i had joint custody of my. . .kids when their mother divorced me. It didn't mean jack shit when they were turned against me in their early teens.
I hear you there. Pretty well the same story here. A son whom I haven't seen or spoken to in nearly twenty years (his choice). A daughter who has just now began to reach back out to me after the same amount of time. And four grandchildren that I have never seen, even in pictures.
Their loss I guess.