dubstepped, I'm sorry to hear that. My father never made much time for me either (although I was raised in a fundamentalist Baptist church) so I get what it's like...
He also got so beyond in child support once that my mother wrote him a letter telling him my brother and were about to go to college and she needed the money. He wrote her back and said something like, We had a missionary at our church and I wanted to give them some money but because I'm paying so much in child support, I just forgot about it.