i am really disturbed by some methods that jw family members try and use to emotionally manipulate us back into the organization.. one of our fellow posters here has had a family member send several photos of them as a child either out witnessing, and at an assembly.. no words - just those pictures.. it seems such an infantile and manipulative technique to employ?!.
do they think that we will all simply ignore the logical and factual reasons we no longer attend, just because we see some sentimental picture?
do they not see that this actually may reinforce our understanding that we were raised as children in a high-control religious group where we had to please our parents.
Like we had that convention - 2015? The one where they released the Return to Jehovah brochure?
A brother came down to see my husband (I was still attending at the time) and he stood on our front step trying to imitate Mark Sanderson saying with his arms outstretched to my husband 'come home brother, come home.'
It's all about emotional appeal. Get you back in and then now we've got you back - you obey us or else.
i am shaking all over right now.
i think it's worse that the bunker video.. i used to think there was no way that these people would actually "drink the cool aid" if you get my drift, but seeing this video i am now not sure it could never happen.. having a wife who i love dearly trapped in this cult is really freaking me out right now...
This will scare some people. After the 2016 convention I knew a sister who was totally freaked out by the bunker video especially when an elder (from her congregation) who was sitting behind her, leaned forward and whispered in her ear: 'Jehovah is lining everyone up' (reference to crossing the red sea) he said it because her meeting attendance wasn't very good. She was so scared she was at every meeting after that.
It's designed to frighten. The WT should be ashamed of themselves.
it’s quite affirming to see the horrific material that they’re serving up at the convention this year.
aside from blatant homophobia, the scenes at the end of the convention that are discussed on another thread stoop to new levels of fear mongering.
it seems to occur to nobody inside the organisation that this kind of material could trigger fear, deprsssion, anxiety, stress.
How can they say it won't foster fear and confusion in a child? That's insane.
As a child I was traumatized by the little girl falling through the opening in the ground in the Paradise book!
How much more so will these kind of films frighten a child??
The WT certainly wouldn't approve of you taking a child to a horror movie yet it's perfectly okay to show kids WT videos that are terrifying...even to adults.
They use fear to keep people under control. It's all about frightening witnesses half to death to keep them in line.
there was a co visit in ohio a couple weeks ago.
when he was finishing up his sunday talk he said that he would like if "all the children that are from this congregation, not if you're just visiting, but from this congregation to come on up on the stage right after the meeting because i want to get a picture of you.".
i thought to myself, why?
Yes, it happened at mine before I stopped going. CO asked for all the kids on the platform for a photo.
No idea why.
i don’t get it.
who really cares?
in the usa, it’s such a huge newsworthy event.
I loved it! I loved Wills and Kate’s wedding, too. I think Harry and William are like a breath of fresh air in that stuffy ‘firm’ (they call the royal family the firm) Both of them have tried to live as normal life as possible. William flew mountain rescue helicopters where I live. It was not unusual for a rescued climber to find himself being flown to hospital by William.
The wedding today was lovely and very different and I felt I was watching for the sheer pleasure and not with my old JW judgemental eyes.
just heard that a young brother committed suicide this week - the whole congregation is naturally very distressed.
what a tragedy.
according to my source he'd only been married about a year and his wife found him - he’d hung himself.
Thank you everyone :)
What we must try and get across to people who we think are having problems is to seek help and be honest, tell your counselor, therapist, psychologist, doctor...tell them everything.
I know a sister who suffered from severe depression for 15 years. She said she didn't go to the doctor because she didn't want to bring 'reproach on God's name' and she wore that statement like a badge of honour. But for what? The WT are doing a very good job of bringing reproach on the name 'Jehovah' all by themselves.
I hope if there is anyone on this forum who is reading this and is suffering..please get help. I was helped and I got through it.
Of course, it goes without saying that during my recovery you all helped me too...you just didn't know it! I owe you all a big hug.
xx
just heard that a young brother committed suicide this week - the whole congregation is naturally very distressed.
what a tragedy.
according to my source he'd only been married about a year and his wife found him - he’d hung himself.
This breaks my heart. If only people felt free or were encouraged to seek help.
But we have to put on that kingdom smile and suffer in silence because to be honest about how you feel isn’t upbuilding to others. As one prominent member of London bethel once bragged to an elder in my congregation (who idolised him) he once asked a sister how she was and she began to honestly tell him to which he replied ‘don’t bring me down sister, don’t bring me down’ and walked away. He was actually proud of the fact he pushed a sister (who had problems) away. He advised this elder to do the same.
When I was at my lowest I wrote goodbye letters to my kids. I was at the meeting and an elder asked me how I was. It was the first time an elder had asked me in years! I told him I was so low I’d written goodbye letters to the kids. I didn’t want to be here anymore. He replied ‘sorry to hear that’ (while staring over my shoulder obviously preoccupied with something else) walked away and never spoke to me again.
I decided to seek help and started seeing a psychologist. The elders got to hear and we’re not pleased. They came to my house and advised me against it. When I said I’m going anyway, an elders wife took me on one said and said ‘you’d better not tell the psychologist you’re a witness. It’s not for them to know’
I decided there was no point in going if I wasn’t going to be honest so I told the psychologist everything.
Thank goodness I did. It saved me. I am just so heart broken for those who feel there is no way out of their problems except death.
hi,i'm lost and a little sad.
i actually like the jw faith.
some might call this faith cold, strict, dogmatic but they're just trying to follow rules and give back to god.
Hello Ahava
i hope you are still here. Please don’t rush into baptism despite any pressure you may get to do so. Once baptised if you change your mind there are massive consequences.
go to JWFacts and do your research.
I still believe in God and I was a witness for over 60 years. Do I believe the GB are from God, absolutely not! Do I think JWS are God’s one true religion? No.
It sounds like you love the structure and friendship in the organization but this isn’t enough to make a life long commitment to something you are unsure of.
please make sure you know what you are doing.
abandoning a damaging cult is not a crime, in fact it might be viewed as a moral imperative given the levels of abuse awaiting those surrendering to its teachings and worse –its "ecclesiastic authority".. it has always seemed counter productive to inform potential enemies when your life´s goals now conflict with their rigid agendas.
disassociation letters and manifestos may be cathartic in the writing, but the outcome is a 100% certainty because of the inflexibility and lack of caring by the very group it is delivered to.. .
"fading" from under "high control" seems an oxymoronic risk at best, and currently faders walk on eggshells and look over their shoulders for years during and after the attempt - fearful that the price of their freedom will be the destruction of their friendships and family ties.. perhaps a peculiar additional preparation to a fade can reverse the balance of power – and high control cults are all about power.. .. bear in mind: - .
Really, really good post.
I was fading but I am so sick of being bothered by elders and elderettes, being watched on Facebook (I have protected my personal page but have a public page for my business and one of the elderettes couldn't help but make a comment about something and I though 'oh, so now you are looking at my page' They also were following me on Instagram until I blocked them.) that I feel I should abandon the fade and go for a clean break.
Things that hold me back: 1) When they announce you no one will know you have DA. They'll all think you were DF for something. 2) It's giving them authority over me as Della Street said above. 3) I live in very small town could I cope with the shunning? 4) My uber brother and sister would be so happy to hear I am out
But as long as you are technically a JW they are always going to be watching and waiting.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bahseeaoof8.
simply fabulous.
ps.
This was the most amazing interview.
I didn't want the interview to end and will definitively watch it again.
Plus EXJW Fifth is just so good at interviewing people, isn't he?
