I know EXACTLY how you feel. My best friend for 10 years knew ALL of my secrets and I knew hers (her biggies were: sleeping with her husband for 1+ years before they got married and still lied about their behavior to get married in the KH, AND having a close friendship with a DFd male friend and almost leaving her husband for him.)
About 2 years ago, I came clean to the elders about all of my secrets and was reproved. I told her I did this and she was in total shock, but I said "I want to have a clean conscience and the elders were so kind. You need to do the same." She never did but I also never pressed the issue.
Now right before I was getting DFd, she claimed we would still have our friendship, on the down low for her sake. This seemed fair since she had no issue hanging out with DFd people in the past including someone she had strong, romantic feelings for. She would just hang out with them in parts of town that she knew other JWs didn't go to.
2 months into my disfellowshipping? I get a message saying that she misses me but she's "trying to do better spiritually" and won't be talking to me during this time. WTF?!?!?!
Hypocrisy runs so high with JWs, it makes me sick.