I'm out...my wife is in...
We both agreed if there was any abuse on any level the other is free to go...we both agree.
Thankfully, it won't happen as we are happily married but my wife, even though in, would never accept a "steve" slapping her about...
It's mental what the WT has done to people's thinking...when I was elder we had to deal with husbands hitting their wives and raping them and yet they would both seem happy at the next meeting...a pretense!