Posts by Snoozy

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DRY BEGGING....

by Snoozy in

i just learned about this yesterday..i was amazed!.

i have a grown daughter that is a expert at this... .

dry begging:to ask for in an indirect and roundabout way.

Snoozy

LOL Publishing Cult..

LV101, I totally agree..they give up the life they know now on the promises of a few men..what a waste..

Snoozy

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DRY BEGGING....

by Snoozy in

i just learned about this yesterday..i was amazed!.

i have a grown daughter that is a expert at this... .

dry begging:to ask for in an indirect and roundabout way.

LV..lol. I am sure my daughter thought the same thing about me..hated that I had the money and not her..she was quite wealthy when she was married and had all she wanted..and treated others as her slaves..now she has to work for everything.No respect..she still has that attitude but not the money..

Now she has more income, at least twice, of what I have coming in. It is just her an dher son and she makes plenty. She is just blowing it somewhere and expecting myself and at one time other family members to pick up the pieces..now she is being called on it and doesn't like it.

AS far as her headaches, I hear you get them from drug withdrawls also..and I would even doubt she went to the ER if she didn't get the drugs. I also really doubt she even has a Dr appointment or if she does that she will keep it.

This is the same daughter that faked her urine test recently to get a part time job (yes you can do that)..why the need to fake a urine test?

Snoozy

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DRY BEGGING....

by Snoozy in

i just learned about this yesterday..i was amazed!.

i have a grown daughter that is a expert at this... .

dry begging:to ask for in an indirect and roundabout way.

Snoozy

LV, as long as I have found out such a thing exists I am happy. It gives me a place to start. I know my daughter has some kind of addiction problem and until she acknowledges it there is nothing I can do but lay down rules on my end. She is in her 50's, way old enough to take care of herself. I know she likes to have a drink or two or three when she gets home from work and Vodka is the drink of her choice. I recently learned that many alcholics have that as a drink of choice as it doesn't smell..

I also know she goes gambling often on her lunch hour. The casino is right accross the street from her work. I also know when she has blown her money she gets real testy and argumentative later. Also I figure she is out of money for booze/pills when she starts arguing with everything someone says.

I also recently learned she has been getting painkillers form a friend..strong ones. The friend is now telling her she needs them herself and cannot give them out any longer..the friend has medical reasons why she herself needs them. My daughter is now saying she has migranes and has been to ER twice in the last month. Each time getting what she wants (drugs) and never following up with a Dr later. This time she says she has an appointment Tuesday as she was in ER Sat before last for a headache. This was when I felt sorry for her and filled her tank and gave her cash..I didn't want her to feel stressed. I later learned a friend of hers came over that night and they drank Tequila all night. She was bragging about it on facebook the next day and I caught it .

I figured they got the booze with my money as the friend never ever seems to have any money..but he does have access to drugs for sale..just saying, I'm wising up! (And it is pissing her off).

Snoozy

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i outed myself on facebook

by jeckle in

i've been post things on facebook like washtowel, field circus,etc.

next i told a nonwitness friend i was glad to be out of the cult he invited me to his church.

actually i said cults suck i'm glad i'm not in one anymore.

Snoozy

Congrats jeckle..I also noticed that when you point out wrongdoing in the congregations to a witness, such as child molesting, their comeback is that Jehovah knows their heart and will judge them..
All of a sudden their members aren't perfect..and yet isn't that what they expect when they are disfellowshipping members right and left ? Perfection?..Just saying..

Hugs, Snoozy

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DRY BEGGING....

by Snoozy in

i just learned about this yesterday..i was amazed!.

i have a grown daughter that is a expert at this... .

dry begging:to ask for in an indirect and roundabout way.

Snoozy

I had a girlfriend like that also..a witness..lol
She always didn't have enough gas or any money and would call me to run her around..

I later found out had over $3,000 in a savings account in just her name..I felt abused after that..I didn't have squat in a savings account..

I recently hooked up with one of her daughters that moved in with her to "help her out" and she was complaing abouthow her mom was so bad off money wise since her husband passed away..(Not the girls dad). I told her not to fall for it as she was a expert in hoarding her money..turns out that she later came up with $950 for something she wanted (the mom)..I told the daughter.."I told you so"..

Snoozy

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DRY BEGGING....

by Snoozy in

i just learned about this yesterday..i was amazed!.

i have a grown daughter that is a expert at this... .

dry begging:to ask for in an indirect and roundabout way.

Snoozy

I visited a psychologist one time that my other daughter was seeing..we even talked about this daughters problem there..she explained that the daughter wasn't a munipulator but that she knew HOW to munipulate..to get what she wanted. Don't know what the difference was unless it has to do with labeling people..

