

  i am also interested in what educational choices people have made either while fading or while completely out.

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  I normally ignore it when someone dislikes my post, they're entitled to their opinion. I'm just baffled when I put myself out and answered the question of the thread poster about how we got on as non-traditional adult learners because he said he wants to help other ex-JWs who come here. So I wonder, the person who objected to what I said, do you dislike adult learning, people with degrees, distance learning, the Open University or education in general?
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  After leaving what did you Major in?

  by Luther bertrand in

  1. jw
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  i am curious if my observations are correct.

  i noticed alot of exjws end up majoring in the social sciences.

  i am also interested in what educational choices people have made either while fading or while completely out.

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  Yes you're right, I did a distant learning degree, starting at 32. In the UK and parts of Europe we have the Open University. I would highly recommend it, although I found the tutors varied from year to year, some good, some bad, but the teaching materials were excellent.
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  After leaving what did you Major in?

  by Luther bertrand in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am curious if my observations are correct.

  i noticed alot of exjws end up majoring in the social sciences.

  i am also interested in what educational choices people have made either while fading or while completely out.

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  History.
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  Richard Dawkins on spirituality - please help

  by Fernando in

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  i would like to better understand what richard dawkins is saying and would appreciate your help, views and opinions, including the implications:.

  "far from being demeaning to human spiritual values, scientific rationalism is the crowning glory of the human spirit.

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  He's saying after thousands of years of being at the mercy of ignorance of biology and cosmology and prey to religious leaders and their made up stories we are beginning through science to find out how we got here and what the universe is made of. Finding that we are animals is therefore not demeaning.

  We have been on a long journey from looking up at the stars in wonder and asking who made it all to beginning to learn what our universe is all about. We should be proud of what we have become, he's saying. These apes have surpassed themselves. We done good.
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  Feeling A Bit Down Today

  by jacobm in

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  hey y'all, .

  i'm not sure about you, but i occasionally get those days where i feel a bit down, as if i have no friends.

  i do have a number of great friends, though, and am very thankful for them.. i think it might have to do with the residual programming of having a "worldwide brotherhood".

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  Xanthippe

  I'm sorry you're feeling down. It's true we were used to a lot of friends in the religion but I find just having two or three good friends I can really rely on rather that dozens who I'm not sure of a much better way to live. I hope you feel better soon.
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  Why Faith is Self-Defeating

  by cofty in

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  the god of christian theism values faith.. "without faith it is impossible to please god, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists" - heb.11.

  faith and evidence are inversely proportional - the more evidence there is that god exists the less faith you need in that proposition and vice-versa.. so how can a christian criticise any other faith-based belief?

  for example they can protest that all the evidence is against the claims of scientology, but that just means that scientologists require more faith than christians.

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  i thought faith was to do with trust

  Surely we trust people who come through for us. Trusting someone who has never been there for us when we needed him is just well .......religion.