Hi - I'm a newbie here (born in, baptized 20+ years, still just about associating but with doubts about doctrine. Although I take issue with a number of things printed in the literature, I don't recognise the "bunch of fanatics" I see described in this and other threads as it's not the experience I have had in the two congregations I have been associated with- I'll introduce myself properly soon - just wanted to quickly respond to this as it's a subject close to my heart).
The Grandma appears to be out of order. You have my sympathy on that. I agree with blondie that's it's the parents who call the shots anyway. But I think it would be a bit harsh to judge/bash all Jws on this grandma's actions alone. Certainly there are some unbalanced JWs, I have come across a few - and very damaging they can be too - but I think it would be the same in any religious organisation and even non-religious..there will always be a few that take things too far.
I was in a band in the 90s, made up of witnesses. Even played at the YMCA several times, with the full knowledge of my local body of elders. None of them ever said a word about it. My niece and nephew were both strongly encouraged to do well in music. My niece plays several instruments very well and is involved in musical activities at her secondary school. And my bro in law is an elder(!).
Anyway that's all I'll say on that. I'll post up on another thread sometime soon, as I'll be hoping for some advice...