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  Yoga for JWs

  by EyesOpenHeartBroken in

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  i was chatting with my very jw pioneer mother (aged 65) and out of the blue she tells me she is sore from a particular pose she did in yoga class.

  "wait, what??

  " i say in my mind.

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  Thanks Wakanda for the reply. That is what I thought.

  My mom is strict in avoiding anything associated with "spiritism" or "false religion", so I was surprised that she is doing yoga now.
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  Yoga for JWs

  by EyesOpenHeartBroken in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i was chatting with my very jw pioneer mother (aged 65) and out of the blue she tells me she is sore from a particular pose she did in yoga class.

  "wait, what??

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  I was chatting with my very JW pioneer mother (aged 65) and out of the blue she tells me she is sore from a particular pose she did in yoga class.

  "Wait, what?? " I say in my mind. But I choose to keep quiet.

  She looked at me like she was expecting me to react or say something. So I kept my best poker face and asked her about the sore area in her body (previous injury). Nothing more said about yoga. I didn't feel like getting into it with her, so I didn't question further or call her out.

  So did I miss something? Is yoga acceptable for dubs now?

  By way of a little back story, about 15 years ago my very same uber dub pioneer mother "readjusted" a friend and I for expressing interest taking yoga at a gym.

  So I guess I'm wondering if my mom is just thinking for herself or if there has been a shift in policy.
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  Need help with a reference dealing with the Generations and SPLAINE

  by ttdtt in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  when originally explaining the "new generations" splaine used the example of joseph and his brothers.. he backed up the time difference between the original anointed, and the new ones by using what he said was a big age difference between the youngest "joseph" and his oldest brothers.. then more recently in a jw broadcast - he said that there was not a big age difference between joseph and his oldest brother.. can any one help me find both those, please?.

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  Hi ttdtt-- I vaguely remember a morning worship talk by Ken Flodin after Splane's infamous overlapping timeline. After praising Splane's fine presentation, Flodin proceeds to carefully insinuate an adjustment in the timeline. If memory serves, he put the end before 2034...I don't have time to check right now.

  Hope that helps...🤔
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  Help Finding Poster's Challenge

  by Wake Me Up Before You Jo-Ho in

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  hey guys,.

  i've been trying hard to locate a comment that was posted no longer than a few weeks ago (if that) by a poster providing a challenge for witnesses to find one scripture that states that we are still saved/have hope if we are outside of this "new covenant" that wt claims is for the 144,000 only.

  the thread was to do with ways we can wake up a loved one and this particular poster (i can't remember who) gave a step-by-step guide to helping witnesses waking up using their own bible and doctrine.

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  Hi there--I remember the comment you are talking about. I believe it was a comment posted by "Perry"
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  The old "Book Study Group"

  by The Fall Guy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in the june 2004 kingdom ministry, the self-appointed "faithful slave" published this spiritual exhortation as a q&a item - "the congregation book study—why we need it.

  three years later, in 2007 - in the august kingdom ministry - the same "slave" issued this reminder - "how the congregation book study arrangement helps us.

  but surprise, surprise - within a few short months the "slave" decided that jehovah had had a change of heart, and now decided that the book study in homes - with all of its alleged benefits - was superfluous: .

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  I heard the rumor about liability issues being at the root of discontinuing home book study groups, but I don't think that is the case. The reason I say this is because there are still WT assigned service group meetings in private homes.

  I think there is a combo of reasons:

  1)Lack of "qualified brothers" to conduct

  2)Lack of homes offered with adequate space or parking

  3)Control of atmosphere and information flow

  In most bookstudy groups I attended, there was a relaxed and friendly feel, often with coffee or treats after or even a book study dinner. The flavor of the book study was usually set by the host family and sometimes the conductor. We sometimes had a conductor who loved to research and he would assigned different people to look up things (often from nonJW sources). Another conductor said book study should be about fellowship and he would keep the study to 30 min (sometimes even skipping paragraphs or combining a group of them) so we could chat and have treats and coffee together every week.I have Many more examples of personality driven/flavored bookstudy groups.

  More and more the GB seems to be aiming for an extremely high level of uniformity (under the guise of unity and simplicity). So I would say the overriding reason home book study was cancelled was .....CONTROL!
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  Are JWs "mind trained" to be habitual liars?

  by nonjwspouse in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i don't mean overly obvious, or otherwise meaning to cause harm, but taught to lie for the purpose of avoidance.

  this type of lying can be pervasive in areas of life that are not just to avoid discussions with people who have questions about the jw, etc.

  my husband will lie/be deceitful about the silliest, simple things.

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  Nonjwspouse- sorry you are going through this. Sounds like a very stressful situation.

  In answer to your question, yes I have noticed many witnesses are very adept at telling lies, half truths, and twisting data. Primarily though, I have seen it in defense of the org and it's nonsensical doctrines, not as much for personal gain.

