Posts by Tinkerbell4125

Mulan, I didn't mean for my post to sound like I was attacking you. I just wanted you to realize what your posted sounded like to me. So many times I have been shamed because of what my dad did. People telling me to *get over it*. People telling me not to bring it up because it will make people uncomfortable. People saying he's going to hell because of what he did. I realize this is a touchie subject and maybe I'm alittle sensitive when it comes to this subject.

I'm sorry for blasting you. Forgive me?

Joel, I'm glad you're feeling better. I'm glad that you came here and reached out to us. The borg. has done a number on all of us. I know it played a part in my dad's suicide. We can't let those bastards win!

I've had many moments of what I call a *dark time*, but the one thing that I have learned, is that it always passes. Things always change and even though this may be a tough period, there will be better days. Find a specialist to talk to about what you're dealing with. Get out of the house, even if it's to take a short walk. It does help. Be kind to yourself and never forget you have friends that love you very much here, k?

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Suicide ends pain for many

by joelbear in

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doctors have began prescribing suicide as a way out of pain saying that this medical avenue should have been recommended many more times in the past.

Tinkerbell4125

Mulan, why is this not the place to talk about this? Lord knows we talk about everything else here. It wasn't easy talking about my fathers suicide, but I felt it was important for Joel to hear all the aspects of it. The hard truth of what suicide entails and how ugly it is, letting him know that there are other options, that there is help out there. It's the attitude of yourself that shame survivors of suicide. If we can't discuss it here, then where and when can we discuss it? When is it ever a good time to discuss it? Would it be appropreiate to talk about my mothers cancer here? Would that be okay? Is it okay to talk about sexual abuse here? Is that okay? When is going to be okay for people to talk about depression and mental illness? When is it going to be okay for someone to discuss their pain of losing someone to suicide? Like I said in my other post. It's a grief that you grieve alone....and it's because people like you make such statements that make us feel ashamed. Believe me, we have enough pain and shame with what we've endured. We don't need extra dumped on us. Just something for you to think about.

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Suicide ends pain for many

by joelbear in

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doctors have began prescribing suicide as a way out of pain saying that this medical avenue should have been recommended many more times in the past.

Tinkerbell4125

Good post TR.

Help is out there Joel, but you have to swallow alittle humility and ask for it.

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Bad Day in White Rock

by Big Tex in

the little boy was very excited.

finally it was saturday!

he leaped out of his bed and went to the worn and battered dresser next to his bed to look again at the simple invitation carefully placed on top.

Tinkerbell4125

Big Tex, that was so sad!!!!!!

Thanks for sharing that. Makes you think about the way you should treat others, doesn't it!!!!

What did it mean when it said that he raced off into the thousand year light? Did he die? I'm sorry, I didn't get that part of it. Or did it mean that he pushed forward in life? I guess I'm alittle slow this morning!

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