Posts by Tendrillar2022

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Jehovah's Witnesses and Mental Health

by Vanderhoven7 in

this psychiatrist makes sense to me.. https://youtu.be/l5wcqc6m-gi.

Tendrillar2022

I think one of the saddest things about JW women is that they are supposed to pretend they live in this perfect 50s household where the man is the benevolent king and breadwinner, etc........ but so many of them end up doing low paying jobs like housecleaning just so the household can survive, meanwhile acting like the man makes all the money and is the best provider/elder/MS ever! The strain on mental health must be tremendous.

My aunt just about went over the edge bonkers trying to do so many cleaning jobs while pioneering and making my (less than brilliant) elder uncle look like he was the "breadwinner" and perfect husband. She was always depressed but wouldn't take medication regularly, because she felt it showed lack of trust in Jehovah.

She had a heart attack and later died - at 59.

He got remarried a few months later to a much younger sister.

Ugh.

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An aspect of dealing with my elderly, PIMI, Father

by joe134cd in

for a bit of back ground.

i’m a full blown pomo apostate.

nothing would please me more to see wt burn to the ground.

Tendrillar2022

LongHairGal:

But, to be real, while it would be nice for the ‘friends’ to stop by and say hello from time to time, it’s NOT anybody else’s responsibility to care for or to see to the needs of anybody’s elderly parents except the closest relatives.

I totally agree. It's the relatives who should be responsible. But, as adults, we should not feel that we have to comply with JW rules just because we are carers of an elderly JW parent/relative. And I can also see how a person might still feel (or be made to feel) like they have to play by bOrg rules.

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An aspect of dealing with my elderly, PIMI, Father

by joe134cd in

for a bit of back ground.

i’m a full blown pomo apostate.

nothing would please me more to see wt burn to the ground.

Tendrillar2022

OK, I just signed up (after watching this website from afar) to answer your question.

As a caregiver of a totally devoted JW, I understand what you are posting about.

We can't fix what our elderly (in my case, dementia patient parent) is going through. If they didn't have us to take care of us, they would have nothing. NOTHING. JW.bOrg will not take care of them. Just ask for their money once they've passed.

Remember, you are the caregiver. Your role is 100% necessary. You KNOW it's all BS. But, you are trying to do the best for your parent. I am there, I totally get that.

You are not selling out. You are just doing what needs to be done in this situation. Good for you.

AND I have noticed that various JW elders (who, actually do NOTHING to help you take care of this faithful JW elderly person who needs 24/7 caregiving) are happy to have us, apostate adult children, to care for these faithful JW people who are in the last stages of their lives. BECAUSE (and I stress this) JW.bOrg has absolutely no infrastructure in place to care for dying JWs who thought paradise would be here before they were sick. Just sayin'.

So, faded, DF'd, DA'd... none of that means anything except in the archaic rarified world of the JWs.

Don't worry about any of that. Just do what you need to do, and be satisfied you did the right thing by your parent.