Teejay, take your herbal stress pills and a deep breath.
Ok, one point at a time. (without addressing whether there's a difference in Afghanistan and Saudi Arabian policy).
So your point is that if the military policy is to conform to native customs...then if the men wear native dress, the women should too. She is in the military, she agrees to abide by the rules. I agree with that, however I do not think it is that simple.
If the American men wear native dress, are they not viewed with respect by the natives? I would answer YES...perhaps it could be argued that they would be viewed with MORE respect than if they wore their American clothes.
Now if the American woman wears native dress, can it be said that SHE is viewed with respect by the natives? HARDLY! As a matter of fact, she is viewed with contempt. So I'm afraid that it is a gender issue Teejay, but it's not her fault that women are viewed that way by those native men. And I can't blame her for not wanting to be subjugated to that.
think41self
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