Posts by Addison0998

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What immodest clothing have you got in trouble for wearing?

by Addison0998 in

i personally have a very distinct sense of style and fashion which many of the fellow jdubs frown upon.

recently, i was told by a few specially self righteous ones that i looked like a prostitute in a pair of white boots!

a pair of 3 inch heeled, just a little taller than the ankle boots, with skirt that came down to my knees and a black long sleeve shirt that came up to my collarbone.

Addison0998

I personally have a very distinct sense of style and fashion which many of the fellow Jdubs frown upon. Recently, I was told by a few specially self righteous ones that I looked like a PROSTITUTE in a pair of white boots! A pair of 3 inch heeled, just a little taller than the ankle boots, with skirt that came down to my knees and a black long sleeve shirt that came up to my collarbone. Do these women even know what hookers dress like? I know that I shouldn’t take it so personally because they are not right in the head but it is such an insulting awful thing to say to someone. My whole life I’ve been getting shamed and picked on just because I don’t want to look like a frumpy, do -right, snitch bitch. And as an elder daughter it’s so much worse because every little thing is inspected, the tightness of your clothes, how short, how flashy.

In my area, there is a huge debate as whether or not women should wear strapless wedding dresses. A CO agreed to do a talk for a couple getting married, and afterwards, he shared in the pioneer meeting that he would have never agreed to give the talk if he had known the sister was going to wear a strapless wedding dress! Now the elders like to know before hand what dress the sister is wearing on her wedding day.

And to share a mans side of things, there was a MS in my hall who liked to wear tighter pants, and people complained about it so much that he had to go out and buy more pants or he would be removed as a MS. And he was not one with much money, so it was kinda sad.

Just another random rant..

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do not keep account of the injury?

by Addison0998 in

i have a long time “friend” around my age, she and her husband are big sheeple who have been raised to practically worship elders and view their as police angels.

anyways, they recently arranged to have a meeting with the elders to ask for their blessing pretty much to go to a wedding of a relative of hers who is not in the best standing, (she just recently got baptized and her husband was recently reinstated) anyways, the elders told them of course that it was their choice, but warned them that every time they ask for the elders advice on something, it is recorded whether they heeded the advice or not and looked at for things such as ske school, which is a goal they have to do together.

and of course they advised them not to go so they didn’t, especially since they want to go to the ske school, and i guess they only accept people who let people have full control of their lives.

Addison0998

Ok but that’s literally the same thing I just described. And I’m not embellishing the story. Why don’t you just get off my post if you don’t like what I’m talking about. I understand that not everyone is going to agree with each other on here, and I don’t expect to be coddled, but this is the only place I can come to for a place where I can actually relate to somebody about something. And it really pisses me off that you tell me I’m embellishing a story?!? You sound like a Jehovah’s Witness actually, defending them, and then also accusing me of making things up.

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do not keep account of the injury?

by Addison0998 in

i have a long time “friend” around my age, she and her husband are big sheeple who have been raised to practically worship elders and view their as police angels.

anyways, they recently arranged to have a meeting with the elders to ask for their blessing pretty much to go to a wedding of a relative of hers who is not in the best standing, (she just recently got baptized and her husband was recently reinstated) anyways, the elders told them of course that it was their choice, but warned them that every time they ask for the elders advice on something, it is recorded whether they heeded the advice or not and looked at for things such as ske school, which is a goal they have to do together.

and of course they advised them not to go so they didn’t, especially since they want to go to the ske school, and i guess they only accept people who let people have full control of their lives.

Addison0998

I have a long time “friend” around my age, she and her husband are big sheeple who have been raised to practically worship elders and view their as police angels. Anyways, they recently arranged to have a meeting with the elders to ask for their blessing pretty much to go to a wedding of a relative of hers who is not in the best standing, (she just recently got baptized and her husband was recently reinstated) anyways, the elders told them of course that it was their choice, but warned them that every time they ask for the elders advice on something, it is recorded whether they heeded the advice or not and looked at for things such as SKE school, which is a goal they have to do together. And of course they advised them not to go so they didn’t, especially since they want to go to the ske school, and I guess they only accept people who let people have full control of their lives.

But anywho, I realized that the organization is so hypocritical about the scripture at 1 Corinthians 13:5 where it says love does not keep count of the injury, when they keep account of every tiny thing you do and keep it forever and ever. The only thing I could see where it would be important is for people who were responsible for child abuse or domestic abuse, but it doesn’t even do any good since these people are allowed to be functioning members with privledges.

