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scratchme1010
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Kingdom Hall ... BURGER KING?
by sparky1 ini live in a very rural part of the northeastern united states.
after 9 years of waiting, the local witnesses are getting their new kingdom hall.
it is being built on a back road next to a sandpit.
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Are You Spending More Money This Year With The Economy Being Better?
by minimus ini see more people this year in an optimistic mood because of the economy.
will you be spending more money 💰 this year, or less or about the same as last year?.
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scratchme1010
I see more people this year in an optimistic mood because of the economy. Will you be spending more money 💰 this year, or less or about the same as last year?
I find that a very sad statement. Spend, spend, spend. That's a horrible mentality, if you ask me.
I'd rather ask "would you open an account to pay for your children's college?", "would you catch up with retirement savings now that you know that Armageddon isn't around the corner?" or "would you pay off your debts faster?"
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Very Lost
by Jrjw inhi i've been a jw for 12 years and got married 2 years ago.
i'm now separated.
my husband hid from me that he suffered from depression, extreme anxiety issues and a personality disorder.
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scratchme1010
Now I have to try to accept that i am going to be lonely for the rest of my life since I can't go into another relationship. Its so cruel that he lied to get me to marry him and I have to suffer coz of it. I'm only 34. I was so happy in the truth til I married him
First, sorry that you seem hurt. Has to be very difficult to be in a situation where you were mislead (somewhat, since at the end seems like he was right since you are separated, but that's besides the point).
Second, please know that this is not a forum for active JWs, so if you still are and active JW, and you don't mention anything about your standing with that organization, I hope that you accept our understanding and support keeping in mind that some of use have and want nothing to do with that organization.
That out of the way, I hope that you can put your pain aside and manage to see things from a more realistic way. Seems like your relationship with that man was your entire world, and seemingly that includes your own being a JW (You were happy in the truth until you married him?). I'm putting aside my own feelings and opinions for that organization, but why does your relationship with him gets in that way in your relationship with the god you worship?
My point is that it seems like you are giving that relationship too much power. Thinking the way JWs do, nothing is supposed to hinder your relationship with your Jehovah, and during hard times is when you are supposed to hold on to him, not the other way around.
I think that your JW training, and maybe your own upbringing may be promoting this all-or-nothing, black-and-white mentality that is very common in people who follow christian religions.
- Yes, he lied, he lied about MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES. As much as you are suffering, I'm not sure that you are being completely fair about his own suffering and self esteem right now, particularly since he lost you.
- I know that living with a person with a mental disability, knowing that person as such, is quite a monumental burden to carry, as much as you love that person. Entering a marriage without knowing has to be horrible. HOWEVER, him entering the marriage with the responsibility of disclosing that, knowing the risk of what he did, on top of having to deal with not one, not two, three mental health diagnoses, has to be quite horrible for himself.
Why am I talking about him and not you? Because you are acting like a perfect JW in your relationship. You are making it about "he lied to me", claiming that your own life (if you are a JW and your relationship with your Jehovah seems to be ending because of him, that means in JW-ese that your life is over, no paradise, no eternity, no nothing) is over because of him. For real? You think that a failed relationship completely destroyed your ability to form another one in the future, have a family, and even your own faith and your own chance of living forever? And all because he lied to you about a health condition (ok, three)?
I think that you are too hurt to realize that you are making a catastrophe out of a failed relationship. He does not have the power to destroy your life, you do.
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Repeal of Internet Neutrality. How will it affect surfers?
by Fisherman intoday the fcc voted against internet neutrality..
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Repeal of Internet Neutrality. How will it affect surfers?
by Fisherman intoday the fcc voted against internet neutrality..
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If Trump is Impeached...the alternative is Pence ...
by tor1500 init's me again...with the question, if trump is impeached, the alternative is pence....well, it's not really a question but your thoughts...... who is he ?
& where did they find him ?
thoughts..... tor.
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scratchme1010
Who is he ?
Some filthy tea partier.
Where did they find him ?
The tea party
Where did he come from?
The tea party
Thoughts....
He's a tea partier.
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Charismatic People
by Coded Logic ini was writing about a friend of mine.
i'm a little curious if anyone else knows people like this too.. if personal inquiries were bullets then you’re charisma would be the stuff of ceramic plates and kevlar vests.
i say that because most of these charismatic people i know use their charm to relate to other people.
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scratchme1010
Yes, I know people like that, and at times I have acted like that myself. I pull my charisma when it counts, though.
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Do you or did you experience too much intrusion into your personal life by the elders in your congregation?
by UnshackleTheChains ini ask this question because i have personally experienced first hand the control and intrusion into my personal life by the elders at our hall; and for virtually trivial things or non issues!
what's more, i regularly hear of individuals moving to other halls because they were stumbled by the thought police....er, i mean these elders.. have you had any such experience?
have your elders been a bit ott over trivialities?.
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scratchme1010
Do you or did you experience too much intrusion into your personal life by the elders in your congregation?
Many people don't like hearing the experiences that I had with elders from when I was a kid to when I faded. They were never good experiences. Pretty much everything that is wrong in the world to me was represented by the congregation elders I knew.
- isms - I met (not in any particular order) racists, classicists, misogynists, homophobic, xenophobes, and sizeists elders
- idiots with power - there were quite a few dumb ass elders who just had the intelligence of a potato chip. Some of those loved the attention they were getting and were abusing their power and their position.
- bullshitters - right out of the top of my head I heard a few ridiculous and downright stupid stories, like the one where one JW was preaching and got shot in the head and the bullet bounced, and similar bullshit.
- dirty politics - pretty much all the shit that we see happening in the conservative Republican congress in USA, at a minor scale, I lived in the congregations, the same political infighting and dysfunction.
- double lives - I have shared a few times that I got sexually involved with an elder who later was in the JC that formed to discuss "my" (read "their") problem with me being gay. I also knew of a couple of them with drinking problems, being wife beaters, child molesters and with gambling problems. I almost forgot, I know of an elder who was a cross-dresser.
- Mental health issues - now that I better understand certain things, I know that there were a few elders who were not all there. I can attest of at least one who in fact, ended under psychiatric treatment for grandiose delusions.
When it came to being intrusive, many just felt entitled to come in and out of people's personal matters without a problem, and expecting people being ok with that, feeling entitled to having a saying in people's personal lives.
Granted, at the end I was just doing whatever the fuck I wanted to do and that wasn't settling well with those repressed, jealous people, especially the elders. But I never saw and met any elder who was a good role model or honest. Of all the people in authority I knew as a JW, I can only talk about one CO who seemed genuinely loving and doing his job as a CO. One, out of 23 years of dealing with that organization.
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Crazy statements from JWTalk
by Jehovah lol ini'm sure many of you are aware of the jwtalk site, a message board which has yet to succumb to apostasy (give it time).. some of the forums there are visible to the public, and i've seen some crazy stuff.
here is a sampling:.
"satan is really trying his best to make things worst for the witnesses, knowing the 6,000 years is almost up, from eve's creation!".
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scratchme1010
Yeah, they are crazy, I don't need to read anything to know it already.
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Positive Topic - ‘Good Elders’ or Extra Special Kindness shown by elders
by Farmer Jim1 inafter the last topic getting me mad, does anyone have a positive experience of dealing with an elder or a particular favourite elder that was a top bloke?.
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scratchme1010
After the last topic getting me mad, does anyone have a positive experience of dealing with an elder or a particular favourite elder that was a top bloke?
No. The elders I knew were a bunch of dumb asses, abusive, disrespectful, narcissistic and/or homosexual closet cases. Sorry I can't help you feel positive.