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  the sweetest thing

  by forgetmenot in

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  what is the sweetest or nicest thing somebody of the opposite sex has ever said or done for you?

  or what would you want somebody of the opposite sex to say or do to you to make you all happy inside?

  i'm not looking for sexual things here just things that make you stop and go "ahh how nice".

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  ShaunaC

  The sweetest thing ever done for me....

  About a year and a half after getting of the WT I had begun to experience severe depression. Every 2-4 weeks I would lose myself in crying fits that I could not stop. It culminated in me writing a letter to my parents explaining why I had left. This after my honey Nick had already behind my back had called my mom twice asking what he could do to help repair our relationship. She of course explained that the only acceptable thing was for me to return. His calls never did spur her to call me.

  Anyway, a few months later I finally had a sit down discussion with my parents. It ended very badly, with them walking out of my house without even saying goodbye. On the way out my mother threw a 5 page letter on the table, a letter full of so many hateful things a mother should never say. I was so deeply sad that I could barely function.

  At the time Nick was living 2 1/2 hours away from me. The day after my meeting with the parents I drove after work to see him for the weekend. As soon as I got there he had a basket ready and we headed out. We ended up at a sand dune where I see huge as day "I love you Shauna" written with seaweed on the dune. He was upset that some of my name had gotten messed up (he had done it early that morning). We then hiked the dune and sat and ate our picnic dinner before a beautiful California ocean sunset.

  I have never felt so loved after feeling so unloved from my own parents. It was truly the sweetest and most loving thing he has ever done, although he's come close quite often. I LOVE YOU NICK!!!

  Shauna
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  Will You Celebrate Halloween This Year?

  by minimus in

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  some fundamentalists believe halloween is the devil's holiday.so are you doing anything on halloween?

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  ShaunaC

  While a JW, Halloween was the holiday I abhored the most, followed closely by Christmas cuz those damn songs would get stuck in my head! :)

  Now however, I think I love Halloween the most. It's true that adults can have just as much fun dressing up as children do. I start planning my costume late summer. And with the fear of demons that the WT instilled in me gone, I no longer get freaked out by the ghosts and goblins. Who cares? It's all make-believe.

  So this will be my 3rd Halloween. My first....the sluttiest red devil you have ever seen (thought it was fitting for my 1st), last year....hot biker chick (leather & tattoos, yeah!!!), and this year...dominatrix (dying to wear a black wig and drag my man around by a chain).

  The point is, it does not have to be as serious as the WT told us. Have fun with it!!!
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  Larc's weekend survey

  by larc in

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  could you please take a few minutes to answer the following questions:.

  1. your age.

  2. how long were you a witness.

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  ShaunaC

  1. your age 28

  2. how long were you a Witness birth to 24

  3. how long have you been out of the religion. 4 years

  4. which of the following symptoms did you experience as a witness.

  4a. depression Probably the last year or so of being a JW it came to a head.About 1 1/2 years after I got out I suffered sever depression in the way that every couple of weeks to a month I would lose myself in uncontrollable crying fits. After 6 months or so this subsided, without drugs or therapy, although I still feel the need for therapy.

  4b. low self esteem Always to some degree, but became worse upon leaving. I think this is especially so for women who have been raised as a JW. I'm getting much better though!

  4c. anxiety Not while a JW, but some after leaving when I had to make my own decisions for the first time in my life.

  4d. psychosis

  5. Today, which of those symptoms do you have? a,b,and c on occasion...see above for explanation.

  6. Today, how would you rate your overall degree of happiness 1. much less happy than as a JW 2. somewhat less happy 3. just as happy 4. somewhat more happy 5. much more happy. Despite all I've had to leave behind (family), there is nothing greater than freedom!!! After 4 years, my loss of relationships w/ people I was once so close to leave me only sad for them. I no longer feel sadness for myself for that loss because I know I'm a better person and no longer want such self-righteous, judgemental people in my life. I have new family now! Blood means nothing!
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  Feeling pretty grateful right about now

  by bigboi in

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  well, i guess u can say that i've dodged the proverbial bullet.

  now only if i could've dodged that damn rim yesterday!.

  yesterday at work a tire and rim application that i had been workin on came apart under about 60 lbs of pressure and smacked me right in the face.

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  ShaunaC

  Aaaaahhhhhh! BIGBOI!!!!! Hope you're feeling better.

  Hey I miss ya. We gotta talk soon. Hope all is well in NO. What's up with the girl front?!!

  Talk to ya soon!

  Kisses,

  Shauna
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  Anyone ever rub elbows with a Celebrity?

  by RubyTuesday in

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  when i was in the sixth grade in roswell n.m. i met this girl whos father had recently died.my father had also passed away recently.we were both very shy and haveing the lose of our fathers in common we stuck together that year.we never did anything outside of school however, not sure why,she never invited me over and now i think it was because of her horrible home life.but we ate lunch together everyday and chated in a class we shared.i never saw her again until..... when i was in my 20's my cousins wife told me that my friend demetria guynes was....... drum roll..plz.

  demi moore.

  please share simular stories.

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  ShaunaC

  Met and hung out with Tony Hawk and Bucky Lassek (sp?) this past May in Vegas. Very cool guys and so down to earth. It's now so much more fun to watch the X Games!

  Same night in Vegas, same club, I met the May 2002 Playboy centerfold. What a snobby bitch! It was hilarious to see Tony and the boys not at all interested in her but talking up a storm with little ole me.

  A couple of years ago Nick played craps with Mike Meyers in Vegas. Won him a lot of money too.

  A couple of months ago Billy Zane from Titanic fame was hanging out here in Monterey for a couple of weekends. I introduced myself and told him to have a fun night. As usual with all those actors, they are so much shorter in real life.
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  Age Sex Location Occupation Anyone?

  by Perfection Seeker in

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  33 female iowa massage therapist happily married no children (yet).

  anyone else?

