I think that the policy of appealing may be some kind of legal thing to cover their butts.
One of my sisters got Dfed and she wanted to appeal because she was interested in maintaining some sort of relationship with our family. I don't think that's the case now, though.
I illustrated to her what being disfellowhipped means to me by showing her an episode of the Golden girls where one of them got kicked out of an unauthorized "Hunk-a Hunk-a Burnin' Love" Elvis Presley fan club, after making fun of them worshiping a partially eaten pork chop that Elvis Presley ate. They were admiring his teeth marks.
She said, sarcastically "I've just been thrown out of an unauthorized Elvis fan club. I'll try to pick up the pieces and go on with my life. There must be a support group for people like me." That's how I feel. The WT organization to me makes as much sense as a group that worships a partially eaten pork chop. Getting kicked out of it is a batch of honor to me. I want to be rejected by them.