i have been lurking on the site for a few months and thought it about time i plucked up the courage to step out of the shadows and say hello.. i am in the process of fading after realizing all is not right with the organization i had trusted implicitly for over 40 years.
there have always been 'truths' i have struggled to accept entirely, even as a child, but was confident that trusting in jehovah, building my faith and remaining patient would be enough to settle any nagging doubts that remained, so i pushed any inconsistencies to the back of my mind and concentrated on being the best witness that i could be.. over the last few years, however, i have been preoccupied with a number of crises in my family and stepping back slightly from 'theocratic' activity has allowed me to re evaluate a number of concerns and research sources other than the sanitized wt publications.. my eyes are now wide open - i found things which have appalled me and left me feeling extremely let down and disappointed by people i had really trusted.. i tried gently raising a few subjects with my mum (who was baptized early '70s and still remains a staunch wt supporter) but she will hear no criticism of the organization.
i understand this because the best part of her life has been invested in the religion and to acknowledge it may have got things wrong would be to recognize the last 40 years have been a vain waste.
+1 @Magnum
Exactly the same with me. There were always things that didn't seem right, but I put them on the back burner thinking (and being told) that I would get answers in the future. I didn't. In fact, the opposite happened; the issues/questions grew in intensity and number.
In all seriousness that is a profound statement really. I think we all put things aside were company women/men only to run out of excuses for things.
i have been lurking on the site for a few months and thought it about time i plucked up the courage to step out of the shadows and say hello.. i am in the process of fading after realizing all is not right with the organization i had trusted implicitly for over 40 years.
there have always been 'truths' i have struggled to accept entirely, even as a child, but was confident that trusting in jehovah, building my faith and remaining patient would be enough to settle any nagging doubts that remained, so i pushed any inconsistencies to the back of my mind and concentrated on being the best witness that i could be.. over the last few years, however, i have been preoccupied with a number of crises in my family and stepping back slightly from 'theocratic' activity has allowed me to re evaluate a number of concerns and research sources other than the sanitized wt publications.. my eyes are now wide open - i found things which have appalled me and left me feeling extremely let down and disappointed by people i had really trusted.. i tried gently raising a few subjects with my mum (who was baptized early '70s and still remains a staunch wt supporter) but she will hear no criticism of the organization.
i understand this because the best part of her life has been invested in the religion and to acknowledge it may have got things wrong would be to recognize the last 40 years have been a vain waste.
You're going through nearly verbatim what we have just a couple months ago. I FEEL every word your writing as those feelings were nearly duplicate of my own.
I'm not close to the only one. Many hear will chime in to say much the same.
The disappointment is a big thing. You think how can this be? You'll look at the same information multiple times thinking it will change? You'll pray for the things you've learned to not be true!
You are absolutely NOT alone. You're feelings are valid not because those here want to love-bomb you but because they are real and factual.
As to what to do with the inquiries. Say as little as possible. It is really difficult as a Fade to keep it zipped. Not because you're a fault finder but because you know things now that are so blatantly false so you can't help but want to say "that's just not accurate".
For that reason and I'm sort of being funny here but don't trust yourself. Keep it short and sweet. Be vague. "i'm fine just going through some difficulties". If they press. "I'm not ready to talk about it but I really appreciate you checking up on me".
All the best, welcome to the forum. Great folks here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bsbfnzrbiqq
"user removed video" - rookie move!
j/k look forward to seeing it.
hey ya'll!
i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.
actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.
@JamesMixon
That is absolutely possible. The difference here is this woman is a baptized witness of JW. That makes a huge difference as in all likelihood the husband would be disqualified.
See 1 Tim 3:4 a man presiding over his own household in a fine manner, having his children in subjection with all seriousness
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rzqaeusdmtk.
http://jdc.jefferson.edu/jmbcimfp/5/.
abstract.
Bill Maher if any of you watch him said something interesting and I'm paraphrasing because I don't remember the exact quote, but it was something like the following:
I will say that religious people tend to sleep easier at night when their head hits the pillow.
For most I would say this is pretty relevant. No matter your belief system death still sucks.
hey ya'll!
i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.
actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.
@EyesOpenHeartBroken (great handle/name btw) re: contracting chronic illness approach.
It just now hit me that this is exactly what someone very close to me that passed away did. I just now realized it. I hadn't thought of this person in a while but there were always comments. Now I realize why she did it.
I can attest. Crazy as it might sound to some this actually works and saves everyone grief if the husband will buy into it or look away.
just want to take a moment and mention how exceptional the moderator is here @simon.
been on many many forums and you'll be pressed to find a more fair person.
he creates a safe environment where the chicanery is a minimum.
@freddo figured I should make it official, now that I look at it, it did come off a bit love-bomb-ish :)
if a new topic hangs for ages with spinning icon at "queued for processing " should you give up and post a new copy of the thread or will the eventually result in two threads?.
if it has cleared the first tick "uploading post" can you safely click away from the page?.
servers seem a bit slow recently?.
just want to take a moment and mention how exceptional the moderator is here @simon.
been on many many forums and you'll be pressed to find a more fair person.
he creates a safe environment where the chicanery is a minimum.
just want to take a moment and mention how exceptional the moderator is here @simon.
been on many many forums and you'll be pressed to find a more fair person.
he creates a safe environment where the chicanery is a minimum.
