Posts by zophar

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Anyone struggle to find meaning in life?

by Good JW in

just wondering if this is a common thing for you guys and girls?

when i left the jws it was hard to make a connection with people, much of the time i felt that whatever they wanted to talk about just didn't seem relevant/deep/meaningful.

i find myself filtering my mind to get to a level with others (small talk mostly).

zophar

Really enjoying all these thoughtful comments.

Even as a JW the preaching was mainly about who was right and finding the true religion, and not about what was right, how to live a meaningful life.

So much of what is recorded of what Jesus was supposed to have taught was about improving your quality of life. Don't be anxious, be forgiving, do unto others, all are great life principles that can add meaning to life. Instead as a JW, it was, do more you are not doing enough works, teach that you and your religion have all the answers.

JW's who lived 100 years ago thought they were just as close to the end and the future paradise as the JW's today. What is wrong with this picture? Like someone said earlier enjoy the pie now.

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Anyone Watch Dr Phil Show today?

by zophar in

are you watching dr phil with the df wife and still in husband?.

zophar

They are bringing reproach to the Apostate Community!!

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JW story - "husbands JW beliefs ruining the family" - on Dr. Phil today

by ShirleyW in

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"my husbands religious beliefs are ruining our family" is the topic.

i"m not home when it airs on cbs in the afternoon so i watch a rerun on ch 55 here in nyc at 8pm.

i have my cable box all set to switch over at the appropriate time..

zophar

The elders would have contacted the WT legal dept if they were following instructions. The legal department would have been the ones directing the elders to call CPS. Does this mean they are finally getting the point?

Not necessarily. Because of the two witness rule they probably would have felt the testimony of the husband and wife, probably revealed while they were bickering back and forth in front of the elders, would have been all they needed to report.

One thing I don't understand about the two witness rule they insist on using. While they could apply that to congregational judicial procedures, it doesn't have to apply to secular governmental procedures. They could make life so much easier for themselves legally if they just always reported to legal authorities what they hear and let the secular legal system play itself out. That way the congregation would be informed every time of an accusation because of the legal proceedings against the accused. Also, if the accused is innocent, that would be determined through a legal process, not a spiritual judicial process.

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Will #metoo have an affect on forcing changing attitudes at Watchtower?

by jwfacts in

despite decades of the feminist movement, watchtower's attitude of woman being inferior has changed little, with pauline sexism justified as inspired, on the basis that women are lesser emotionally, intellectually and physically.

jehovah's witnesses seem to accept this with little resistance.

is there anything about the #metoo movement that may wake followers up?

zophar

Phoebe

Quite a story you have to tell. It is exactly people in your position that tell the most compelling stories. A working woman trying to make a living being exposed to lecherous men. What you a disgusting experience to live through.

I hope at the very least the recent exposing of some real asshats who felt entitled will make some difference.

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Anyone Watch Dr Phil Show today?

by zophar in

are you watching dr phil with the df wife and still in husband?.

zophar

Thanks Morpheus

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Anyone Watch Dr Phil Show today?

by zophar in

are you watching dr phil with the df wife and still in husband?.

zophar

Are you watching Dr Phil with the DF wife and still in husband?

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Introduce myself

by dantoole87 in

i'd like share why i went from being a teenager determined to work in full time service for jehovah my entire life, to now being on here commiserating with you all.

i use to be an atheist but i now believe in god.

but i'm not preachy about god.

zophar

We have a marriage full of extreme highs and lows.

Appreciated your story. Because JW's emphasize "works" more than "Grace" one finds their worth associated with Pioneering etc

The fact that your life has so many highs and lows could also be the symptom of a disorder like Bi-Polar Manic Depression. If you find these extreme highs and lows happening with you, you might want to seek help. Of course, I can't diagnose that,it could just be a result of being in a messed up belief system among power hungry elders for so long. But take care of yourself and your baby. You have a lot to live for.

I hope you find happiness.

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Why do ex-JW's talk so much about being ex-JW's?

by Sour Grapes in

is it because we were in the cult watchtower compound that we talk about being ex-jw's when we stop being active?

i have never heard anyone say that i was an ex-catholic or an ex-lutheran or an ex-baptist.

they just stop going to their church and don't talk about it.. years after not stepping inside a kingdom hell, many of us still have to talk about being ex-jw's.

zophar

charonsdog

I have enjoyed reading your posts. Glad you decided to join the group. It sounds like you have moved on and made a life for yourself.

You are obviously a thinking person who never lost that ability even when in the Org. Thinking people who serve as elders and have a sense of humor are loved by many in the congregation but are constantly counseled by other elders who don't know how to have an independent thought!

Welcome aboard the "The Dirty Apostate" Ship of Free-thinkers

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Oh Happy Day- Cover - by Gerrit Losch feat. Pissed Samuel Herd

by Ray Frankz in

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thats my question.

i mean because here in brazil there's a huge ban in any religious content that doesn't come from the gb, and that includes songs, of course.

thus, it doesn't matter how beautiful or touching a gospel song is, you will never see a brazilian jw singing (not for real, in front of others) or even lesser quoting it.

zophar

Agree, it is his personality. Very dry sense of humor but I think he was just trying to be funny.

Your point about singing "Oh Happy Day!" is right on. That would have been seriously taboo back when it was popular. According to Wikipedia: "Therecording was made at Hawkin's church, the Ephesian Church of God in Christ in Berkeley, California.["

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Well...It's 2018 and still no ''Armageddon''

by RULES & REGULATIONS in

1972 : we started studying with the jehovah's witnesses when my uncle became an elder and put fear into our family that armageddon was close.

1974 : my mom, my brother and i were all baptized after all the convention talks and watchtower magazine articles that 1975 would likely end this system of things.

1999 : being told that the year 2000 was going to mark the 6 thousand years of mans existence and that the 1000 year kingdom in the new paradisewould come in the year 2000.

zophar

Wolfman: Thanks for that comparison from the 1/1//89 WT. It was one of the most eye-opening things for me. To think they would actually re-write their own magazine really amazed me. Stand up and admit your mistake or if you are not going to acknowledge your history at least don't re-write it!

I had always given them credit as being sincere and honestly mistaken and then I saw this and forgot about crediting them with any honesty. And how sincere does that make one.