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Jehovah’s Witness dating rules

by Addison0998 in

i’m sorry that i talk about dating a lot, i know it is probably very annoying, but you don’t have to read it.

but did anyone else have the most difficult time dating as a young jw?

me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year in half, we are in our early 20’s, and we are still not allowed to hold hands, cuddle or kiss.

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I’m sorry that I talk about dating a lot, I know it is probably very annoying, but you don’t have to read it. But did anyone else have the most difficult time dating as a young jw? Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year in half, we are in our early 20’s, and we are still not allowed to hold hands, cuddle or kiss. Of course we have done these things, but when we are in front of most people, especially our families, we have to awkwardly sit next to each other and never touch at all unless it’s a hug goodbye, which if it lingers a few seconds longer we get snapped at. Yesterday we sat next to each other at the meeting for the first time, and several people asked if we were engaged. You can’t even sit next to someone without being considered engaged!!! I envy other people who can experience a normal dating situation. And then they wonder why we can’t wait another year or two to get married. I don’t know, probably because we can’t be in a room alone together, can’t even go out to eat together without someone awkwardly sitting there with us, can’t go on a road trip together, can’t hug, kiss, hold hands, just cannot start our lives until we get married. I don’t want to rush things, and we really aren’t, but this is so difficult and it’s driving me crazy.

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Remember the Wife of Lot

by Addison0998 in

for family worship last night, our family watched remember the wife of lot movie since it will be discussed in the meeting this week.

there’s a few things i noticed that i didn’t think about last time i watched it.. first, the dad is very of course against his daughters going to college or even trying to find a good job.

yet he does accounting, which is a very good job that almost always requires a college education.

Addison0998

For family worship last night, our family watched Remember the wife of lot movie since it will be discussed in the meeting this week. There’s a few things I noticed that I didn’t think about last time I watched it.

First, the dad is very of course against his daughters going to college or even trying to find a good job. Yet he does accounting, which is a very good job that almost always requires a college education. And he is able to support his family without a second income from his wife. So hypocritical. It’s like the governing body wants to create a generation of young people who are moochers and leaches. Don’t educate yourself or try to get a great job. Just leach off the older generation who did that. I’m seriously worried about all these young people who are not thinking of their future. Not everyone has parents who can support them forever or a rich old couple in their congregation who has an apartment or basement they rent out to pioneers.

Also the women never wear jeans. They wear dress pants and the young girl Tina wears old grandma pants. The only time it shows a girl wearing jeans it’s when the older girl Anna starts becoming “worldly” lol. Oh and her friend with the lesbian mom wears jeans. And when Anna straightens up her act, she goes back to grandma pants and little girl bows on her clothes. It’s not a really big deal but it’s weird to me. And almost every scene of a women is in the kitchen cooking. Very passively sexist.

The whole movie is so melodramatic and very strange. And the whole thing screams cult so much. From the Dad feeling so uncomfortable around people in the outside world including his own family to the others family’s process of becoming a witness.

And the whole relation to the story of lot doesn’t make sense. They say that Lots wife turned around because she was Materialistic, but has anyone ever considered that if the story was even true, she turned around because there was probably a city exploding and raining fire behind her and it was just a normal human instinct to turn around maybe to make sure she wasn’t about to be blown to pieces?!

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Am I being unreasonable with my pimo boyfriend?

by Addison0998 in

i was very lucky to have be dating somebody who didn’t run and snitch on me when i started having questions and showing him research i did, instead he listened to me, and after a few arguements, he did wake up as well.

it really didn’t take much to wake him up, and he was more just tired of the crazy witnesses in general.

and now we are planning on getting married and fading together so that our families can at least enjoy our wedding, that special time in life, before we possibly loose them one day.

Addison0998

Thank you everybody, you have all given me some serious things to think about , and you have given me some great wisdom to help me make a better decision. I think I’m going to have to leave everything behind.

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Am I being unreasonable with my pimo boyfriend?

by Addison0998 in

i was very lucky to have be dating somebody who didn’t run and snitch on me when i started having questions and showing him research i did, instead he listened to me, and after a few arguements, he did wake up as well.

it really didn’t take much to wake him up, and he was more just tired of the crazy witnesses in general.

and now we are planning on getting married and fading together so that our families can at least enjoy our wedding, that special time in life, before we possibly loose them one day.

