A new publication is now available. It's called "Reasoning with the
> > > Sisters".
> > >
> > > Single brothers are encouraged to read and apply.
> > >
> > > Reasoning With The Sisters Introductions . . .
> > >
> > > CURRENT EVENTS
> > > "Good evening. My name is ---- ----. I'm a brother from (name
> > > congregation). Did you see the TV news last night? . . . That report
on
> > > (mention some current item of concern, but don't talk about cars or
> > > sports), what you think about it? . . . It is not unusual for sisters
to
> > be
> > > concerned about these issues, but I believe that we are living in a
time
> > > when we should be getting to know each other better." (Ask her to go
> out
> > > witnessing.)
> > >
> > > LOVE/KINDNESS
> > > "I have found many sisters are quite concerned about the lack of
> > > available brothers in the surrounding congregations. Do you feel
that
> > way
> > > too? Why do you think this is the trend? . .Did you know that I
> > > was interested in you? " (Explain the reason why.)
> > >
> > > WHEN SISTERS SAY: "I'M BUSY"
> > > "Hi. My name is ---- ----. I wanted to discuss with you how we can
get
> > to
> > > know each other better. But I can see that you are busy (or about to g
o
> > > home).
> > > May we get together for lunch on Saturday after field service and
> > discuss
> > > it further?
> > >
> > > How You Might Respond To Potential Conversation Stoppers .
> > >
> > > "I'M NOT INTERESTED"
> > > "May I ask, do you mean that you are not interested in me or is it
> > > brothers in general that don't interest you? I ask that because I
have
> > met
> > > many sisters who at one time were interested in brothers, but aren't
> > anymore
> > > because they think brothers are hypocritical (or they feel brothers
are
> > > chauvinistic; or they feel brothers today are not spiritual enough,
> > etc.).
> > > I don't approve of such attitudes myself and if you get to know me I
> > believe
> > > we could both look to the future with confidence.
> > >
> > > OR
> > >
> > > If you mean that you're not interested in having another boyfriend,
I
> > can
> > > understand that. But more likely you are interested in your future.
Can
> > you
> > > see any prospect for a relationship in the future?
> > >
> > > OR
> > >
> > > Is that because you already have a boyfriend? . . . Tell me, do you
> > think
> > > you will ever see a time when it will work out? . . . What seems to
> stand
> > > in the way?
> > >
> > > "I'M NOT INTERESTED IN YOU"
> > > Many sisters tell me that. Have you ever wondered why brothers
like
> > > myself keep trying, even though sisters generally may not be
interested?
> > >
> > > OR
> > >
> > > I can appreciate that, because I used to feel the same way about a
> > sister.
> > > But, just to be fair, I decided to listen to her. And I found out
that
> I
> > > hadn't been told the truth about her. Now we are good friends.
> > >
> > > OTHER TIPS:
> > > Keeping good records is the key to following up and developing a
study
> > of
> > > each other in the future. Never ask if she got a chance to read the
> > letters
> > > you wrote, instead, ask if she had any questions. Always mention
> that
> > > she could make a voluntary donation of time spent with you. Be sure
> to
> > > make definite arrangements to get together again...naming the date and
> > time.
> > > And remember, give HER the chance to accept or refuse...we cannot
> > > pre-judge.
> > >
> > > Finally, if she refuses, it is not you that is being rejected,
rather,
> > it
> > > is your message of commitment.
> > >
> > > COMING SOON -- Insight On The Sisters. . .already seven volumes,
and
>
> > > continuing to grow.
> > >
> > > o Sisters - what happens to us when they cry?
> > > o Knowledge that leads to an everlasting Wife.
> > > o Questions Old People Ask, Answers They Forget
> > >
> > > & for you parents...
> > >
> > > o Your Youths - Getting the most out of them.
