Congratulations and big hug! All of us know how hard it is, and some of us don't even make it through. I'm very happy for you.
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Are you better off as a worldly person or a JW?
by Jules Saturn ini was having a conversation with a relative who has been inactive for several decades (part of the ‘75 generation) and he argued that a person that is a born in is better off staying in the organization rather than someone like him who lived as a “worldly” person but then became a witness later in life.
he argues that when you’re born in, all you know nothing outside of the organization, so you’re better off in than out, that’s why when born ins leave the org, they always come back.
i agree that as a born in, your social circle is composed of witnesses but i do feel that even born ins would be happier outside of the org than being in.
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He argues that when you’re born in, all you know nothing outside of the organization, so you’re better off in than out, that’s why when born ins leave the org, they always come back.
What a load of crap. I am living proof of:
1. That's not true, don;t need to go over details of how much better my life became after I left
2. How they claim to know what people are supposed to be or bacome if they leave
3. How stupidly naive some JWs can be
My life as a born in JW was horrible. No question about it. My worst day as a worldly person is better than my nest day as a JW, and now I have quite a history to vouch for it.
Stating that is more stupid lame attempts at mistreating and controlling born ins. Top notch bullshit.
But they are missing the most important point: Nothing bad that happens to people outside the WT has anything to do with their Jehovah crap. Even if the life of a born in turns out horrible, if anything, they have responsibility for telling their loved one to shun them.
They are a bad organization, made of lower level literacy nobodies pretending to be somebodies. Whatever bad thing happens to people doesn't change that fact.
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The right to record your judicial committee meeting
by UnshackleTheChains inok.. we have often heard secret recordings online of jc hearings.
but, what i would like to know is if individuals are entitled to the right of officially recording their judicial hearings?.
supposing i was to attend a judicial committee and i explained up front that i would like to record the proceedings and then place a dictaphone on the table.
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I would like to know is if individuals are entitled to the right of officially recording their Judicial hearings?
I know that in my city is not legal to record the meeting without them knowing and consent. It may be different in other places, as it's a local city ordinance.
You can do whatever the law allows you. As much as they claim that they are above that, it's made up bullshit. Your rights don't disappear just because they say so.
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Episode Ten - DJ is shunned by Jehovah's Witnesses - Is Live Now!
by dubstepped inafter taking march off because our 18th wedding anniversary coincided with when i normally release an episode, and after releasing so much with david's story in february (which i even updated in march), i'm back with a new episode of the "shunned" podcast.
here is the summary, taken from shunnedpodcast.com/episodes.
it is available on itunes (apple podcasts), google play, or wherever you get your podcasts from:.
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Thanks!
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Why do so many that leave wind up coming back?!
by nowwhat? ini have seen so many that have left.
and their life turned into a dumpster fire.
most do not live the average life of living in suburbs, raising a family.
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I have seen so many that have left. And their life turned into a dumpster fire. Most do not live the average life of living in suburbs, raising a family. And such. And then the organization uses such ones as examples of what happens when you leave Jehovah. Thoughts?
What some people don't seem to realize is that not only the WT brainwashes people to control their lives as JWs, but also convince them of what they claim awaits them if they leave. Some JWs, especially those who get disfellowshipped or leave abruptly for any other reasons, don't prepare themselves for their lives outside.
They don't limit their indoctrination to how their lives as JWs should be, they also teach that if you leave, you are supposed to be this, become that, or this will happen to you.
Furthermore, some people end up joining religious organizations and/or cults precisely because they lack the life skills to negotiate with their own lives, hence, expect their god to make things right for them and take care of them. When they find themselves without the cushion of religion, they don't know what to do with their own selves or their lives.
Not everybody can face the ugly things in life and have the skills to properly cope and have a sense of making it on their own.
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Why are Humans so Obsessed with trying to find Meaning in Ancient Writings that they waste their life on and are willing to die for ?
by smiddy3 inwhen you stop and think about it , isn`t it just plain crazy ?
ludicrous even ?
to live your life on texts centuries old and are willing to die upholding those beliefs ?.
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Why are Humans so Obsessed with trying to find Meaning in Ancient Writings that they waste their life on and are willing to die for ?
I'd restate that like this: "Why are SOME Humans so Obsessed with trying to find Meaning in Ancient Writings that they waste their life on and are willing to die for ?"
I can't care less and can give you a list of many others who don't care either.
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I want to talk with other people
by Sammy12 ini want to talk with people who are witnesses.
i’m 17f and wanting some company.
get in contact with me please.
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I want to talk with people who are witnesses. I’m 17f and wanting some company. Get in contact with me please.
Join the Jehovah's Witnesses. If you mean "I want to talk with people who were or aren't witnesses" then welcome, you are in the right place.
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The twisting and manipulations of the scriptures used by the WTBTS
by RULES & REGULATIONS inthe watchtower society has always been headed by narcissistic control freaks.
scriptures as a front for their human agendas ( have the power so they can control its members ).
they twist and manipulate scriptures to fit it in with their ideas and controlling ways.
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You might not notice this, but the same applies to pretty much every organization that uses the Bible. That book can be used and interpreted in any way you want; you can use it to prove pretty much anything you want.
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How do you deal with the loneliness after leaving?
by Whynot ini'm having one of those days where i feel lonely and wish i had someone to just hang out with.
my husband got disfellowshipped 3 years ago and even though i didn't do anything wrong i was pushed away.
my so called "friends" decided to avoid me.
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I was raised to fear anyone who is not a jw. I hate it! How do you deal with these horrible feelings? There is a co-worker that wants to hangout and I would really like to. How do I push this endoctrination out of my head that it's not fine to be friends with someone who is not a JW? I feel like a big mess bleh.
I'm so sorry you are feeling like that. It's a very undeserving treatment what they gave you.
I don't feel comfortable giving you advice, but I can suggest that if you feel that your JW hangups are precluding you from moving on, especially from socializing, there are healthy ways of dealing with it. There's professional help if you feel the problem is something you cannot solve on your own (counseling, therapy, support groups, reliable self-help information from reputable sources to name a few). There's you just taking baby steps to feel comfortable out "in the world". As opposed to the black and white mentality that the JWs promote, you don't have to be extreme (neither a loyal inseparable absolute best friend, nor totally isolated from everybody).
I didn't have problems making friends, probably because I prepared and faded, I was not pushed out. That gave me the opportunity to start making friends and building support outside as I was preparing to leave. I went to college, did volunteer work, activism, and joined groups and people I like.
It may be different if you still feel that the WT's preachings are true. In my case I couldn't care less, and once I stop believing in the Jehovah crap, I couldn't care less about being friends with the JWs I knew then. That was motivation for me to look for support outside.
There isn't one way of getting a better social life, but a good starting point for me was to get rid of the WT influence as much as possible.
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Update jws hate jw book
by Catcat inhi this is my second post this time i won't mention any names or the book cos last time people complained that i was promoting this book.
so any away in my last post i wrote that i was afraid if someone in my family will find out that i was reading this book where an ex jw is negative about the organisation.
but everything is ok. a sister has read the book and told everyone how disgusted and offended she is by it.
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A sister has read the book and told everyone how disgusted and offended she is by it.
So everything is ok as long as you say something negative about it.
Reminds me of this pervert in the congregation that always made comments about sexual things, always very graphic in his remarks, but they were ok because he was talking about how "putrid" this system and their people are, and how much they deserve to be destroyed.