Addison0998

I was very lucky to have be dating somebody who didn’t run and snitch on me when I started having questions and showing him research I did, instead he listened to me, and after a few arguements, he did wake up as well. It really didn’t take much to wake him up, and he was more just tired of the crazy witnesses in general. and now we are planning on getting married and fading together so that our families can at least enjoy our wedding, that special time in life, before we possibly loose them one day. But what irritates me, is that he has never done any research for himself, he is not really interested in doing any. And so because of that, when I have a hard time engaging him in conversation about it, he listens and agrees, but he does not have his own thoughts and opinions about it, he has no emotions towards it at all. He does have his own opinions and thoughts when it comes to his new founded atheism though, which I guess it good. But also, his waking up doesn’t affect his life much. His family is not as “spiritually strong”” and so they don’t care if he misses meetings and doesn’t go in service. Where as I have to go to all meetings, every Saturday service, and study with my family 3 times a week plus my dad makes me do a bible study with him in the keep yourselves in gods love book. I’m so miserable and exhausted from keeping my true feelings inside, someone’s I wish I could just die so I don’t have to continue this life anymore. And I try to be thankful that I have someone who understands the organization and what my childhood and everything was like, but sometimes I feel like he really just doesn’t understand, and I’m so dissatisfied with his lack of anger or disgust towards the org.

Am I being unreasonable? Do you think I should just be thankful with what I have and stop being critical of him? I wish I could be more like him and just let it go and not look back. But it’s negativly impacted me so much more than him, and it affects my life so much more than it does for him.

Thanks for listening.

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How would the Borg view IVF?

by purrpurr in

specifically if an unwed woman decided she wanted a kid without the hassle of dating/relationship /trying to get pregnant etc and just got a sperm doner with ivf?

surely it's not fornication?

the whole process is far removed from sex.

Addison0998

She would defenitly be disfellowshipped. And so would a married couple. A woman is not even allowed to donate her eggs and a man his sperm. It’s so ridiculous and it’s really nobody’s business, but look it up in the elders manual!

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Youth and Spiritual Goals in this week's WT study (Are you F-ing kidding me?)

by TerryWalstrom in

i regret following the wrong goals when i was a young person.

such as?such as spending a hundred hours a month of my precious youth rapping my unwrinkled knuckles on doors and waving soon-to-be-obsolete religious messages in front of aghast householders.such as spending my 20th, 21st, and part of my 22nd years in prison imagining anything useful was happening or that i was pleasing the big guy in the sky.such as taking a crappy job as a janitor and trying to support my family on beans and rice while i peddled cult materials, arguing with people who were better educated about fantasy scenarios i was brainwashed into parroting.such as making excuses for my depressing existence for my empty feeling of constant depression by consoling myself that soon billions of people would be annihilated--except for me and those i was able to convince to waste their time too.thanks, watchtower for twenty years of dry rot for my brain, a jehovah sized hole in my heart, and a great big "thank you" in the form of shunning from all my wonderful spiritual brothers and sisters for all my efforts.sure am i glad i didn't "waste" my youth on education, career, lifelong friends, and (gasp) fun!i was 12 years old when i was introduced to the watchtower and the kingdom hall.23 years later, i walked out a free man.the emotional damage took decades to reconcile.i'm 71 and i'd be thrilled to have those 23 years back!the watchtower is one of the most insidious time-devouring organizations on our planet.thanks for nothing!____________________the above is in answer to:.

this week's wt-study:.

Addison0998

I’m so sorry for your experience Mr.Terry. I was fortunate to wake up at a very young age. I only spent about a year in half pioneering. And it was the biggest waste of time. Spending 20 hours a week with self righteous, McDonald obsessed, nosy, paranoid, crazy weird sisters who did nothing but judge me and act like I was the whore of Babylon because I refused to reform myself to their liking like the other girls did. Anyways, after my privledges we’re gone, I started working my ass off full time, and in four months I saved up twice the amount of money that I had been trying to work for for more than a year!

They made it so obvious that they view works as more important than faith. Look a time paragraph 6.

The second reason is that once you start working toward spiritual goals, you begin building a record of good works in Jehovah’s eyes

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2018 Regional Convention

by Addison0998 in

well guys, after a spiritually encouraging convention, i’ve decided to return my heart back to jehovah.

i realize i was just being too negative and i need to adjust my attitude.

just kidding suckers.

Addison0998

Well guys, after a spiritually encouraging convention, I’ve decided to return my heart back to Jehovah. I realize I was just being too negative and I need to adjust my attitude.

Just kidding suckers. Lol. I just wanted to point out a few observations. First of all, Jesus was hardly mentioned at all, it was really strange. I can probably remember them mentioning Jesus twice besides I’m the prayer. It was all about david mostly, and Moses, then Sunday all about Jonah and Elijah. Also some more serious grilling about college. The videos may have been the cringest ever. For a convention about having courage, there sure was a lot of fear mongering. My mother also called me pro-gay for cringing at the video with homophobic Sally. An interesting weekend.