  Although, I also think because JW is not truly a faith based system, but rather a prescribed outwardly observable program that members follow, it lends itself to leading a double life and minor "fibbing" to keep up the facade. The goal is looking good to outsiders and other congregants, not improving oneself inside and developing good and authentic relationships.

  I was a born-in JW, and this always bothered me. I noticed the incongruous behavior and had a hard time trusting JWs or feeling comfortable with them. My father was an adult convert with an outgoing personality and a strong distaste for deceit. My mother was an adult convert with quieter nature and a desire to keep the peace at all cost, to including fibbing for the sake of peace, the org, and other people's feelings. She does not lie to shield herself from consequences or for personal gain, always for the gain or reputation of someone else. She is intensely loyal to many people who do not reciprocate or have an agenda she is unaware of, which causes her to get into a pickle sometimes and then more lying or manipulating ensues to smooth it over. It's frustrating! And so much drama! Getting some distance from her and her associates has been a help to me gaining some peace.

  As a side of unsolicited advice, have you considered separate finances with your husband? Doesn't have to be 50/50, but add up monthly expenses (including percent of debt pay off) and decide what percentage each of you will pay toward monthly household. The next step is key--pay the bills together. He needs the stop seeing you as the gatekeeper to the money, and start seeing the reality of what comes in and what goes out. If you each have remaining balances in your separate accounts, that belongs to each of you use without answering to the other. And keep the business finances completely separate from personal--no depositing business checks and withdrawing cash for personal use. All business income needs to be cycled back through the business and then pay yourselves a salary, hourly wage, or percentage of the profit (based on what the business can support and remain sustainable). So at the least, your household would have 4 separated financial systems : 1) the business, 2) yours 3) his 4) the household. At first it may seem like a shell game, but if you stick to it you can get the finances back on track. It can also help with honest communication because you are both dealing in hard data.

  Probably you already know all this, and I do not intend to be condesceding, but these steps really helped a close family member who was in a similar predicament as you.

  I wish you all the best and hope you can come to a decision that helps yourself and your daughter, and possibly the marriage if you deem it salvageable. Hugs..
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  What is behind your choice of forum user name?

  by stuckinarut2 in

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  2. friends

  just curious how we all think.. what prompted or influenced your choice of username for this forum?.

  there are some really amazing names, and it would be great to hear the stories behind them.... mine was nothing fancy.

  i just felt "stuck in a rut too" along with so many others.

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  My username describes the cause and effect in my inner world upon fully realizing TTATT.

  Unfortunately, three years later, I am still broken-hearted.
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  JW Wife not listening

  by rathernotsay in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey guys, looking for some advice with what to do with my jw wife that is simply ignoring my wishes/demands.

  first a little back story, we have been married for 6 years and have 3 children together.

  she is a jw, and i am not (nor do i have any religious beliefs).

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  TALK to your wife BEFORE you do anything else. Do not bring the elders into your marriage. You may get what you want in the short term, by invoking JW headship rules on your wife, but I guarantee you undermine productive communication and trust with her.

  You need re-affirm your love and care for her. Ask her what she needs. Ask her what she wants. Then tell her what you need. Tell her what you want. (And I'm not talking about "don't touch my man cave stuff" or I bought you a new mattress in exchange for keeping kids out of bed") Dig deep and lay out your heart for her...Examples: "I want to spend more time as a family with you and the kids", "I need us to spend more time with my friends and relatives", "I miss you when you are away", "I want and need to spend more intimate time with you", "I want to see a marriage counselor to help us get closer and communicate better." If she loves you, hearing that you love her and want to be with her with let her know you have forgiven her cheating and would like to move forward. It's all about time ...you have to make time for each other and for those kids. Make sure you see her as a woman and a valuable partner, not a nanny and housekeeper. I would not approach the pioneer thing, just build your marriage and she will crave time with you, which will exclude time spent in other activities.

  P.S. About the man cave...if you are spending your free time in there playing video games and what not, instead of time with wife and kiddos, then of course she'll choose JW activities over home.
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  Last of the big conventions?

  by NikL in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  had lunch with some friends during today's waste of time convention.

  they spoke of the rumor floating around that the jws will move away from these big regional conventions and have them at assembly halls and tie them in to kingdom halls.. they seemed to believe it was a pretty reliable source.. i think it would be too good to be true but who knows?.

  anyone else heard this rumor?.

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  Nik, it is actually the reverse of what you said. Congregation members are expected to go to assigned regional convention. Only those properly assessed by the BOE as infirm are invited to watch the vids at the KH instead of attending the larger venue. Of course, BOEs vary in their application of the WT rule, so some congregations may do an open invitation, but this is not in accord with corporate policy.
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  Lots of newbies posting! Welcome one and all!

  by freddo in

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  2. friends

  is there something going on in jaydub land that has brought this on?

  hope so!.

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  EyesOpenHeartBroken

  Wow Phizzy! That is interesting, hope the trend makes it across the Pond...the American JWs don't seem as savvy ...yet 😉