Posts by whatisthis12

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non jehovah witness dinner

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so almost two weeks ago, my boyfriend(who was disfellowshiped) went to the memorial.

he hasn’t spoken to his parents, friends, or siblings for over a year because of it.

the only person he keeps in contact with is his grandma, which is who he went along with.

So almost two weeks ago, my boyfriend(who was disfellowshiped) went to the memorial. He hasn’t spoken to his parents, friends, or siblings for over a year because of it. the only person he keeps in contact with is his grandma, which is who he went along with. it ended up the whole family was there, so after i explained to him that it hurt my feelings he didn’t take me along(as we live together and i’m a huge part of his life), he told me his parents want to meet me. i can’t help but feel there is a catch. is this a good idea? he was telling me the whole time his parents were just telling him the reasons why they can’t talk to him, and why they have blocked him, trying to get him to see where they are coming from. trying to get him to see their truth. i know they will continue to not talk to him, his mom is a pioneer and very much involved. so why are they inviting us over for dinner?

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boyfriend ex jehovah witness please help

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so i posted yesterday.

my boyfriend and i have been living together for a year, and he went to the memorial tonight (sorry if that’s not what it’s called).

i told him i was upset he didn’t invite me but wasn’t going to tell him not to go because he hasn’t talked to his family for over a year.

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so i posted yesterday. my boyfriend and i have been living together for a year, and he went to the memorial tonight (sorry if that’s not what it’s called). i told him i was upset he didn’t invite me but wasn’t going to tell him not to go because he hasn’t talked to his family for over a year. we got in a little arguement when i got home from work because he promised to be home and was only going to see his grandma, but now he is telling me he’s having dinner with his family and if its ok if i stay at my moms(even though i pay rent) because he’s tired of fighting. this might not be the right place to ask this advice but i have no one to talk to. these past three weeks he has friends who want to all of a sudden hang out! also, last sunday jehovah’s came to our door and knew his name! how do they know where we live? he told me he want a year and a half ago before i moved in...i’m sorry i know you are all going through a lot today because of this celebration but i don’t know anyone else to ask

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Memorial

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so i’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year.

he left the jehovah witness community and we have been living together for one year.

he hasn’t kept in contact with his family because he was disfellowshipped and hasn’t gone to any meetings.

whatisthis12

hello everyone,

so i’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year. he left the jehovah witness community and we have been living together for one year. he hasn’t kept in contact with his family because he was disfellowshipped and hasn’t gone to any meetings. i found out that tomorrow he’s going to the memorial with all of his family. this will be the first time he’s seen them in one year. i just find it strange that he didn’t invite me, and that he’s going to the bigggest event they supposedly have. should i be worried? i understand he misses his family, and want to be supportive but i’m also afraid once he goes it’s going to make him want to start going back. is that being selfish?

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boyfriends jehovah witness mom

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my boyfriend is an ex new jehovah witness and today i got a message from one of his friends asking if i could delete a comment he wrote on one of my pictures because my boyfriends mom is harassing him about it.

he also basically told me that she has people who added me just to view my profile and let her know!!!!

she also sends him messages and pictures from the watchtower.

whatisthis12

My boyfriend is an ex new Jehovah witness and today i got a message from one of his friends asking if i could delete a comment he wrote on one of my pictures because my boyfriends mom is harassing him about it. He also basically told me that she has people who added me just to view my profile and let her know!!!! she also sends him messages and pictures from the watchtower. some of them are even referrences to me as satan, when will or will this ever end?! i've never even met this lady yet she is going out of her way to exploit others and do her dirty work! what can i do?!

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so confused!!

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is it possible to keep a somewhat relationship with your family if they are witnesses and have a "worldly" girlfriend?

i just posted a post, and found this site to be very helpful.

sorry to repost but my other thread brought up some other questions.

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is it possible to keep a somewhat relationship with your family if they are witnesses and have a "worldly" girlfriend? I just posted a post, and found this site to be very helpful. Sorry to repost but my other thread brought up some other questions. My boyfriend moved out, and stopped attending meetings. He was disfellowshiped i believe, even though he tells me he wasn't. His friends no longer hang out with him, and he hasn't seen his parents in month. His mom is in school to be a pioneer so i know she's very dedicated but confused on how she still texts him every now and then. Anyways, I found out his sister is speaking at some convention and he's going. Do you think it's just to be there for his sister? And does that mean he actually wasn't disfellowshipped, and if so how come 80+ people blocked him on social media sites. I am so confused! I feel bad for not wanting him to go, because it's his sister, but i don't understand how he would want to go back to a kingdom hall after everything he's already gone through to get out. Sorry for two posts in one day, i just found this tone very helpful

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My Boyfriend is a recent Ex Jehovah Witness

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i have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now.

when i met him i had no idea that he was a jehovah witness.

we took a vacation and he lied to his parents about who he was with, and they ended up finding out not only that he way lying, but who i was.

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i'll never be able to understand how a religion can destroy the bond that should naturally exist between a parent and their kid. the whole situation is very disheartening. but thank you for taking the time and responding, and for all the advice. i think counseling was a great suggestion.

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My Boyfriend is a recent Ex Jehovah Witness

by whatisthis12 in

i have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now.

when i met him i had no idea that he was a jehovah witness.

we took a vacation and he lied to his parents about who he was with, and they ended up finding out not only that he way lying, but who i was.

whatisthis12

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. When I met him i had no idea that he was a jehovah witness. We took a vacation and he lied to his parents about who he was with, and they ended up finding out not only that he way lying, but who i was. He finallly opened up, and told me about his upbringing. He is a baptized jehovah witness, as his parents baptized him when he was just a kid. Usually, i wouldn't stay in this situation but by the time he revealed everything to me i was already emotional attached to him. He is my soul mate. He left his parents house and is now living on his own. All of his friends stopped talking to him, and he hasn't seen his parents in months. He tells me he's happy, and making the right descion but it's all taking an emotional toll on me. I feel like i will always be the girl that made him lose his relationship with his family and friends. I am scared one day he will realize that too. Has anyone been in this situation before? If so, what do you do? I love him and want what's best for him. I don't want him to end up resenting me.