For over a year she had started getting monthly money out of me for this emergency or that..it started to be a game with her I think because each month it got to be a little more untill it finally hit over $300. one month..and never able to pay a penny back.( I am sure she felt entitled as one posted stated)

I finally had to lay down the law as I couldn't afford it any longer. I told her she needed to get more control of her finances and I would help her with a budget if she wanted. She got mad at me and didn't talk to me for a year, saying it was because I humiliated her..

Recently she started the Dry begging..before she had come right out most of the time and just asked for it. The phone calls used to be every few minutes untill I answered..( I counted over 20 in a row one time) cell and home. Now it's facebook..the sob stories..
This time we have a mutual friend and the mutual friend and I were able to compare sob stories and found out she is lying to both of us. She got $40. out of this friend and a few days later got a full tank of gas and another $40. out of me. Using the same sob story on both of us..this friend was falling for her sotries also.

I recently told her I wanted to take her and her son out for dinner as her Birthday present..It was going to be a steakhouse so it would be around $20. a piece..close to $100. for all of us.I told her that her son could even bring a friend..(12 year old). She later sent me a message teling me how her cat needed to be fixed really bad as she had recently bought a new rug and he sprayed on it.. she then went on to say that
"If you are planning on getting me a present besides taking me out to eat, I found someone that would neuter him for $50. most places charge $75. I would take the money and have that done now so I wouldn't have to wait till I get paid on the 15th..".
Just a note..I could swear I gave her money to have this done shortly after she got the cat. I know she has n ointention of using the money on the cat. She doesn't get paid till the 15th and is likely out of money. I always knew when she would call as she gets paid on the 1st from her work and on the 15th gets a good sized child support check from her ex. She probably thinks she will use any money she gets from me for herself and have the cat done later..which I doubt!....

I immediately went into the ashamed mode of course, not having planned to do anything other than get her a cake and a candle besides the dinner and offered to give her the money instead of getting a cake (which would have cost about $10.)..This was the closest she has come this time for asking directly for the money, usually she sings woe is me for a while till I give in)..I ended up cancelling the dinner and sending her $50. I since read the article about Dry Begging and saw how this applied to her..it was like a light bulb going off in my head. Thankfully I wised up before she was able to get the dinner and the $50. out of me!

So I tell her later that any money to be lent will have to be paid back before I will lend again..I will charge a $5. transaction fee..and she will have to pick it up and deliver it back to me..I had often in the past took it over there because she was so tired or she had used all her gas and couldn't make it all the way to my house..only to be pushed out the door so to speak after she got the money. She never considered them loans in the past just that I was helping her out of the kindness of my heart..so this time I wanted to make it clear!

She was pissed! Said it seemed like I wanted to start a fight! (Seems she realized I was on to her..and I felt good!) I explained I wanted to be there for her but I could no longer afford to just hand out money..

Snoozy..Love having learned about "Dry Begging" it's like al big load has been lifted form my shoulders..

edited to add..I also put a $50. maximum amount restriction on the loans figuring it wouldn't be too far out of her reach to pay back.

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Awesome quotes from JWN posters

by jay88 in

jw
friends

i will start it off with-thetrueone.

"postulating religionists are really illusionists by using suggestive words to accomplish a state of believability.

".

Snoozy

I really like Spongebob...

Snoozy

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This Site Has NEVER Been About Having 100% Freedom Of Speech

by minimus in

jw
friends

i get a kick out of the posters that get upset over realizing that their opinions are not always appreciated.

the forum owner has made it plain that he calls the shots and not everything expressed by posters will be accepted.. folks, that's thev way it's always been here.

simon will call the shots.

Snoozy

They may call the shots but without us posters the board would die, let's not forget that.

I also don't think they go overboard with the rules, ....(Most of the time) Just likes folks to be respectful of each other ..

Snoozy..

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Found something really cute while cleaning out the garage ...

by troubled mind in

going through an old filing cabinet i found pages from a diary i must of kept when the kids were little .

the first page was entitled 'funny things the kids say '.

entry from 1985 : ( our son j*** was 4 and his brother t** one .

Snoozy

Each day is a fascinating journey into my son's mind. He has just made me a salad with a tomato a whole unpealed carrot and half a stick of celery.

ROFLOL.....

Snoozy

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Did you fake a prayer at the dinner table?

by fade_away in

i was terrible at prayers.

it was hard for me to talk to someone i can't see or hear.

everyone else put their heads down at the dinner table so i needed to do the same or i'll look suspicious.

Snoozy

In a restaurant we usually said a silent prayer..Some that usually went overborad or were classed as a "Fanatic" usually insisted they pray out loud to "give a witness". Used to make me crings.
I knew those other people weren't impressed..just thought what a bunch of nuts!

Snoozy