I am open to advice from both POV. My reality is that if my family puts their religion ahead of our family ties then I don't need them anyways. That may sound cold but its the truth and I have no children (Thanks BORG) and Wife will leave me if I DA so nothing I can do about that.
I will not live a lie to make others superficially happy and if that makes me selfish then so be it.
My marriage has been miserable due to Borg interfering with what we can and can't do in the Bedroom. It has made for guilt and I will not live that life anymore.
If you are not for me then you are against me - isn't that what were indoctrinated with...