Posts by Auntfancy

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What Was Your Opinion of Elder's Wives?

by minimus in

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friends

i think that many of them were saints.

some were bitches and others seemed like they hated their status.

many wives were very good examples and were more "qualified" than their elder husbands.. .

Auntfancy

3rdgen, I understand what you went through. The same thing happened to me only once, thank heavens. A "friend" of mine became interested in another man and she told me about it hoping I would tell my husband. She knew I was going to let him know and she was fine with it because that is exactly what she wanted me to do. Eventually, her whole family left the religion shortly after this was revealed and their marriage broke up. We tried to help them stay together but I think she did this knowing she was going to leave.

Life is Short, I am sorry to hear you had such a terrible experience. For some reason in the congregations we were in they normally didn't handle serious matters after the meeting but scheduled them for off meeting nights. I very rarely waited on him and usually we were the last to leave because we both loved socializing.

It can be a very difficult life for an elders wife especially if he is a jerk!! I am fortunate that I ended up with one of the good ones and we both came out together. My husbands position was NOT important to him as far as needing it to feel good about himself. He was not the type to lord it over others.

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What Was Your Opinion of Elder's Wives?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i think that many of them were saints.

some were bitches and others seemed like they hated their status.

many wives were very good examples and were more "qualified" than their elder husbands.. .

Auntfancy

Just like most people there were good ones and then there were the those who gossiped and some were arrogant. I was an elder's wife and I treated everyone with kindness just like my husband did. I never got involved in the gossip plus my husband never told me things ahead of time so I was in the dark about so much. I wish I had known more because it would have woke me up much earlier. I was a target of other elders because I had some health problems which caused me to miss some meetings and they tried to get my husband deleted but a very kind CO put a stop to it and told them it was not loving. I can honestly say my husband was always the kind elder and he would avoid committee meetings at all cost because he did not like putting people through that. There are always plenty of elders that volunteer for to do it so he just would never volunteer. I guess I got a little off topic! LOL

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Bethel Rules

by brotherdan in

this was brought up just in passing on another thread.

but i wanted to see if there are any bethelites or ex bethelites that remember some of the crazy rules we had to follow when we were there..

Auntfancy

marked

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Not on JW.org: SIX Texas victims acuse Jehovah's Witness Elder & Circuit Overseer of sexual abuse, and bring lawsuit against Watchtower for cover-up.

by Balaamsass2 in

sexual exploitation and abuse of six young children leads to lawsuit in dallas county.

dallas, oct. 23, 2014 /news.gnom.es/ six young adults, from north texas, all sexually abused as children, filed suit today in dallas, texas state court against three north texas jehovahs witnesses congregations (dallas, plano, and greenville), the watchtower bible and tract society of new york, and an elder.. sexually abused when they were ages 4 through 14, the plaintiffs were children of members of the dallas, plano, and greenville jehovahs witnesses congregations.

the suit states that they were repeatedly sexually abused and molested by an elder and an unknown regional circuit overseer, and that they and their families were threatened with discipline and harm if they disclosed the abuse to anyone.

Auntfancy

I too hope this will give other victims the courage to file lawsuits. With their billions of assets I hope they can get to some of that money unless they are hiding it in dummy corporations.

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bull poop

by snare&racket in

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friends

glad to see the forum is going strong, lots of new names and stories......and it has only been a couple of months!.

the wt really has no chance in such a world of free and accessible information.

keep fighting guys, the freedom once you are loose of the governing body is awesome, you will be amazed how long you ignored the stench off bullshit as your ability to smell it returns.. and on that note ;) x. .

Auntfancy

It is nice to hear from you and I enjoyed your experience. You are right, we all need to go out and live because it is the best revenge and life truly is great, you can make it whatever you choose.

