OMG fpoo- DUDE.
Reread your thread so you can hear what you are telling us, and yourself.
http://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025
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breakup guilt
by fresh prince of ohio ini recently broke up with my girlfriend of four years.. she is 40 years old, with health problems, financial problems, little family/friend support, and facing an uncertain future.
i gave her some money.. the guilt i am experiencing right now is absolutely anguishing.
she had very, very high hopes about our relationship and loved me very deeply.
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So this is how it ended...?
by Glander inthis would have been the last new car before armageddon.... .
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Bump cause this thread is cool and deserves more attention.
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Adele, "Set Fire to the Rain"
by losingit inthis song describes how i fell in love with my soon to be ex-husband... and it also describes the shock at finding out who he and the wtbts really are.... heartbreak, even with ensuing happiness, is hard to overcome.
to all those that are going through heartbreak and despair, set fire to the rain and be free!
i dare it to be possible..... i let it fall, my heart.
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I really like the Someone Like You song. I listen to it a lot.
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Did a householder at the door ever cause you doubts
by perfect1 inrecently on a saturday morning there was a knock on my door.
two ladies asked me if i was familiar with the jws.
i said: yes unfortunatley.
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Recently on a saturday morning there was a knock on my door.
Two ladies asked me if I was familiar with the JWs
I said: Yes unfortunatley
them: why unfortunately
me: (fire in mine eyes)
Them: Its OK, you can talk to us.
me: I would advise you to research your religion thoroughly.
Good bye.
that was as polite as I could be in that moment given I was ready to really go on a rampage- and I didnt want to ruin my day.
But I couldnt help but wonder what else I could have said to make them think.
Did anyone ever say anything to you at the door that made you think, or that you looked into.
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What gives you away as a (former) JW?
by perfect1 inthese days my jw past stay safely under wraps from nearly everyone.. i dont dig it up- and i see no need to talk about it with anyone.. sometimes i feel as if my past is a large and terrible secret, and i will be found out eventually.
people can sense i am different.
i never talk about my family.. i guess people chalk it up to being a private person or let me be a mystery.. however, there is one thing that i feel completely reveals me as having been raised a jehovahs witness:.
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LOL minimus.
The book bag!
My dad had one like a large leather box and I had one faux leather to put the magazines in for service. ICK! havent thought about that in a while.
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In 10 words or less express your joy at being free from JW prison.
by Wasanelder Once ini love and enjoy life as never before!.
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Never worry about money again, planned for a career.
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What gives you away as a (former) JW?
by perfect1 inthese days my jw past stay safely under wraps from nearly everyone.. i dont dig it up- and i see no need to talk about it with anyone.. sometimes i feel as if my past is a large and terrible secret, and i will be found out eventually.
people can sense i am different.
i never talk about my family.. i guess people chalk it up to being a private person or let me be a mystery.. however, there is one thing that i feel completely reveals me as having been raised a jehovahs witness:.
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Hey Guys! Wow! I guess there are quite a few ways to approach this whole thing- some of you wanna spread the word about the dangers of the JW- some are more vocal than others. In my circle its something I almost never reveal. I feel its telling to much and puts me in a weaker position. The people I know know enough about the religion to know its a crock- and if they dont I do inform them of some of the more exciting teachings: YOU WILL DIE AT ARMAGEDDON AND I WONT, LET YOUR BABIES DIE WITHOUT BLOOD, etc. Recently I did some splaining to an Uncle in law over dinner, and I have to say, it ruined the meal for me.
mouthy everyone loves you so THAT is something to live for.
Also, I love the idea of Santa Rampage.
Also, I found it easier to make friends and talk to people once I stopped picturing their faces melting off at Armageddon because they wouldnt take my magazines. LOL.
Some habits are hard to break.
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My poor Dad was so terrified to be inside of a church at my wedding he cowered near the door during the rehearsal rather than walk me down the aisle. Luckily he overcame his phobia for the big day.
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What gives you away as a (former) JW?
by perfect1 inthese days my jw past stay safely under wraps from nearly everyone.. i dont dig it up- and i see no need to talk about it with anyone.. sometimes i feel as if my past is a large and terrible secret, and i will be found out eventually.
people can sense i am different.
i never talk about my family.. i guess people chalk it up to being a private person or let me be a mystery.. however, there is one thing that i feel completely reveals me as having been raised a jehovahs witness:.
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These days my JW past stay safely under wraps from nearly everyone.
I dont dig it up- and I see no need to talk about it with anyone.
Sometimes I feel as if my past is a large and terrible secret, and I will be found out eventually. People can sense I am different. I never talk about my family.
I guess people chalk it up to being a private person or let me be a mystery.
However, there is one thing that I feel completely reveals me as having been raised a Jehovahs Witness:
I cannot wrap a gift.
I am very capable person but when faced with pretty wrapping paper and package to be wrapped I dont have a clue where to begin, and I generally end up wrinkling the whole thing.
What about you? What do you fear might give you away as a former Witness if you have moved on?
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If you don't believe in God where do you get the strength to cope?
by Miss.Fit ini know there are some here that are going through some tough times.
some of you do not believe in god.
some are not sure.. i was told recently by a friend to pray to god for help and he would comfort me.. my first impulse is to pray.
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Good Morning Miss Fit.
Perfect 1: how? Within what?
When you look back on this time, you may realize that you WERE strong even though you right now you dont FEEL strong.
Within yourself of course.
for most people GOD is an external being, outside of yourself, that you need to pray to, thank, and avoid angering. Maybe there is an intermediary like Jesus or the Governing Body or the Holy Spirit. Honestly I dont mind if that works for you or anyone else, but it NEVER worked for me.
I understand you feel like a shell. I guess that means empty inside. In some case empty inside could be an ideal state of mind, but I am guessing for you this is a painful hollow numb feeling.
My advice to you, then, is to try to find some spark within yourself that feels authentic and real. The spark could be something you have always wanted, something that makes you happy, something that makes you really angry, but more than the thing, it is a feeling that burns a little, and has the potential to get bigger.
I do a form of mindfulness meditation that has given me a lot of strength in life, and meditation doesnt have to be religious, nor does it open you up to demons and whatever else the JWs say.
As someone who was born in and indoctrinated, I still have the effects of being a JW embedded in me- despite the fact that I have moved on with my life, met personal goals, etc. For one thing, I find it difficult to imagine the future. I find it difficult to imagine being happy.
Actually, I am very happy, and I am so content in my life I am honestly surprised every single day just because I taught that there was no future for me or anyone else and that happiness is not possible in this world.
So: my point is this: even if you are incapable as I am of imagining a happy future for yourself, KnoW that it does exist, and it is possible for you.
On a practical level, you could start to INVEST IN YOURSELF. Add value to your life buy pursuing an interest, taking a class, doing some soul searchign to examine what you might want to do with this life which will unfold before you.
The sad, sad fact is that the faithful JW spends his or her life waiting for an empty promise, and sacrifices all and everyone to a future which never comes, and is then shocked by the lonely, tedious future which does.
Learning to work with this life you have now and enrich it is the biggest challenge, and one I wish you luck and encouragement in.
My main point::
IMAGINE YOURSELF HAPPY