Just take your time and celebrate only if you want to. Christmas has become way too commercialized but you don't have to go along with that. We didn't do Xmas the first year. Expensive presents that get you in debt are stupid. Do whatever you want. No one's going to disfellowship you if you dont't join in.
Xanthippe
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Present day tree.
by pleaseresearch insince leaving and fading.
i don't celebrate christmas but in its place which is sad i know.
we have present day.
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Non JW wife/JW husband Christmas tree debate
by spacegirl443 infirst post here and looking for advice and help.
sorry in advance for it being so long :(.
i'm a happily married woman (no kids) who is a non-jw, presbyterian to be precise.
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Xanthippe
Hi Spacegirl. If I've read this correctly you've given up your career and moved to be with your husband. He doesn't want to have children because there are paedophiles in his family!
I find this very worrying. You seem to be required to give up everything for him, career, children, now your Christmas tree. You want to be a good wife and think of his needs? I think you've done nothing else but think of his needs. You're in trouble, dear, I'm afraid. I'm really sorry to be so blunt but you seem to be losing yourself here.
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"In a human moment before Jehovah grabbed her"
by truthseeker ini often wondered how far back the witnesses had been involved with my family.
my grandmother died at the end of 2013 and while going through her photos we found some of my great-grandmother, dora, who was born in 1901 and died in 1994. there is a photo of dora dated 1946 standing outside her house in east riding, yorkshire.
on the back of the photo her husband had written "in a human moment before jehovah grabbed her".. my great grandfather, who died before i was born, did not like the witnesses.
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Xanthippe
What a treat to see your family photos and their beautiful drawings and paintings. Also to hear their stories, thank you Truthseeker.
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The Noble Fir
by Oubliette inthe noble fir.
the fir tree stands silently in the corner of our living room: proud, erect, strong.
even unadorned, it is beautiful.
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Xanthippe
I miss Oubliette.
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Work Christmas functions: Being a Bible Student (unbaptized)
by rulehayl inhi all,i have been studying with the witnesses for more than 6 months and regularly attend both midweek & weekend meetings, and i am nearly at the end of the "bible teach" book.
my boss is adamant i attend team christmas functions.
she knows about my studying and potential baptism next year, and has suggested that i attend and just not participate in activities like kris kringle.
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Xanthippe
I have read JWFacts and whatever other websites - I will admit I have been shaken a tad by it, but then realise, at the end of the day - most people who are Disfellowshipped have themselves to blame
So you were shaken, then you rationalised it and decided people who no longer believe after being raised in this religion deserve to be shunned even though they lose their entire family. You think only people who disobey the rules get disfellowshipped? Anyone who questions the beliefs gets disfellowshipped.
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Work Christmas functions: Being a Bible Student (unbaptized)
by rulehayl inhi all,i have been studying with the witnesses for more than 6 months and regularly attend both midweek & weekend meetings, and i am nearly at the end of the "bible teach" book.
my boss is adamant i attend team christmas functions.
she knows about my studying and potential baptism next year, and has suggested that i attend and just not participate in activities like kris kringle.
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Xanthippe
If you're religion-shopping why choose one that takes away your freedom? No holidays, limited on medical treatment, they even tell you who you can marry. I realise you thought we were active JWs, sorry about that but please think carefully. Have you looked at JWfacts.com.? Don't be afraid of the truth. All the best.
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Bought My First Christmas Tree Last Night
by pale.emperor inlast year i didn't bother with christmas as it still felt like a "nothing" day to me (thanks watchtower!).
this is the 2nd christmas since waking up and leaving the cult and i've finally bought my first christmas tree:).
i have no idea what to do with it though.
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Xanthippe
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Louise Palmer: British Parliament to bring up the two witness rule
by Diogenesister infantastic news!
louise palmer, the lass recently interviewed by a major british newspaper and a csa survivor, has tweeted the following:.
what a busy couple of days!
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Xanthippe
Interesting, maybe you're right, there's so much tax evasion going on, especially if you can afford expensive lawyers.
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It's hard being bisexual and being a jw
by Sally fields ini've been bi for a long time but i know it's wrong if you want to be a jw... .
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Xanthippe
Hi Sally fields, welcome. Your sexuality is of concern to you alone and no one else's business. This is what civilised countries and their governments have decided and they defend your rights by law. Don't let this tin-pot religion tell you otherwise.
As regards their history, well did you know the members aren't allowed to look at older publications because they don't want anyone to know it? As regards prophecy, when I was at school in the seventies the paradise earth was coming before people who saw World War l were all dead! Their prophecy has failed, which means they don't speak for God. Check the beliefs, get the hell away from this cult.