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  ShaunaC

  28...female...in a committed relationship for 3 years, lived together for 1 year...self-employed (I am my own employment agency)...live in Monterey, CA. No kids, no pets...just too damn busy and selfish at this time.

  Shauna
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  What kind of dreams did you have as a JW?

  by Preston in

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  2. medical

  i've been doing some research on dream interpretation lately and as i would like to know if you ever had any strange or recurring dreams when you were a jw.

  for instance, if you often had dreams of being chased by the police or some type of powerful entity, it could represent your struggle with the quthority that the organization often represented itself to be.

  i think it's an interesting topic, just thought i'd see if you guys had anything to add.... .

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  ShaunaC

  I used to have a very odd recurring dream since I was a child. I would continue to have it every few years until I was an early adult. I don't remember the last time I had it. But I do know I have not had it since leaving the Borg.

  Here goes....

  It's very similar to that old movie "Invasion of the Body Snatchers". I am in the bathroom of a gymnasium. It's very dark with spider webs all around. Inside all of the stalls are the pods. As they begin to move like they are going to hatch I decide to leave. Although I don't recall being scared, I run out of the bathroom into the pool area. The pool is filled with firey lava, looked over by what I imagine to be Satan sitting in the lifeguards chair. I don't recall how my dream ended. Perhaps I was forced into the lava.

  I always felt my dream was caused by an incident between my mother & I when I was very young. I have worn glasses since I was 3 years old. My vision today is beyond awful. My prescription is over 1000. One day at home with my mom the movie "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" was on TV. I was deeply engrossed in the film, being such a young child. When all of the sudden my mother said during a commerical break slightly alertly but not scared, "Shauna, what is that on your bed?" I peered into my room but saw nothing. The movie continued. At the next break she started again, "Shauna, there is definitely something laying on your bed. It looks like a plant pod." I'm streching to see but see nothing. I think it's because I'm so blind. The movie continues. Then at the next break she really let me have it. "Shauna, the pod has gotten bigger! Shauna, the pod is moving! Shauna, there's something coming out of it! Shauna, it's a little girl and she's got.......glasses!!!"

  It wasn't till she starting laughing that I realized she was kidding. Up until that time I literally thought a pod was on my bed and that the person coming out of it was me.

  I can't remember how long after that my dream started. And I'm not sure why I attached to it the hell-like scene.

  So what do ya think? Yeah, I know....weird....and oh so cruel of my mother!

  Shauna
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  My chat with Elder Dad. (I'm angry!!)

  by home_and_dry in

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  i feel the need for a rant!

  i had a conversation with my jw elder father tonight that has left me seething.

  just to set the scene, i left the jws back in 1994. i was baptized, having been dfd and reinstated a couple of years prior to my final exit in 94. i was never dfd again and pretty much left to my own devices.

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  ShaunaC

  How in the world did this turn into a thread about marriage? Good grief people!!!

  Home, sorry to hear about your dad. Mine is much the same way. I've lost a lot of respect for him as of late. I guess I always figured my mom to be irrational, manipulative and bitchy. But my dad is my daddy! When your father doesn't seem quite the man you thought he was it's quite disheartening...even when it's expected because of the JW thang. My dad too is an elder and I have also come to the conclusion that he's unfortunately an elder first and my dad second.

  ((((((Home)))))))

  OK, now as far as the marriage vs. living in sin thing....

  Don't let anyone tell you what is morally acceptable. Not to you or even your children. What's most important is that your kids learn love and committment. The piece of paper will come when you are ready for it, albeit that mean the money to have your dream wedding or the willingness in your heart to make that step.

  And there is a difference between the "stupid piece of paper" of a marriage license and that of a driver's license. The driver's license is required by law to drive. You do not have to have a marriage license to live together. Infact, I believe common law marriages are given many of the same rights as licensed marriages in some states, if I'm not mistaken. In California, if a person lives with another for over 1 year they are allowed a sort of alimony when the relationship fails if one of the people gave up income to live together.

  As far as the stupid statistics on there being a higher chance of a split if a couple lives together rather than marriage......ah....DUH.....maybe these people realized they were not right for each other and rightfully ended the relationship. Perhaps many of those that get married also realize they are not right for each other but stay together for the kids or out of fear of being alone. Doesn't that make sense?

  In the end, it's each individuals own choice. And no self-righteous JW or ex-JW should tell you otherwise.

  My hopes for a better relationship with your family in time as I have for mine!

  Shauna
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  Lets get friendly! (pics are welcome)

  by SpiceItUp in

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  when i meet somebody for the first time i always have a few standard questions i ask them...so how about it.

  i would like to know about all you wonderful people that i chat and post with on a daily basis.

  this is me (i edited to put the link in by stephanus...thanks a bunch) .

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  ShaunaC

  Xander....I like your hair up. SO sexy! [:|] Oh, and I would love to tag team Laetitia with you!

  Slippy....now I know why I love you so much, my fellow DM fan!
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  Will this work?

  by SpiceItUp in

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  ok. i am thinking of trying this to maybe get my family to start questioning things.. here's what i want to do.

  i want to get one of the ray franz books and casually leave it available for them to pick up.

  my mother is not that bright to where she may think its something my dad brought home and open it up.

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  ShaunaC

  Spice, I have read both books. CofC is more basic but definitely started to let the light shine. Reading SofCF infuriated me. It got into the real meat of the deceit of the WTS and how they interpret scripture to their own liking.

  I would suggest that you read both books yourself before giving them to your family. You won't be able to have a conversation about it with them unless you have read it yourself.

  Good luck!

  Shauna