I was a bit more blunt / tactless when a new former Elder in our book study group said something similar to me after a service meeting .
He had been in our group for quite a few months and never mixed with anybody in the group except with the Elder taking the group.
I said to him words to the effect that he had`t bothered to get to know us while attending the BS group so don`t bother coming to my home we don`t need your visit.
his response ? : A stunned mullet look.
It must have been the early stages of my awakening
Good post FTB