This is my first post and wanted to contribute to the conservation.
rathernotsay: I get where you're coming from, in a way I'm in the same boat. My wife and I have been together for four years and recently had a child. She's been disfellowshipped our entire relationship and now is now using our child as a crutch to get reinstated. Through our entire relationship she never hinted at going back to the JWs and is now wanting our child to be part of her religion. I voice my opinion against it and all it leads to is a fight and breaks our family further apart.
Sorry if I'm hijacking the thread. My wife's sister (who is now all of a sudden back in her life after we have a child) wanted to take our child to go volunteer. I said absolutely not, for two reason. First, it's not safe and nobody knows what could happen or who is behind the door. Second, I don't want my child going door to door preaching gibberish. I just told her about the first and not the second and she understood. Take it for what it's worth, but my advice is to try and convince her that what she is doing isn't in the best interest of your children.