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  Shunning Hath Begunith

  by Solzhenitsyn in

  1. watchtower
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  my spouse assumed that being honest would feel liberating.

  appointments were made with pimi parents to let them know of the decision to no longer be a jw.

  before the tall nonfat latte at starbucks was half drunk and after her parents asked several direct questions, they stood up, hugged her and said "well this is goodbye, return to jehovah and we'll pick up right where we left off, we love you," and walked out the door.

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  She needs distraction while her feelings start to heal. Perhaps start planning a big trip, somewhere amazing to take her mind of it.

  Your wife sounds like a gentle, kind person going by the way she tried to just be a listening ear while on FS. Perhaps when she's ready she could do some voluntary work, with elderly people, in a hospital or a in mental health charity?

  Meetup.com is a good idea further down the road. It's helped me to meet people to do things with, theatre, meals out and so on without having to make friends necessarily. She can make friends this way but it is much slower and less intense because they are not conditional friendships like in the JWs. Best of luck to you both.
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  Remembering SuziDrums

  by 3rdgen in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello friends,.

  i don't post here much anymore but still check in to read from time to time.

  yesterday i thought i would send a fb msg.

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  I'm so sorry 3rdgen! I just read your thread about how you reconnected with Suzi after all those years. So sad for you to have spent so little time together after she left the Borg and sad for her sons to have lost both parents now. My thoughts are with you 🌹
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  Random Musings of an ex-JW Closing a Chapter

  by StarTrekAngel in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  as you all may recall, i made it public a few months back that i was moving away from my former neighboorhood.

  well, we moved into our new place during the christmas/new year week, and it has been an awesome decision.

  more on that later.naturally, after having hauled all our "material possessions" to our new place, we embarked on the process of giving our old home a touch of paint, etc.

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  Xanthippe

  I'm glad you're happy in a lovely new home and that life is working out for you. Another family leaves the cult and makes a success of their lives!
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  Prayerfully Considering or Seeing What Sticks

  by scotoma in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  tony says the magical words “prayerfully considering”.

  presumably, this has been done many times even when they have gotten things wrong.

  have a urim and thummim method of knowing the correct interpretations?

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  Presumably, this has been done many times even when they have gotten things wrong. Do they have a Urim and Thummim method of knowing the correct interpretations?

  They look into the liver. Not sure whose liver, probably a GB helper who has been disrepectful of their glorious position.
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  Just peeking in for a bit...

  by Jidders in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i rather apprehensively would like to say hello.. i've been raised somewhat in the truth,one of my parents is rather rather strong in the beliefs but could honestly be considered pomi with how active they are and their side of the family comes from a line of witnesses, the other parent was but faded a long time ago.

  as such i was taught quite a bit of jw teachings between family and off and on again bible studies.

  recently i had a serious emotional break down over a few months after said pomi parent had advised me that they would not attend my wedding should that day come (i also had recieved a text from my bible teacher i hadnt heard from in a year or two giving a scripture) and it sorta all sank on me that my activity over the last few years was not really jw material.

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  Welcome Jidders - and KevinB. Wow the exJWs will be outnumbering those left in soon. Take your time, there's no rush, no end of the world as we know it is around the corner. Just relax, read what you want online or in the library and when you want a break go enjoy your life.
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  I realized today what I am, and why they look at me with contempt

  by Tameria2001 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  today my inlaws wanted to meet their new great-grandson.

  they hadn't been in our lives since we left the jws back in 2001. but every time, even though very briefly, i was around them, they always had this same look on their face.

  it was of utter and complete disgust.

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  Well, guess what? This "zombie" was seated right next to my JW father-in-law, and nowhere to run, and he had to sit there for two hours. lol

  Tameria I'm sorry these awful people treat you like this and it is exhausting I know but I'm glad you managed to have a little fun with it. I have to deal with my family at funerals and at my uncle's we all had to go back to my aunt's for food afterward.

  Of course they all sat on their bums but I went in the kitchen to help her. She wanted me to go and ask each person what type of sandwiches and which drink they wanted so these people who've shunned me forever were forced to speak to me!

  My brother who's an elder was getting more red in the face every time I went up to him. He was so angry I thought he was going to explode! You have to laugh and I'm sure you will when you've recovered. Just enjoy remembering how uncomfortable you made your father-in-law by sitting next to him and all because of a fantasy belief. Silly man.
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  I am a proud Jehovah's Witness Defender

  by Matthew Jefferson in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my name is matthew j and i have just ended my study with the jehovah's witnesses.

  no, i did not stop studying because i believe the jehovah's witnesses are a 'cult', i left due to the minor beliefs that i hold that remain separate from the organization.

  i called my elder who is still an amazing man and great counselor, affirming that i do not wish to continue my studying.

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  Hi Matthew, welcome to the forum. I have to say it's not much of a defence. Two posts and then you run away.
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  Do you believe?

  by rolliepollie in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  do you believe in a higher power?.

  why or why not?.

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  I can't see the evidence for a loving higher power. Life for humankind has been thousands of years of hardship and heartbreak. Only by trial and error have we learned to relieve the pain and suffering caused by illness and old age.

  If such a power exists and he/she knows more than we do about biology why wouldn't he/she tell us? If he/she has less compassion than doctors, nurses, healers of all kinds such a being must be completely cold-hearted.

  Certainly not someone deserving of worship and not someone I want to locate or communicate with if such a higher power even exists.
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  Who Wore it Better?

  by Wake Me Up Before You Jo-Ho in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  in a bizarre world where spaghetti straps are a machination of the devil and a clean browsing history can bestow powers to resurrect your dead child, examining religious claims brings to you a side-by-side cringe fest of watchtower propaganda and latter day saints "education".. this video is part of a series revealing the "one size fits all" nature of high-control organizations.

  warning: be prepared to get hot under the collar and squeamish in your tight pants.. https://youtu.be/hio0e2ioz-8.

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  Xanthippe

  This video is part of a series revealing the "one size fits all" nature of high-control organizations.

  Yes Wake Me, forcing humans to control impulses that are impossible to control and only result in layers of guilt upon guilt are what cults are all about.
  
  
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  Who Wore it Better?

  by Wake Me Up Before You Jo-Ho in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  in a bizarre world where spaghetti straps are a machination of the devil and a clean browsing history can bestow powers to resurrect your dead child, examining religious claims brings to you a side-by-side cringe fest of watchtower propaganda and latter day saints "education".. this video is part of a series revealing the "one size fits all" nature of high-control organizations.

  warning: be prepared to get hot under the collar and squeamish in your tight pants.. https://youtu.be/hio0e2ioz-8.

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  Omg talk about cringeworthy. Men wearing tight underpants are committing the sin of masturbation? Do children watch these talks? Why is is that religious people are more obsessed with sex than anyone else!