I'm feel sorry for those current active JWs who are starting to see and feel what they are really all about.
scratchme1010
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A new way to boost hours
by neat blue dog init seems that metro witnesses have beeen directed to now have a total of 5 people at each location, as well as 'encouraged' to witness on their lunch breaks, (thus being able to count their time all the way through).
these 2 things should help boost the yearly hours..
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US vs THEM
by Anders Andersen ini still remember that feeling.
thank god it's gone for good.
i used to be part of us witnesses.
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scratchme1010
For a drunk non-poet that was fabulous. Great. Hope the hangover isn't too much.
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I think the CO just knocked on my door.
by schnell ini can't be too sure, because i didn't answer, but my mother had called me this morning and said this week is our co visit.. it's been a while since i last had elders at my door.
last time that happened, i posted about it, so it was only a few months.. i really don't want to talk with them.
is there a chance i'll be announced as "no longer one of..." after he's left if i don't?.
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A loss is a loss. If I opened my mouth to talk about the weather, they probably wouldn't listen to me now. Naturally, I'm trying to fill that void in other areas (online, at work, etc.). Is that unfinished business? Oh, it's just a set-up for a future adventure, whatever that may be.
In my probably unwanted, unasked-for opinion, sounds more like part of the process of reducing their influence to the minimum. That's not unfinished business. If there's no need for you to communicate and can let them go, considering that the conversation with them that many of us would love to have will never happen, doesn't seem like unfinished business.
I felt the same way when I started going to college and I'd hear people talking about the clubs they belonged to in high school the extracurricular activities they were involved in, the number of experiences that they all had that i never did. Looks exactly like what you describe about your friends that you departed from.
A few decades later now, looking back I realized two important things: (1) When I started taking a closer look at the realities of many of those people, not everything was great and fun. There were social pressures, family issues and a number of things that were not as great as they claimed their lives were, and (2) Most importantly, I now have a history with new friends, new experiences and pretty much an entire life that I now have after leaving.
How we move on and what we do really can help create an entire new wealth of good people and experiences.
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I think the CO just knocked on my door.
by schnell ini can't be too sure, because i didn't answer, but my mother had called me this morning and said this week is our co visit.. it's been a while since i last had elders at my door.
last time that happened, i posted about it, so it was only a few months.. i really don't want to talk with them.
is there a chance i'll be announced as "no longer one of..." after he's left if i don't?.
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I really don't want to talk with them. Is there a chance I'll be announced as "no longer one of..." after he's left if I don't?
I think you shouldn't either way. The WT has no power or authority over you. None.By now I'm quite sure you have to be aware that their efforts to reach out to you have nothing to do with your well being. They may just want to check the box, or as many of them, they just want to have the last saying. They hate hate hate people leaving and cutting ties with them in their own terms.
Well, that is the rational part. However, I'd like to ask you, do you feel that there are unfinished business between you and them? I ask because on one hand you are not answering the door, but on the other you are mentioning things you'd like to tell them.
I know that as we build confidence and a life outside the WT we become less and less interested in whatever they have to say, so I guess I'm asking where do you feel you are in relationship to them as of now? I think that matters since the degree of attachment (or detachment) does affect your reaction to them.
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What if Fred Franz had never existed?
by Magnum inwhat if fred franz had never existed?.
those of you who weren’t around in the days when he was the oracle of jwdom or who at least aren’t familiar with the deeper publications he was responsible for probably won’t be able to comprehend the significance of the question.
i believe he influenced jwdom greatly, and the whole feel of jwdom would have been different without him.. during the 60’s, 70’s, & 80’s (not sure about 50’s), he was considered to be almost superhuman by some (a lot?
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But what would it have been like if Franz had never existed? What would the 60’s, 70’s, & 80’s have been like? What would the literature have been like? Would there have ever been a New World Translation? What about doctrine? I assume there would not have been a 1975 debacle. Would JWdom have had the momentum that it did in that period if Franz hadn’t been in the picture? What would have been the look and feel without him?
