hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.
i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.
the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .
It does get easier with time.
On the point of keeping a diary, I wrote a long 'essay' when I first stopped going as there was so much going on in my head and wanted it down on paper, I do that to de-clutter my thoughts. I then thought it would be good to write another one a year later, and I did another one for year 3, however I won't do it again as I have nothing more to say, I am a free person (all relative I know) but my last 'essay' amounted to very few words.
i went to the rc last weekend (for my hubby).
it was at a new venue.
a large arena usually putting on music concerts.
Ah, glad you enjoyed the spiritual paradise, I bet you cant wait for the real one where you'll be told you can't live where you want in the house you would like.
How pleasant to see such harmony!
Actually it is pathetic, you are right to be offended and annoyed. If there is a next time tell them you'd like to meet them and will move if they request it directly.
my elder friend told me that his kh is in need of upgrading their electronic system so that they can be ready for the big zone meeting in november and they need the flat screen televisions mounted to also enjoy all future special meetings put on by the branch.
the branch has given them the exact specifications and he mentioned the branch wants to use apple products.
they passed a resolution for a one time donation by the publishers to pay for the $6,000.00 system.
I wonder if getting used to all the technology in order to fritter away time on JWorg is because they have smaller magazines and less literature and so the GB have realised they need to find more ways to waste a JWs time.
it seems to me like certain people actually benefit from joining the religion.
primarily i'm thinking of ones with drug problems who are only able to quit because they are working towards baptism.
another example would be those who are always getting in fights or who have a big ego, and who learn to be pacifistic and humble as a witness.
It sounds like you do not have any experience with any other groups, in particular ones that are able to help with drug or alcohol abuse. I would not recommend anyone join JWs to help with a structured life, it only creates a different set of problems for them contend with.
I have a feidn who was a JW for 2 years, he came off drugs to become one but was only able to live the JW for a short time as it was too much to take. He realises it was a useful tool at the time but thankfully got out in order to live his life. He could have got the same results going to any structured group.
on tuesday i was dragged out on service with my mom since shes a permanent pioneer, and once we arrived at the hall i realized there were no brothers, but an abundance of sisters.
i conducted the service meeting with ease, since my dad gave me a formation on how to do it.. then on thursday at my meeting nearly half of the congregation surrounded me and gave me hugs and kisses.
i know about love bombing, its happened to me before, but this was the most insane amount of it ever since i had a demonstration at the district convention.
All of the above. When I first stopped going I had loads of invitations to dinner, then after a few weeks nothing. If I met them in the street they didn't know where to look, they looked at the ground or across the street. If they did engage in conversation it was brief. When I DA'd they now look right through me as if I am invisible without any expression, it would be quite funny actually if it wasn't so inhumane.
hello jwn!
im a 22 yr active jw and i recently realized the truth about the truth.
im from an african country where most people dont think critically and just accept things as they are without questioning.
Welcome
been out now for 10 yrs but life is a mess.
starting to think its because i have no spiritual compass.
why shouldn't i consider going back?.
Thank you for posting Cedars video, well worth a watch to answer the OP
i've been lurking here off and on for a few years, figured i would introduce myself and share the clif notes version of my story.. i'm in my late 30's and was born in.
mom was a jw, dad wasn't.
got baptized in my teens and started dating my eventual wife.
Welcome, it sounds as though you have a great situation already. I'd be concerned you would lose the good relationship you have with your mum if you mentioned CoC straight off. You were very lucky with your wife's reaction.
it's funny how my mind works since walking out of the hall just a bit over a year ago.
for some reason i just can't seem to bring myself to go to the jw.org site.
i find it just to painful.
Welcome AlwaysBusy. I feel anger when I see anything JW related, especially pictures of happy drones.
^^ what cofty said. The bread got thrown away.