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FuGK This Religion- Stop Ruining My Life!!!

by wallievase in

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friends

i am sorry for the title but today just took the cake.

after not going to the meetings since august and trying to sort through this with my family, my wife today told me she wants to separate because of our differences over being a witness or not.. this is ridiculous.

so i said- how can you separate from me when the religion you whole heartedly believe says you can only separate for 3 reasons- abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance, etc.

Auntfancy

Hang in there. If you love her I would try to save the marriage by seeing a marriage counselor, they can really help. They fact you don't have children yet sure does make it much better while going through this difficult time.

I may be wrong but it seems like more women will divorce their husbands when they leave the WTBTS than husbands will divorce their wives. I wonder why this is the case.

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Hey I am Back

by mouthy in

did anyone miss me????.

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Auntfancy

Welcome back Grace, you have been missed. I hope you are feeling much better.

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Sleep Paralysis - YOUR EXPERIENCES

by Black Man in

jw
friends

so what have been your experiences with sleep paralysis?

any connection to astral projection?

this has interested me recently as i used to have sleep paralysis quite often years ago.

Auntfancy

I had the same experience as Undercover and they can be freightening. I use to have them while I was a JW but very rarely do I have them now. I read an article about them and it can be brought on by stress which makes sense why I have only had it happen one time in 2 1/2 years.

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My appeal was successful. Now what?

by noonehome in

faders: why do we bother staying in?.

we cling to some false hope that people we love will accept us despite our not believing, even though its as much a fairytale as the dogmas based on untruths.. ive never been anything but a good friend and human being and would do anything for the people i love; i couldnt dream of shutting out someone i care about.

and its not like theyd revel in the idea of doing it either, yet its seen as not just the only choice, but also as undoubtedly the right thing to do.

Auntfancy

Noonehome, I faded for a little over 2 years and finally I turned in my DA letter because I wanted to be free to do as I pleased and not have them looking over my shoulder, we have a JW that lives across the street and I am decorating the outside of our house this year and I knew it would cause them to come after me. I can honestly say I feel so much better and I feel free. As far as I know I don't think they have announced it but that is ok.

While reading your post my thoughts were you write very well, you appear to be a very intellegent young man and I hope you are getting or have gotten a good education. Please go after your dreams and don't let anyone stand in your way.

I too would like to know what is going on with the girl you liked who turned you in. It sure does break the trust between you. I can honestly say while I was in I would never have turned my husband in unless it was something criminal. I never did understand husbands or wives that tattled on their mates for every little thing they did.

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Leaving the JWs, experiencing Christianity and finding freedom! (But it took awhile)

by im_free in

this is my first post here.. i was raised in "the truth", and am an ex-bethelite who worked in brooklyn for several years back in the 90's.

a few years after i left bethel, i started to become disillusioned after doing research about the society and reading crisis of conscience (i know..i wasn't supposed to do that lol).

i eventually stopped attending meetings and going out in service.

Auntfancy

Welcome Im_free, it is so nice to hear you and your wife got out of the religion while you were still young. You have a lot of wonderful years ahead of you. My husband was a born in 3rd & 4th generation and we came out when he was 58 and I was 56. So many lose their spouses when one wakes up and the other doesn't so it always makes me happy to hear when a couple comes out together.

I did not rush into anything when we left and at this point I am happy where I am. I do not believe the god of the bible and if there really is a loving god then why is he allowing millions to suffer and I do not believe what the JW's answer is on this subject.

There maybe a creator and maybe not. Whenever someone says look around there has to be a creator but my reasoning is if there is a creator then who created them? There are those that say the big bang theory is false but if you look at the belief of a god then isn't it the same? He just appeared?

I also do not judge people for their beliefs as long as they are not hurting others. I believe cults are very dangerous and I am very vocal on their damage but whether you choose to believe in a god or not I think you should do what makes you happy. If you still have questions then keep searching. Many get out of a cult and rush back into something without giving themselves time to heal. I know from experience that what I felt about things at 30 is not how I feel about things at 58. Keep an open mind because there is a lot to be gained and as we all know a lot to lose when you close your mind.