Posts by scratchme1010

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Celebrations?

by Freedom rocks in

does anyone celebrate valentines day since leaving the borg?

and which other celebrations if any do you now take part in?.

scratchme1010

Does anyone celebrate valentines day since leaving the Borg?

And before leaving the borg too.

And which other celebrations if any do you now take part in?

Hump day and Taco Tuesday.

Joke aside, I celebrate holidays and pretty much everything I am invited to or everything I invite people to when I feel like celebrating. Having been raised a JW put me in a convenient position of not feeling pressured to celebrate when I don't feel like it. This year my Christmas was very mellow and involved close family only. Felt great. Some years I just check my email and go yo bed early. Some others I attend parties, and some years I throw a party.

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change.org: Please sign a petition to California State Legislators - Please Introduce Draft Bill to Reform Clergy Privilege

by AndersonsInfo in

https://www.change.org/p/california-state-legislators-please-introduce-draft-bill-to-reform-clergy-privilege?recruiter=855249424&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=share_email_responsive.

hon.

california state senators and assembly members please introduce draft bill (rn 1803892) to reform california's clergy "penitent communication" privilege statutes to align with appellate court decisions by february 16, 2018.. since 2018 is an election year, this bill will help voters become more informed about politicians' positions on changing societal and institutional cultures by reforming california statutes to prevent child abuse or child sexual abuse, or civil statute of limitation reform in california in 2019.. this bill is intended to increase public safety, prevent abuse survivors from being re-traumatized in religious disciplinary meetings, prevent religious leaders from using "undue influence" to manipulate individuals and discourage reporting of abuse and neglect, and reduce court costs passing judgment on overly broad interpretations of clergy "penitential communication" privilege that attempt to shield a religion or clergy from not fulfilling their duty to report abuse and neglect in california.. thank you,.

scratchme1010

I need more information on the matter. I'd decide if I support it and will sign if I do.

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How to start a Website?

by DATA-DOG in

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does anyone know the best way to start a website?

is wordpress good?

there’s going to be lots of things being sold on this site.

scratchme1010

Wordpress started as a blogging platform and has grown into a content management system, where you can add features as/if your site grows. The basics of WP can be developed by yourself, and it's free, but it's a learning curve if you don't have knowledge of the basics.

WIX is a company that helps you create simple websites (and more complex ones for a fee), and it's reliable. Look for what do you want to have in your site. Do you want a forum, galleries, are you going to be selling something? The responsible answer is always "depends", because it depends on what you want to do with your website.

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Trying to find the way out.

by Lost in the fog in

i was listening hotel california and thought the last verse could be applied to any high control group.. last thing i remember, i wasrunning for the doori had to find the passage back to the place i was before'relax' said the night man'we are programmed to receiveyou can check out any time you likebut you can never leave!.

at least you will now have a great song playing in your head all day.

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scratchme1010

Trying to find the way out.

Find this sign:

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I feel like I am going crazy at times ...

by CovertsadJW in

good evening , .

i feel like i am going crazy - it’s so hard not being able to talk to the ones i love about how i really feel - meaning the “ truth “ is a big lie and a big waste of time.

it’s so weird - i can’t talk to my wife , or kids about how i really feel and it’s causing me probalms that i recognize.

scratchme1010

...I am holding back as I know if I come clean I will loose so many people , family , etc, But I can’t take it too much longer - it’s already dragged on way too long. Thanks for listening - this is my only outlet. If someone has had a similar path please give me your thoughts...

Sorry you are going through all that. I know that people who are very family-centered (and you sound like that) have a harder time with their relationship with the loved ones. There aren't many easy answers, but just keep in mind that I'm sure that they care about you as much as you care about them. Don't underestimate how powerful that is. I hope your situation gets better for you.

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North and South Korea making up will start JWs saying the cry of Peace and Security is here

by Isambard Crater in

i can see it happening.... https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/feb/10/kim-yo-jong-meets-south-korean-president-in-seoul-as-thaw-continues.

scratchme1010

North and South Korea making up will start JWs saying the cry of Peace and Security is here

And...

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Stock market turmoil....

by mikeflood in

dow jones losing 1175 points today, equivalent to 4.60 % ..... same more or less around the world's stock exchanges.

it's like president bush said "wall street got drunk and now it's got a hangover".

i think people went irrational over investing, a correction is needed..

scratchme1010

Dow Jones losing 1175 points today, equivalent to 4.60 % ..... same more or less around the world's stock exchanges. It's like president Bush said "Wall Street got drunk and now it's got a hangover". I think people went irrational over investing, a correction is needed.

Personally I don't see a lot of meaning in that. That just happens all the time.

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New here...

by Jacobi in

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my name is jacobi, i am a born-in but mentally out for more or less a decade at this point (although it was cradual) and about 40yo.

i don't want to say a lot about my family, but it is a mix of going-through-the-motions, semi-actives (but mentally in), some who have left for a few reasons and one really depressed pioneer.

because people fade in and out i have managed to slide under the radar and i keep up apperances of not being all-out apostate but i completed my fade about years ago (it also helped i moved to another part of the country).. i might rub some of you the wrong way because of my views on different things like politics.. i am not a trump supporter at all and neither are most people in my country.

scratchme1010

I might rub some of you the wrong way because of my views on different things like politics.. I am not a Trump supporter at all and neither are most people in my country. In fact, I am pretty left-leaning . I also take a live-and-let-live view on the org; I think it is mostly bad, but some seem to need the stability it offers. I hope I am still welcome here

If you ask me, you're rubbing the right people the wrong way. Welcome.

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Eulogies

by redundantcartworker in

i recently attended a non jw funeral at a local church.

during the service, a couple of friends/relatives of the deceased eloquently spoke for a few minutes about the deceased with some of their fond memories and gave heartfelt, respectful tributes.. would i ( a non jw) be given a few minutes to speak at either of my jw parents funerals at the kingdom hall ?.

i guess i already know the answer, but if the answer is "no", then why not and how would they hide the heartlessness of refusing ?

scratchme1010

About the OP, what I experienced with the JWs is that they use funerals and people's loss as a way to preach, proselytize and push their agenda. I attended quite a few JW funerals and all of them were about preaching to non-JW relatives about the "opportunity" of seeing their loved ones again and all that paradise nonsense.

I never experienced any JW trying to provide true comfort to the loved ones of the diseased person, not even acknowledging the pain and loss of them. It's all about them seizing the opportunity to talk about their resurrection, and their paradise, and living forever and you know the rest.

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Wives With Unbelieving Mates

by minimus in

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i knew many witness wives with unbelieving mates who pretty much led a double life.

“my husband says i have to go the workplace christmas party.” or my mate tells me i have to make a thanksgiving dinnner.

or “ my mate insists i do things in the bedroom that i know the watchtower has talked against.

scratchme1010

Some of these people had their cake and were eating it too.....and good for them!

Not really. Living any kind of double life is not fun, and it hurts people who live it and those around them. They are living a lie in both sides, if you ask me.