@Diogenesister, we had a few layers of emotional extortion.
We could've just eloped and got married in court. But she didn't want to elope, her parents didn't want a court wedding, and I would've "lost privileges... to protect the congregation".
We could've just dated like normal adults. But that's worldly. -_-
She could've rushed through her study and baptism, but she didn't want to rush because she loved what she was learning and wanted this to be the truth.
I didn't want to push her to get baptized, but I admit, it was incredibly frustrating and I broke a couple times. I could've given up on her, indeed I DID give up on her for a while, and indeed an elder told me he would if he were in my shoes, but I loved her. I still love her.
Finally, after years of this, she got baptized and months later we got married! In the kingdom hall! Yay!
And then her sister got married in court and her folks were cool with it, and I was like WTF! ! !