I wouldn’t want to feed into their persecution complex by disrupting their memorial, nor did I join it, (my mom asked). I had something better to do, attend my granddaughter’s birthday party. And I don’t want to add to their numbers.
I feel that, if they have high numbers of memorial attendees, they think they can point to that as “evidence of gods blessing”. I think there’s an unspoken component, too. If 20 million attend this stupid ritual, that means 20 million believe it’s the “truth”. When they don’t.