These two quotes:
No one should be forced to worship in a way that he finds unacceptable or be made to choose between his beliefs and his family
This is the OTHER side of the "freedom to choose" equation.
The subject of that sentence is the person who feels pressured to worship in a manner that's not heart-felt.
However, the words that aren't stated (but are well-known to be the case, even if unspoken) is that the REST of the family IS equally free to make the choice NOT to associate with the non-believer: they don't have to associate with the one who's questioning the faith (and hence, everyone elses). And even if one of the family members experience some remorse or guilt over shunning the questioning family member, THEY likewise don't have to choose between family or religious beliefs: they ALSO could be shunned as well, if the burden of making that choice is too much for them to bear. The Witnesses will put them out of their misery, and shun them, as well.
And:
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/bible/126156/1/JW-Children-Lie-in-Custody-Cases
Are very, very interesting! That referenced tread is very long, but brings up the idea that sometimes we are convinced what we think is being said isn't being said after all since our biases or intuition – which can often be faulty – is at play. This idea is similar to how we preceive optical illusions. I'm taking a class in irrational behavior right now and it brings out that our eyes spent millions of years evolving to see what is really there physically, yet we still can be illusioned. Is it possible that we can be illusioned in our cognitive, concious thinking, something which is more abstract and certainly hasn't had as much time for evolution to tune as effectively as something like vision? Not only is this possibe, but we'd be more likely to be illusioned cognitively, than visually.
At first glance, no one should be forced to worship in a way that he finds unacceptable or be made to choose between his beliefs and his family certainly sounds like a lie!
But is that a lie? This is related to one of my other posts about why propagandize/appeal to emotion when criticizing JWs/WTBTS, where I challenge if we should be quick to assert (when it comes to statements like this) that the WTBTS lies. I'm not arguing that we can't find examples where they (representatives of the WTBTS) are lying, I’m sure we can, but this specific statement (the one in blue highlight), is it a lie? To define a lie, it is a statement that is intended to deceive or made with knowledge that it is not factual.
I was DF'd over non-doctrinal grounds. I had the opportunity to return to the religion and enjoy association with my family and friends. However, I also did not believe the religion anymore (or any for that matter, I’m now an atheist). Thus I was presented with a choice between my beliefs (i.e. I don't believe the religion, I lack belief in the supernatural) and family (i.e. requiring me to either believe something I don’t – is that possible? - or to act like I believe).
I’d like someone to play devil’s advocate here. Someone please tell me how I was not forced to make that choice? I’m having a hard time not seeing this as a lie. But I also don’t want to be quick and just assert that they are lying when it might be more nuanced than that, in a strictly rhetorical way. In short, I don’t want to jump to conclusions.