A good review, thanks for this
happy@last
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10 things that happened in 2012 - my review
by cedars inlast year i did a review of 2011 for the forum.
this was more of a review that focussed on some of the awful stuff that was printed in the literature that year - the first year of my awakening.. 2012 has been more interesting from the point of view of things actually happening outside the literature.
i thought it might be nice to take a look back and put some of these events in chronological order.... .
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JW played me and broke my heart
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happy@last
Was he leading his double life back then? Will you able to trust him again, after you discovered his double life? All the while he remains a JW you will come at least second place.
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happy@last
They've repented by getting married, I'd say.
It happens a lot im sure, but generally only heard about it if the couples fell out.
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Did you ever have to walk out of/shut off a movie when watching with JWs?
by keyser soze ini can only recall one occasion.
it was when my brother and future wife were dating.
they had dinner at my parents' house, along with her uber-zealous/borderline psychotic parents.
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happy@last
There was one (I can't remember which one) I went to see and raved on about how I liked it in front of loads of our 'friends' only to find out they'd been the day before and walked out! I've never walked out, nearly did but that was just because it was rubbish, I stayed to see if it could get any worse, and it did!
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Over the Sea to Shetland - This is What CCTV was Invented For
by cofty infrom the comments at youtube - if you are on a laptop move it from side to side and you can pretend you are a cruel god.... .... .
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happy@last
Cofty - it's looking very pretty draped in christmas lights just now, probably more pedestrianised than you remember and a few more empty shops. Apart from that, still popular
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Over the Sea to Shetland - This is What CCTV was Invented For
by cofty infrom the comments at youtube - if you are on a laptop move it from side to side and you can pretend you are a cruel god.... .... .
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happy@last
You'll see scenes like that most Saturday nights on Sauchiehall Street , people moving to and fro all over the place
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I am exhausted emotionally.
by PaintedToeNail ini have been reading ashley judd's 'all things bitter and sweet' autobiography, and it has exhausted me.
she paints a picture of neglect and abuse from early childhood on.
as i sat reading, i realised i was identifying with so much of what she wrote.. why, when having an emotional breakdown as a teenager, major obsessive compulsive disorder, obvious depression symptoms, would you refuse to get medical help for your child?
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happy@last
PaintedToeNail, please know I understand your pain. One of the biggest issues I had was blaming myself for not having spoken up as a child, however my psychologist showed me children don't act and react like adults, and I was looking at my childhood from an adult perspective, which was unreasonable.
So please don't worry or wonder why. As to your parents behaviour, it is typical cult behaviour, this is not an excuse but is an explanation.
Keep grieving, it is a necessary part of your healing. Thank you for sharing, it helps people like me realise we are not alone or wrong in feeling the way we do at times.
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Reaching Loved Ones Stuck in a Cult: An Idea for Discussion
by 00DAD inyou may have heard the expression: "the map is not the territory.
" have you ever thought about how this idea may help you reach your loved ones stuck in a cult?
the phrase has been attributed to polish-american scientist and philosopher alfred korzybski.
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happy@last
If you ask someone in the cult, what is it that attracts you to it, each person gives a different answer. So too, they each need a different angle/subject matter to see it differently, there is no one way to do this.
Dropping hints that don't immediately appear to have a direct blast hopefully gets their minds working, don't expect anything overnight though as much as we want it. Using examples such as Steve Hassan or other may be helpful. Doctrinal changes are good too for others. Different things trigger different emotions for different people.
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JW played me and broke my heart
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happy@last
It sounds to me like you talked about this cult at length, and yet he still went back. As he is not trying to 'save you', count it as a blessing, and try and forget about him, he is clearly not worth it. It's a really sad story, but I can't see any happy ending except that you are free to carry on your life as you want, he is not.
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Hi guess i may have to introduce myself
by rickisteel inhi im from the uk im 42 years old , i was brought up as a witness from birth to 12 years of age i left the meetings with my parents ,.
i had a wild youth was a bit of a rebel involving alcohol ,drugs , heavy metal and motorcycles , i was thrown out of home at 17 my sister was 14. and was discarded as my parents remarried and neither of there new partners wanted us (baggage) , anyway by the time i was married and 21. somebody spiked my pizza with lsd (cant remember the flavour ) and for the next 3 days i thought the world was ending , i called my dad and rambled some stuff to him ( cant remember exactly but the world was ending in my head) a little while later i got a witness call briefly , i found out where he lived and went and asked him for a bible , he suggested i have a bible study me and the wife took the offer and so it began again , i was baptised in 93 and went from strength to strength in the truth , aux pioneering , volunteered for everything , talks , cleaning , meeting parts etc was soon appointed and moved on giving public talks , assembly parts , shepparding calls etc , then in 1997 my wife fell down a kerb and damaged her cruciate ligaments several operations later and disabled ( by the way the brothers /sisters in the cong were great at this point ) my wife began to act odd 1n 1999 she tried to take her own life and over the next several years took 26 overdoses and spent much of her life in phychiatrict hospital in 2001 she was bi polar disorder type rapid cycling (not the common oh i feel a bit low type bi polar but the full blown rollercoaster ride bi polar) .
the thing that struck me was i began to feel like a leper and despite a couple of close friends nobody in the cong or on the circuit( long time friends) seemed to care , i brouht up the kids on my own visiting my wife in hospital and caring for her at home , i felt so alone , when i used to take the kids to the meeting / assembly on my own i just got tutts and sad headshakes "she not come" ?
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happy@last
Welcome Rickisteel, I'm in the UK too. You've been through a lot, I too saw how unloving the organisation can be, they're too busy doing what they're told to be human.