Posts by Xanthippe

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The bitter reality of death

by Bonsai in

been a lot of death in my life recently.

a close family member died yesterday.

a close friend died 8 weeks ago - both from cancer.

Bonsai I'm sorry for your losses. Your wife must be struggling to cope with the loss of her mother, which is a deep loss. My cousin died from cancer a few weeks ago and it seemed so wrong because she and her husband had just bought a cottage in the country and made friends with a lovely group of people in the village.

They'd worked so hard all their lives, he a fire fighter and she a teacher and he was about to retire early so they could finally take some time to themselves. Now he has to carry on without her.

I loved your post, it echoed a lot of the things my cousin wrote for her funeral. Value every minute of your life and don't take any of it for granted. Do all the things you long to do, don't put them off. Thanks for sharing that and my heart goes out to you and your family. Carpe Diem, seize the day.

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Help Me Regain Contact With My Still In Family

by pale.emperor in

situation is, i'll never return to the wt.

my family with never leave the wt.. depending on who you ask you'll get the following answers when you ask about me:.

my family: he's confused.

Xanthippe

Sadly your family are hurting beacause of the cognitive dissonance your leaving has caused them and they are also ashamed of you so the desire to hurt you is very strong at the moment. The shunning, they are told, is an act of love not a punishment but just now it fits perfectly with their desire to punish you. This is how the cult had designed it. Give them some time to see you are not coming back and perhaps they will start to miss you and your daughter.

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Start A Butterfly Garden!

by Bonsai in

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time to take a break from debating religion.

take in a breath of fresh air and be healed by the wonders of nature around you.. how many of you have a garden?

how many have a nice flower patch to go with your vegetable garden?

Xanthippe

Wel the butterflies are coming in my garden now. Snapped this today, anyone know what it is? I can't find it in any of my butterfly books, think it may be a moth.

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For those that carry on as JWs secretly not believing.....

by snare&racket in

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my heart goes out for all people stuck in all high control groups, either with insight into the falsehood of their beliefs or none.. to remain a member whilst knowing it false however, must be soul destroying.. my question is, would you carry on living the lie if you discovered that we get one life, one go at existing.

it's short, it's fragile and nobody in 100 years will care we even existed..... .......if you came to that realisation would you quit?.

.......if you had children, would you leave in order to set them an example in strength and appreciation of the short time we enjoy?.

Xanthippe

We only carried on pretending to believe and attending meetings for a few months. We just couldn't stand it. Whilst I understand those that want to get their relatives and friends out, if they think there's hope, we just needed to get away. People would say, 'worldly' people that is, your relatives will mellow over time, they'll come round.

They didn't, after almost three decades, but when I saw my daughter graduating university last week it was all worth it. To think of her pioneering for that cult as I did, wasting her youth and intelligence, especially if I was forced to look on knowing it was all lies, I couldn't have coped with that. So it's swings and roundabouts. Lose your extended family and friends but get a good life and have happy kids.

When you look at the planet we live on nobody has a perfect life anyway do they? Nobody has it all. I have more than a lot of people have and I'm glad we left when we did for the sake of our health and my daughter's happiness.

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My daughter graduated Bachelor of Arts with First Class Honours yesterday.

by Xanthippe in

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Xanthippe

Twenty-one.

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My daughter graduated Bachelor of Arts with First Class Honours yesterday.

by Xanthippe in

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Thanks guys. LUHE, she is going to start her masters in September.

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Latest UPDATE UK Charity Commission investigation

by Watchtower-Free in

good afternoon,.

i am writing to give you a quick update about our ongoing statutory inquiries into safeguarding and charities linked to jehovah’s witnesses.. as you may know, one of our inquiries is into watch tower bible and tract society of britain.

we opened this inquiry in 2014. watch tower then initiated what turned out to be protracted litigation against us.

Xanthippe

Brilliant Watchtower-Free! Thanks.

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Don't have sexual fantasies! Today's watchtower...

by purrpurr in

the watchtower today says not to think of sex, or to have sexual fantasies.

i'm just wondering... how many people in the hall hearing this watchtower today would be having sexual fantasies?

sitting there thinking about sister hottie or brother hunky ?.

Xanthippe

The Borg are basically setting the sheep up to fail.

Exactly! This is what all religions do. They take things you can't possibly stop doing, thinking about sex, masturbating, sometimes overeating or drinking too much, getting angry, and they forbid them. So you have to spend your whole life feeling guilty and having to appease 'God'. For God read the religious leaders. It's about control and it's been working for thousands of years.

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TOP 10 REASONS (Why JW's can't cope with the Real World

by TerryWalstrom in

top ten reasons.

(why) jehovah's witnesses can't cope with the real world____________________.

the watchtower organization denies access to reality, substituting its own version instead.

Xanthippe

It's no longer a question of Whom to trust, but why anybody should actually trust at all. Better is vigilant wariness and optimism whenever possible.
Hoping for the best in others and expecting the worst is as close as I can get to a creed.

Terry this is so true. We all either decieve ourselves or allow others, like advertisers, to deceive us, making us crave what we want in life as opposed to what we need.

I am still trying to work out what a homosapien needs, rather as you would try and work out what any other animal species that you are trying to care for actually needs rather than what they want. Dogs I am told would eat cake and chocolate all day if allowed to but cake is bad for their teeth and weight and chocolate can make them very sick.

Cults cater to our longing for certainty, our need for the approval of others and our fear of death. We have to be strong and realise certainty is impossible, the only approval we need is our own and every living thing dies so why be afraid of going to sleep.

As for trusting people, financial institutions, governments, trust no one, as Fox Mulder would say. Trust yourself most of the time, but be aware of your anachronistic brain that wants things you no longer need.

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My daughter graduated Bachelor of Arts with First Class Honours yesterday.

by Xanthippe in

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Xanthippe

No Kate, she was never involved in the cult thank goodness. We left long before she was born. I'm glad your daughter is getting on well and enjoying life.