funny how the prospect of christmas takes me back to my pre-dub days as a 7 year old.
christmas eve was spent making my present request list, duly guided by both my parents as to what to ask for.
once completed, the coal fire was stoked up and the precious list was allowed to be carried up the chimney where waiting elves promptly delivered my requests to santa.
This will be my 2nd Xmas. Last year I was mostly an observer.
I want to do it up this year but I'm afraid. My sister is still JW and, though Im DFed, is still close to me. I dont want to driver her away.
MPatrick: You said you had a hard time with Xmas until you were better informed on what a load of crap the Borg is....
What do I need to know? I still have SO much guilt about leaving. I've read Crisis of Conscience but I feel like I need to know more.
Can any of you help?
i've been "out" for almost 2 years now.
i still haven't fully adjusted.
what do you guys do about holidays?.
I've been "out" for almost 2 years now. I still haven't fully adjusted. What do you guys do about holidays?
My husband (been married 2 mo) likes to celebrate them, it takes him back to his happy childhood years. It's not a question of "Is Xmas really Christ's Bday?" I tend to see that as more of just family traditions. But he wants to put up decorations, tree etc. I don't want to offend my family (Still JWs) who have been very loyal and are still close to me. From what Ive read, that isn't all that common when you are DFed.
What do y'all do?
I posted a similar question on another topic... Did any of you have dreams after you left? I frequently dream things along the lines of meeting up with people from my JW past and either being outed as DFed at a JW event or defending my position.
http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/singlewitnesses.
let the hilarity ensue... i've already started over there, i think you should too.. slipnslidemaster:"and now about the cauldron sing, like elves and fairies in a ring, enchanting all that you put in.".
- william shakespeare, macbeth
Dearest Steph, Is it all that easy to embarrass you?
What's a Dub?
My story... Raised JW. Reg Pio for a year at 17. Got sick of attempting perfection and having to keep all my "I wonder..." to myself.
Stopped going to meetings 2 years ago. About a year ago my sister told me her conscience was bothering her because she felt she should tell the elders about my boyfriend. (Don't berate her, she really believes) So I told her that I didn't want her to go through all that and that I would call the elders. Basically said, hey, I'm living with my boyfriend, (wasn't at the time but seemed a good way to get it over with quickly) don't intend to stop. No, dont want to meet with you, do what you've gotta do.
I'm sure they were all super shocked. Not 6mo before I left they had been pestering me about taking the Reg Pio Plunge again.
I'm now married, usually happily, but it's still hard. My immediate family loves me and we are almost as close as we used to be. Cousins, aunts etc wont speak to me.
I really wish I had NOT gotten myself DFed. Shoulda just faded away. Then I wouldn't be the girl without a past. I have no contact outside my family with anyone who used to know me more than 2 years ago.
Do any of you have dreams? 3-5 times a week I have a dream about being DFed. I go to a Circuit assembly and then get discovered. Or I meet up with people I used to know and have to tell them Im happy as is. I wonder is it God talking to me or was I just completely brainwashed...
http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/singlewitnesses.
let the hilarity ensue... i've already started over there, i think you should too.. slipnslidemaster:"and now about the cauldron sing, like elves and fairies in a ring, enchanting all that you put in.".
- william shakespeare, macbeth
I just found this board. You guys are cracking me up. I only left the "truth" a year ago - I had no idea how NOT alone I am.
They really do delete post on that Single JW board. I can't find any of your post referred to in this thread.
