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  Anybody else having trouble walking away?

  by JW-Matrix in

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  ok...so i'm a 19 year old fifth generation jw.

  mentality, i've been out of the "truth" since i was 16(woke up after i was baptized ironically), but on the outside i'm a model jw.

  my parents are really devoted, my grandparents are super devoted, and so are my ants and uncles.

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  HereIgo

  Yes, I think almost all of us have felt what you are feeling. However, like William said, you have to do it for yourself, otherwise it wont work. You will end up feeling guilty and go right back to the org. You have to make sure you really research and if you do decide to leave the org, make sure that YOU are content with your decision. My advice to you, being that you are so young and still living with family, just play the game, continue going to meetings etc until you get to a place mentally and financially to where you can be on your own. Trying to leave the org while living with JW family will be 10 x harder and may put you in a really bad spot financially If they were to try to kick you out, etc. Wish you the best!
  
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  Is disassociating worth the hassle?

  by HereIgo in

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  2. experiences

  i have been out now for 6 years but lately i have been giving some thought to da.

  i just kind of feel that chapter in my life is still open and for some reason i feel like da'ing might close that chapter but i'm not entirely sure.

  im not df either, when i left i basically faded and disappeared.

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  HereIgo

  I appreciate the responses. I guess it wouldn't make sense to DA since I am off the radar. I do have certain family in, like my mom and a few sisters. DA would ruin any future chance of reconciliation.
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  Is disassociating worth the hassle?

  by HereIgo in

  1. jw
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  i have been out now for 6 years but lately i have been giving some thought to da.

  i just kind of feel that chapter in my life is still open and for some reason i feel like da'ing might close that chapter but i'm not entirely sure.

  im not df either, when i left i basically faded and disappeared.

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  HereIgo

  I have been out now for 6 years but lately I have been giving some thought to DA. I just kind of feel that chapter in my life is still open and for some reason I feel like DA'ing might close that chapter but I'm not entirely sure. Im not DF either, when I left I basically faded and disappeared. I am interested in hearing your thoughts, particularly those who have DA. Did it make a difference for you? Nothing serious, just venting...
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  New type study for inactive ones now?

  by careful in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  of course, conducting a "bible" study (actually a wts publication study) with an inactive person who comes back is nothing new.

  i did so on occasion when i was in, or the boe would assign someone else to do so, especially if it was a sister.. however, i recently heard of this: during the course of the study the elders would go through a loyalty check of the person wanted to rejoin up by going through the baptismal questions again, just like they were a complete newbie.

  has anyone else heard of this?

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  HereIgo

  That is interesting. I have never heard of this but its not surprising. It could just be the local BOE going beyond the things written once again. Hopefully some ex or current elders still in will shed light on this....
  
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  An old Kingdom hall now a church?

  by HereIgo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  have any of you heard of anything like this.

  i remember an ex jw from ohio taking video of a former kingdom hall that is now a church.

  apparently the society sold it to the church.

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  HereIgo

  Have any of you heard of anything like this. I remember an ex JW from Ohio taking video of a former kingdom hall that is now a church. Apparently the society sold it to the church. Can it get any more hypocritical than this? Profiting from Babylon The Great? Interesting.....
  
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  Petty Rules

  by HereIgo in

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  2. experiences

  did your congregation have any petty man made rules?

  i remember the elders in my cong didn't like if a single brother and single sister walked in the parking lot together after the meeting ended, to their car.

  you couldn't hold the mic or give a talk without a coat (that might be a universal jw rule).

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  HereIgo

  Did your congregation have any petty man made rules? I remember the elders in my cong didn't like if a single brother and single sister walked in the parking lot together after the meeting ended, to their car. You couldn't hold the mic or give a talk without a coat (that might be a universal JW rule). No soul patches or facial hair of any kind. I have even heard some congs required that a bro wear a white dress shirt under his coat while on the platform, no other color. Thoughts?
  
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  I’m feeling a bit down and troubled

  by Tallon in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  what is getting me down are the difficult and troubling experiences posted by some of the forum users.

  in a number of cases i cannot believe the injustice inflicted on the person.

  how, forgive the wording, in god’s name can this be happening?

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  HereIgo

  You certainly are not the only one feeling that way. Although it is depressing, I think its also refreshing to read about all of these negative JW experiences as it reinforces that this is not the truth. I think some Ex JW's still need that validation from time to time and its nice to know that others have gone through similar experiences.
  
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  Blood is thicker than water??

  by HereIgo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i remember a co saying from the platform, " people often say blood is thicker than water.

  well not in jehovah's organization" i don't know about anyone else, but it sure rubbed me the wrong way and one of the million reasons why i left!.

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  HereIgo

  I remember a CO saying from the platform, " People often say blood is thicker than water. Well not in Jehovah's Organization" I don't know about anyone else, but it sure rubbed me the wrong way and one of the million reasons why I left!
  
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  Extreme rules on Dating – is this for all congregations?

  by Bonnie_Clyde in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just found out that in the congregation we used to attend there are two young brothers, both are sons of elders and recently engaged to girls in neighboring congregations.

  instructions are that they may not sit together at assemblies or meetings.

  but get this….they can’t even ride in the same car even if their parents are also in the car.

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  HereIgo

  I have heard that dating couples should not sit together at the meetings until engaged but everything else you mentioned sounds excessive. I agree with slim, sounds like the parents are enforcing the extra rules.
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  We are imperfect

  by HereIgo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i can't tell you how many times i have heard this while growing up as a witness.

  every time i questioned hypocrisy in the org i was told " well we are imperfect" and its was beyond annoying.

  at what point does "imperfect" turn into just not christian?

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  HereIgo

  I can't tell you how many times I have heard this while growing up as a witness. Every time I questioned hypocrisy in the org I was told " well we are imperfect" and its was beyond annoying. At what point does "imperfect" turn into just NOT Christian? At what point are witnesses accountable for what they do? What is a good response for that situation when told that?