Hello :) So
I know this guy for almost 6 years, i met him when i was 15 and i felt in love.
Now I’m 21 and he is 22. We were in the same class and got along very well and
he seemed to like me too. When I confessed, face to face he haven't admitted
and he haven't denied it and he acted like he liked me too but couldn't be with
me because reasons bigger than him, but I was too young to understand and he
was young to handle the pressure he had. We remained friends and in 2014 he
told me he was jehovah witness and told me a lot about his life and how it was
hard and how it conditioned his behaviour because he was embarrassed about it,
so nobody knew and he hide is religion all high school time. For some months he
told me a lot about his religion and he liked to talk with me, we talked on
facebook because we couldn't meet. But he started to be a cold person and when I
asked about his feelings again, he have run away from the subject and got a
little upset. Since that time (it was September 2015) we just talked tree times
and it was very small messages. Until 2 weeks ago… I went to the place where he
works so I could invite him to go to a café or something so we could clarify
everything about his feelings for me and his religion because I really want to
move one and free myself from this, but I couldn’t ask it because his brother
and mother work there too, so we texted after that and I told him. He was very
kind and never got angry with me, he was very patient. But he was supposed to let
me free to move on and find a future for myself and he said that I should try
not to think about him, not in a way to forget him, because he thinks that’s
almost impossible (I never said that) but just because I need new thoughts. And
of course he denied my invitation for going somewhere to talk. But then he said
that when our young minds are not unstable anymore, in that time we could see
each other. I wasn’t expecting nothing like this… but I know a lot about Jehovah
witnesses and I now their rules about dating. I’m not a Jehovah witness, I’m
what they call a non-believer but I respect their religion and I respect this
boy a lot! The thing that is bothering me is that I don’t know his intentions
with inviting me when we are old enough to meet. I mean, he knows very well my
feelings, he knows this is giving me hope, but he never completely let me go,
our relationship never really ends. Due to all his rules, is he just trying to
just stay friends with me? But if it’s is just to remain friends why wait to
actually meet up and talk? I’ve been thinking a lot and is there any chance
that he his planning on giving me an opportunity when we are old enough to
marry? (It is funny because when we were young he asked me several times to
marry him and maybe it was because of his rules). I mean, he his a jehovah witness
but he is a good guy and very kind to me, he has a lot of rules about dating, I
think he saying that we could meet when we are mature enough, should mean
something. Can you give me some opinions? (Sorry for such a long post!).
Thank you!
P.S. I’m
not planning on converting for him if there is a chance for us to marry. I like
him the way he was and he know the way I am and he never tried already to
convert me. I know is hard but I just read some stories on people who could
actually make that work. I would like to try. I know I am young but he is
special and it’s not a crush at all. And he is a Jehovah witness since some
years ago, he hasn’t born in it and at least his father’s side family is not Jehovah
witnesses.
