i think back on the 30+ years of bs as well as my fading almost a decade and even now being low key in person to hopefully save my nieces from the wt.
i'm a wreck in some ways.
i'm other days i'm stable however when it comes to theism i depart quickly and with anger!
I am a theist , not a JW , and l have tried to talk to JWs . They DON'T listen , l get the cover my ears and sing la la la reaction . You know that anyone who is not a JW is viewed with suspicion .
Also not all faith groups are the same but you aren't listening to that are you ?
Sorry to be so blunt , it's not my usual style , but you said that you wished that someone had been blunt with you years ago . I don't think that it would have worked , would it ?
Jan
my father married b when both her children and his children were grown adults.
b had two children, a son d and a daughter m. my sister db, my brother rh, and myself got along well with m but not at all with d, who was a very christian person but not a jw.
my siblings and i do not have much to do with our stepmother though we are civil and we don't have any hard feelings between us.
3rdGen thank you for your post. I should have said that he has been gone 20 years now so l have gone through all the stages of grieving and am able to get on with life . Of course l think of him all the time but with slightly less sadness now . The hardest bit is seeing his contemporaries married and with children and l do wonder how his life would have worked out .
How are you ? At least l didn't have to cope with such insensitivity .
Jan
my father married b when both her children and his children were grown adults.
b had two children, a son d and a daughter m. my sister db, my brother rh, and myself got along well with m but not at all with d, who was a very christian person but not a jw.
my siblings and i do not have much to do with our stepmother though we are civil and we don't have any hard feelings between us.
I lost son aged 25 to cancer . I would totally agree with all of the above. To say nothing is worse. I would have people avoid me in the street because they just couldn't talk to me . I kinda got that but if they had just said " l am so sorry " that would have been ok .
Yes sometimes people said things that weren't helpful but l knew that they meant well and wanted to give comfort . That was ok
What l would add is that sometimes people want to be left alone . I remember sitting in the cemetery where my son was buried a couple of days after the funeral . I was sobbing and a lady who lived over the road from the cemetery saw me and came over. She sat down next to me and said something . I replied that l would like to be alone . I don't know what she thought would happen if she left me alone but she didn't go . I felt that because l was obviously worrying her l had to try and stop crying , say that l was alright and go home . Now her actions were really kind , but l just wanted some space to grieve in my way , on my own .
Jan
someone i know from england is a nurse.
she told me there was an outbreak at the hospital and she got the virus after being vaccinated.
she said she was told it probably would have been much worse for her had she not gotten vaccinated.
Here in the UK l don't remember being told that the vaccine stopped you getting covid. As Stan said it lessens the impact so people who may have been hospitalised won't be that ill after taking the vaccine .
This is to stop deaths because you won't be so poorly and to take pressure off hospitals . At the moment routine ops are being cancelled and we have heard about cancer treatment being put back because beds and staff are being used for covid patients. I was never under the impression that this would stop covid in it's tracks .
Jan
Happy Australia Day .
Jan
made a big mistake of talking about being raised as a jehovah's witness to some old friends and family.
people have told me that i am still a jws even though i've never been baptized.
i'm in school for social services, dealing with student loan debt, and a lot of other debt.
Joliette Carla makes some good points . Joining a charitably organisation means being with people who care for people, not something that the WT is known for.
Hi Carla . It's nice to meet someone who gets what l was saying . As we know people at church don't because of their experience in church and people on here who are ex JWs don't because of their experience with a cult.
No disrespect intended guys it just is hard to get your head around someone else's experience .
Jan
made a big mistake of talking about being raised as a jehovah's witness to some old friends and family.
people have told me that i am still a jws even though i've never been baptized.
i'm in school for social services, dealing with student loan debt, and a lot of other debt.
Joliette as l said l am a life long Anglican and believe me my church is nothing like the WT . I know that a lot of folk here think that they are all the same but my experience is totally different.
I thought that l knew about JWs until l came on here and tbh it took me a long time to get my head around all the information on here . It took me a while to understand the mind control that kept people in the Org .
When l try to talk to others in my church about the WT they think that l am being nasty because they don't get the way that members are manipulated.
As to a " get in " just look up your local Baptist , Methodist, Anglican church and contact the Vicar , Pastor etc .
I feel that you are making excuses, perhaps the WT teaching about Christendom is putting you off . If so then they are still controlling you .
Jan
most jws are restricted to letter writing ministry right now.
of course i've heard a load of highly dubious 'encouraging experiences' about it already.. but what i'm wondering is how these letters are actually being received and what effect they are really having?.
i also find it disturbing that jws are being told to put their home address on the letters they send out.
I received one but the address on it was for the local Kingdom Hall , although the writer did sign her name .
It finished with " If you would like to respond to this letter you may do so at the above address ( KH ) or on [email protected] "
I did respond on the email option ( l started a thread about this and put the response there ) but had no reply .
I live in Tamworth UK .
Jan
made a big mistake of talking about being raised as a jehovah's witness to some old friends and family.
people have told me that i am still a jws even though i've never been baptized.
i'm in school for social services, dealing with student loan debt, and a lot of other debt.
Joliette l don't know where you are . I do know that in England there are charities that can help with sorting out debt . This may be true in other countries . I am sure that practical help is out there that could help you get back in control .
I still think that professional help in the form of counselling is needed and joining a different church would be better
Jan
made a big mistake of talking about being raised as a jehovah's witness to some old friends and family.
people have told me that i am still a jws even though i've never been baptized.
i'm in school for social services, dealing with student loan debt, and a lot of other debt.
Juliette l am female . I have never been a JW so l don't know the hold that this cult can have over people .
I am a life long Anglican and l agree with the people who are saying that you need professional help and if you want a faith based support system join another faith community. Just please get some proper help . You sound really depressed and going back into the WT now really won't help.
Jan x
