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  Governing Body trying to control marital relationships

  by Whynot in

  1. watchtower
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  4 years ago during the circuit overseers visit he asked a rather innapropriate question from the platform.

  i say it's innapropriate because i think it's wrong to tell happy married couples how to love each other and much more wrong it is to tell them they should love their children less.. he said: "mothers, who should you love more your children or your husband?

  " i think most mothers will quickly say you should love your children more.

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  2curious

  I distinctly remember my mother telling me that she loved my father more than her children because the bible says that's how it should be.
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  Anyone pissed at their parents for raising you in the cult?

  by blownaway in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my mother was not the most emotionally stable person.

  she was a follower and instilled in me the idea we were better than those worldly people.

  its hard to go to school as a child and you can not be friends outside of school, you can not celebrate any holidays, and you are told all these people are going to die.

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  I'm angry that they used being JW as an excuse to lazily limit my opportunities, not train me for real life, and be perfectly fine with telling me that they loved each other more than me because a man must stick to his wife. I'm angry that there is nothing in the world that could make them question their religion and that they just openly accept their obligation not to have a relationship with me. I think they honestly thought they were doing what was best, but they sure did capitalize on not having to celebrate holidays, provide extracurricular activities, pay for school dances, send me to college...
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  Are Jehovah's Witnesses selfish??

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  is the average jehovah's witness selfish and self-centred?.

  i know, i know...many will object and say "no - preaching is the most selfless thing a jw can do.

  it saves others lives...".

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  I was thinking about this the other day. When I told my parents i was going to be disfellowshipped and that i was engaged to a non-witness, their first reaction was, "we'll never see our grandson again" and "how could you do this to us?" Then came their concern for my everlasting life, but with the "we're worried we'll never see you again." It was all about them. They then proceeded to immediately warn as many people as they could about me, because, I guess that helped their consciences. I've always thought of my father as an extremely obedient person, but the truth is, he'll throw anyone under the bus to save himself. He didnt care how the confidential info he spread affected me, because he'd done his duty and would be saved.
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  Withdrawing community support in the congs

  by purrpurr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've noticed in the past 10 years that the social support that used to be available in the congs, a shoulder to cry on, elders to help with family/marriage issues these seem to have been purposely withdrawn.

  counsel is even heard from the platform that the elders are not there to help people with their problems.. so first in the 80s-90s they take away the congregation get to getters and social events and now they seem to be going one step further in taking away the emotional support for people too.. this will take away an aspect that i'm sure was keeping alot of people in the borg, the community support.

  if that's not there and its just about meetings and ministry how many will start to get their emotional support elsewhere?.

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  Zero support in my former congregation. My husband was DFd (not long after not receiving a shepherding call he asked for). He asked the elders to look out for me and our son spiritually; suggested that maybe their wives could invite me to go in service. It never happened. I ended up leaving my husband, so... single mom. Not one time did the elders (or anyone else) reach out to ask if I needed help, invite us over, etc. Only time I heard from the elders in that last 5 years was when one of them texted me to scold me for commenting on a DFd person's FB post 30 minutes prior.
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  Evening gala/ball

  by Researchedandenlightened in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  can anyone tell me when, and why jehovahs witnesses hold evening gala,s / ball with full tuxedo,s and evening gowns ?

  is it uk only as i have heard family throughout the uk attend these events (jw only) of course !.

  what is the purpose of these events and how long have the dubs being doing so ?

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  People used to have formal parties for anniversaries and graduations but a C.O. forbade people to have themed parties a few years ago so no more of that!
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  Not Being Invited To Gatherings.

  by kennylazo1 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  have you ever found out that your "buddies" from the kingdom hall went out to have fun and did not invite you?

  if so how did you feel?.

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  That's part of the reason I woke up. When I was married and active, my husband was DFd. I was basically cut off, too. Our friends stopped inviting me to hang out, I was invited to congregation gatherings three times in 5 years, and my son was never invited to the gatherings for kids. I left my ex 2 years after he was DFd and as a single mom, no one reached out to me. That's not the warm, fuzzy love we were told that we have among us.