Looking back at some of your past posts I see that your wife is still pretty much PIMI and that can be very tricky for you when trying to educate your children about TTATT and protect them from cult thinking.
I don`t envy you being in that position it must be extremely hard and I dont really know what advice I could give you to alleviate the problem except to say take small steps ,many of us here have made the mistake of trying to wake somebody up far too quickly with disasterous results.
My thoughts are with you .