So many possibilities. I tend not to indulge myself in this hypothetical scenarios as they are, well unreal and pure speculation, but in this case I'll speculate that we just don't know. As Finkelstein points out, Franz was just one of the many BS-ers around. There's no way to know is things will be different, the same, better or worse.
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Witness weddings
by dothemath inrecently went to a witness wedding, and after the vows the bride and groom were introduced as "brother and sister".....(then last name).....(then the big kiss).
this is likely not unusual (i've heard it before), but with lots of "worldly" people in attendance it seems out of place to me.. i was just wondering if that's the way it is most places?.
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I was just wondering if that's the way it is most places?
I never saw that in the KHs I grew up, but that may be due to cultural differences. In my culture they don't get introduced that way.
That said, it is a cult. As such they will use every single opportunity to push their agenda. Look at how they use funerals to preach to people who are mourning.
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Flip Flops to Nowhere
by Lostandfound inhow long until wt has flip flopped its way back to anything of the faith many of us knew?
who are the now dead ones giving evidence of their non captivity to babylon etc?
i would not recognise what goes on in a kh now and i was in since 60s when we had firm beliefs, now being eroded little by little.
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Or is this a plan to constantly adjust things to keep faithful busy so constant money fraud can continue in new circumstances.
You got it.
Yes, i remember the books from the 60's and 70's and how it used to be. Personally I don't see the changes as anything outrageous. What I see is an overreaction to the changes based on the fact that people have been indoctrinated and brainwashed to accept and believe everything and anything that comes from them. It's obvious that they have always been about their own interest and never about their people, but that's only evident to those who are well aware of how it used to be.
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What did you regrettably not do because you were a Jehovah's Witness ?
by minimus injehovah's witnesses cannot do a lot of things.
i remember pioneers having to quit their jobs because they could not work in a convenience store and sell cigarettes.
i know of a young man who was offered a scholarship to any college or university if he wanted to go to because of his football abilities.
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What have you given up because of being a JW??
Getting my father arrested.
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Internally rolling my eyes.. Get this
by raven ina bit of an update, last weekend was my great grandmothers funeral, now, she was never a jw, and never was going to be, no matter how hard my mother, and grandmother tried to preach to her, she was the type of person that would kindly accept a wt or a book, but she wouldn't bother reading them.. anyways, she was a great wonderful and inspiring woman, the funeral was extremely sad, she had been a school teacher for over 35 years and a member of various clubs, so there were a lot of folks besides family that attended.. well, anyways i was there and so was my jw mother, stepfather, and grandmother, we were cordial, didn't talk about anything jw related because, it was great grandmothers funeral, not really a time to discuss how i am an evil sinner, or how i've escaped the org by avoiding df'ing, right?
wrong, as i'm sitting waiting for the service to begin, a lady shows up, now- i have known this woman for a long time, apparently she baby sat me as a small child, (like i remember?
) so she isn't someone i was ever close with, but knew of her or when she was around would say hi to and make small talk.. to give you a tid-bit on her personality though, she is one of those crazy jw's.. she claims to have been possessed by a demon, very very wacky on the prophesies, or gb talks, etc.
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scratchme1010
...as I am standing there in complete disbelief, this lady seriously has the guts to pull this crap at my great-grandmothers FUNERAL?..
First, my condolences. Seems like you will be missing your grandma. Maybe you have some of her in you. Second, I'm so sorry that your mourning got so disgustingly interrupted by all that nonsense. Feel proud, though, that you handled yourself with grace.
Many JWs truly believe that preaching to people in mourning is supposed to make them think that they can see the person they are mourning again in their stupid "paradise on Earth". I consider what they do at funerals to be the most disgusting, truly irresponsible, tasteless, classless action.
I'm so sorry you went through that. Again, my condolences.
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No Longer a JW Expert But Starting to Figure Out Life
by AllTimeJeff inconsider this an update for those that remember me here.... when i left in 2006, it started a 10 year journey into a new phase.
no more "safety".
some people want to be their own person.
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...I don't have a whole lot to offer on what the current teachings are from the deluded idiots running the place. But I do have some years of healing and growing. I will try to share if it seems appropriate.
Peace and love to you all.
I find this part of your post precious. Thank you for sharing and caring for the ones still in.