If you ask someone in the cult, what is it that attracts you to it, each person gives a different answer. So too, they each need a different angle/subject matter to see it differently, there is no one way to do this.
Dropping hints that don't immediately appear to have a direct blast hopefully gets their minds working, don't expect anything overnight though as much as we want it. Using examples such as Steve Hassan or other may be helpful. Doctrinal changes are good too for others. Different things trigger different emotions for different people.
It sounds to me like you talked about this cult at length, and yet he still went back. As he is not trying to 'save you', count it as a blessing, and try and forget about him, he is clearly not worth it. It's a really sad story, but I can't see any happy ending except that you are free to carry on your life as you want, he is not.
hi im from the uk im 42 years old , i was brought up as a witness from birth to 12 years of age i left the meetings with my parents ,.
i had a wild youth was a bit of a rebel involving alcohol ,drugs , heavy metal and motorcycles , i was thrown out of home at 17 my sister was 14. and was discarded as my parents remarried and neither of there new partners wanted us (baggage) , anyway by the time i was married and 21. somebody spiked my pizza with lsd (cant remember the flavour ) and for the next 3 days i thought the world was ending , i called my dad and rambled some stuff to him ( cant remember exactly but the world was ending in my head) a little while later i got a witness call briefly , i found out where he lived and went and asked him for a bible , he suggested i have a bible study me and the wife took the offer and so it began again , i was baptised in 93 and went from strength to strength in the truth , aux pioneering , volunteered for everything , talks , cleaning , meeting parts etc was soon appointed and moved on giving public talks , assembly parts , shepparding calls etc , then in 1997 my wife fell down a kerb and damaged her cruciate ligaments several operations later and disabled ( by the way the brothers /sisters in the cong were great at this point ) my wife began to act odd 1n 1999 she tried to take her own life and over the next several years took 26 overdoses and spent much of her life in phychiatrict hospital in 2001 she was bi polar disorder type rapid cycling (not the common oh i feel a bit low type bi polar but the full blown rollercoaster ride bi polar) .
the thing that struck me was i began to feel like a leper and despite a couple of close friends nobody in the cong or on the circuit( long time friends) seemed to care , i brouht up the kids on my own visiting my wife in hospital and caring for her at home , i felt so alone , when i used to take the kids to the meeting / assembly on my own i just got tutts and sad headshakes "she not come" ?
Welcome Rickisteel, I'm in the UK too. You've been through a lot, I too saw how unloving the organisation can be, they're too busy doing what they're told to be human.
november 30, 2012 7:12 pmmother's forgiveness gives convict second chancebysteve hartmanplay cbs news video(cbs news) tallahassee, fla. -- not many convicts consider themselves blessed, but eric smallridge does, and for good reason.
he's getting out of prison -- way early.. .
"it's going to be like being on borrowed time, because i know i should still be in prison, because the justice system said i should still be in prison," eric says.. .
Mixed messages here, I still think if you drink and drive you have to pay the price, drink and drive and kill you lose all rights. I don't know the whole story, I really hope he spends the rest of his life stopping others doing what he did.
I would say if you protested but the doctors gave the kid blood anyway then there's no grounds for DFing, if you sanctioned it then possibly depending on which elders deal with it.
Thank you for sharing such a positive story, it just proves that there is always another path, one perhaps never considered that can lead to happy times
the worst thing an "elder" ever did to me was in 2008. i was in one congregation, but i wanted to return to my home congregation because i've been reproved there twice ( once private and the last one public ).
when i came into this congregation in 2007 i thought i was going to move up the food chain ( this congregation was full of older people, so i thought i would move up faster ).
there has been some interest recently about the moyle case, and how it may have set a precident in what became the society's disfellowshipping policy.
in july 1939, the chief legal counsel of the watchtower bible & tract society, olin r. moyle, resigned from his position in a protest over conditions at bethel and rutherford's mistreatment of workers.
he did not want to continue living under those conditions and he felt he could effect positive change for his brothers by taking such a stand.