@Jwgonebad...
Sorry to hear that elders are after you ! Hope you can get out smoothly. The elders think they own each of the sheep. They dont listen to reason ! Hell they dont even give people a free will to choose, change their mind after dedication, as if we owe them anything. To god we made the dedication not to them dingbats!
Hang on in there buddy and I hope you come out of it victorious!
Zing